Abraham on (Sexual) Choices, Morality, and Greater Perspective

Abraham-Hicks,  02-07-98

Abraham: Is one desire better than another?
No.

Who gets to choose?
You do.

Can you make one choice now and another choice later?
Absolutely.

Is it likely that your choices will continue to change and evolve?
Yes.

Is there somebody watching you and keeping score of what you choose? 
No.

Will there be punishment if you accidentally make the wrong choice? 
No.

In other words, the punishment -- there is not anything offered like that -- but the suffering that you see as punishment is nothing greater than the negative emotion that you feel in any moment as you're disallowing your true self to flow through you. That's as bad as it gets. That guilt or anger or blame or frustration or depression that you feel because you're choosing thoughts that aren't in vibrational harmony with who you are? That's as bad as it gets.

So is there a great law that says monogamy is more spiritual than having many sexual partners? 
No. There is no such law.

Are there people who would be more joyful in monogamy? 
Absolutely.

Are there people who would be more joyful eating frog legs? 
Absolutely.

Who gets to choose? 
You do.

How do you know if you're making the right choice? 
You can feel it.

Will your choices evolve? 
Absolutely.

Can you make wrong choices? 
No.

Will other people agree? 
Never.

Are you going to be able to stand on your head in enough different ways to please them? 
No.

Any one of them? 
No.

Is that your job? 
No.

Then what is your job? 
To feel good.

What does that mean? 
Seek harmony with Who You Are.

Does that mean that the God Within Me wants me to have lots of sexual partners? 
No.

That means that the god within you wants you to find harmony between your desire and your belief. In other words, that energy wants you to create a clear path for it to flow. And you can't do that by saying, "That's wrong," because every time you see something is wrong you stop the flow.

Does that mean you have to embrace all things? 
No. 


It just means you must stop pushing against those things that you don't want to include because every time you push against them, you don't stop them, you include them, and now you're out of sync again and you say "it's your fault, you evil perpetrators of sin and violence and crime. If you would stop being so bad, I'd feel better." And we say that's true, but that's never going to happen. You must allow them to be that which they are while you selectively sift that which lines up your energy. And when you're in alignment with your source, all things are possible.


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SHOULD WE PERSIST IN WANTING OUR WANTS?

Abraham - Phoenix, AZ - 2/19/00

Guest: I'm looking for tools to have better clarity quicker. Often, because I know that it's better to have nothing in my life in a certain area than to be doing something that I'm not interested in, I'll clear the decks and I'll see a Stick (subject) and it'll interest me. I'll pick it up and I'll run with it for awhile, and then it's no longer interesting to me. It's no longer bringing me positive thoughts. So I'll drop it. Then I'll go on and pick the next Stick up. And so, would it be in my better interest to stick with that one Stick (subject) and work with letting go of negative thoughts?

"Clearing the Deck" Eliminates Your Launching Pad

Abraham: Maybe, or to carry more sticks at the same time. In other words, a very fun and effective tool is, let's say you are feeling unfulfilled about something, and so you imagine doing something different. And even though the idea of it isn't a very strong idea, you still go with it just to see what it will give you. You just play it out: Pretend it either way. Pretend that you are doing it, and then pretend that you don't do it. And often, out of that will be born another idea, or another idea, or another idea.

But most of you are accustomed to responding to the reality that you are living -- and so, you are having knee-jerk responses to what already is. You said, "often I find it's better to just clear the deck." So it's sort of like wiping away your launching pad. It is often more beneficial to stand right where you are, even if it's in a place that you don't want to be, so much, and let the contrast net you a really good rocket of desire.

Any subject that you take, if you will run with it long enough, it will do one of two things: It will either produce more clarity of what is wanted, or more clarity of what is not wanted. It will stir something up. And in either way you win, because all genius is, is attention to a subject. So if you get hold of something, and you really focus on it, the Universe is going to give you more information about it.

What often happens, though, is that you're sort of running in two directions with it. You're going with it because you don't know what else to do, but you're not enjoying it fully. And so, you're fanning both ends of that "Stick," which gives you the feeling that you're standing still, until finally it just becomes unpleasant, and then you just put the "Stick" down.

Don't spend much time doing anything that isn't feeling really, really good. If it doesn't get to feeling good, pretty darn fast, then leave it and reach for another.


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