New Year's Resolutions the Abe Way

Extract from p. 2 of the Abraham-Hicks newsletter Jan/Feb/Mar 1999.

ESTHER: Abraham, How do you feel about New Year's Resolutions? And how would you approach a New Year's Resolution if you were in our physical shoes.

ABRAHAM: They are a wonderful idea. They fall into the same category as Segment Intending or Positive Expectations or Deliberate Creation. Most New Year's Resolutions, like any new decisions, are made from a rather clear awareness of what you do not want or of what has not gone well, and so, in order to set your New Year's Resolutions into motion with enough momentum to keep them going, it is necessary to spend some time lining up your energy with your new decision. Many people make resolutions, and often by the first or second day of the new year they have gone back to their old habits, and then they feel discouraged. Every day provides a wonderful opportunity to set forth your clear intentions. You do not have to wait for a new calendar year.

Find a comfortable place where you will not be interrupted by. Write at the top of your notebook page:

My Dominant Intentions

Then write four sub-headings:

1. My Current Intentions Regarding My Body

2. My Relationships

3. My Home

4. My Work

Then, write a general description of how you want to feel and be, regarding each of the four categories. Be general and easy. Let these words come easily from you.

Now, go back to the first category, focus on the topic, and sit back, relax, and daydream about this. Imagine your body looking just as you would like it to look. See it in your mind's eye. Try to imagine how that beautiful body would feel. Move it, in your imagination. Take it for a walk, dress it in something that pleases you. Appreciate it's stamina and flexibility and clarity. Spend as much time daydreaming about this wonderful physical vehicle as you can. Stay in your vision until you feel refreshed, and continue to be there as long as you can.

Now, go to the second category, and do the same thing. Bring an image of the most significant person in your life experience and see that person with you. Feel appreciation for that person. Mentally speak your appreciation. Imagine that person loving you back. Praising you, and complimenting you. Feel your mutual appreciation and admiration. Stay within the vision until you feel refreshed.

Now, go to the third category, and feel appreciation for your home. Make mental pictures of your home as you want it to be. See it orderly, if you desire that, and beautifully furnished, if you desire that. In an easy and carefree manner, imagine it however you would like it to be. Take pleasure from your vision and stay there until you feel refreshed.

Now, go to the fourth page, and gather a mental picture of your work. Feel appreciation for the excuse it gives you to flow energy toward something. Acknowledge how expansive it is, and feel appreciation for its ever changing nature. See yourself expanding and thriving. Stay there until you are refreshed.

There is no right or wrong way to approach this. The thing that is important is that you choose areas of your life that matter most and that you conjure positive images that thrill you. And as you do that, you have not only resolved, in your own mind, how your New Year will be, but you have notified everyone and everything in the entire Universe and you have solicited their assistance in achieving your intentions. And from that moment forward – the entire Universe will conspire to assist you.

© Abraham-Hicks Publications

Joy is Normal.

Abraham-Hicks G-7-6-95

Abraham: Most of you feel resistance and think it's normal, and we want you to know it's not - it's not normal. It's ABNORMAL. It is not anything like who you are.

What is normal to you is enthusiasm!

What is normal to you is laughing a lot - many many times a day!

What is normal to you is feeling strong and secure!

What is normal to you is feeling so much self-confidence, so sure about who you are that when you look at others you're always in a position to uplift them.

What is normal to you is to have so much energy that at the end of the day you're still looking for things to do!

What is normal to you is to have such a passion for life that you're eager to get together with other people to hear about what they're doing to see if it's anything you might want to turn a little of your attention to.

What is normal to you is to have so much energy at the end of the day that you're already eagerly planning tomorrow.

What is normal to you is feeling disappointed that the sun goes down and enthusiastic that the sun comes up.

What is normal is a zest for life beyond anything that most of you ever have remembered or felt in a long long time.

THAT'S what's normal!

Nobody Is Answering Your Prayer

Guest: I still don't know why you prayer or why people would answer your prayers though.

Abraham: Nobody is answering your prayer. Your prayer causes you to focus, and Law of Attraction causes everything in the Universe that's in vibrational harmony with your focus to come to you. So the prayer is answered by your vibration. Nothing outside of you is answering it. It is the purity of your vibration that causes it to come. That's why we say no one can deny you or grant you anything. It all comes to you by virtue of your vibration.

But it is helpful, for some, to believe that there...iow, to focus on this nebulous energy is a little less satisfying in the beginning, than to believe...

In other words, physical beings keep saying, "I want to be good just tell me what to do."

But if somebody gets too busy telling you what to do, you begin to feel lack of freedom, you see. And so there is no ONE answering your prayer, it is the Universe and its vibrational affinity by Law of Attraction that causes the response. But we have to say, that All-That-Isness that is responding to your vibration _is_ that which you call God.

© Abraham Hicks Publications

To Better See the Solution, Minimize the Problem

Seth: The Personal Sessions, Book 4, Session 08/14/78, pgs 332-334.

(Hat tip to Ric of Seth Practicing Idealists.)

Seth: Your whole civilization is immersed with the idea that the way to solve a problem --any problem, private or worldwide-- is to exaggerate it, see its worst projection; and this, then, is supposed to make you take proper action.

The approach unfortunately solves no problems, and only compounds them, whether the nation is trying to solve problems of energy, or social problems, or whether an individual is try to overcome a dilemma.

You are so immersed in that method of problem solving, however, that it comes back to haunt you. At least you can be aware of it and alert.

I will give you the answers to your questions, but they are not the way to solve your problem--and against all conventional knowledge, reviewing the mistakes of the past does not lead to wisdom.

When you become so worried, of course, you concentrate even further on the problem--how bad it is, and what will happen if it becomes worse in the future.

The problem is, therefore, compounded to whatever degree--and when I give you both such reasons, then sometimes you use them, the two of you, to ADD TO your private and joint self-disapproval.

(snip)

The belief is that if you frighten yourself badly enough through imagined projections and imagination, you will be frightened enough to change--but the nation or the individual following that method does not change for the better, but compounds the original condition, concentrates upon it until it looms larger than before.

Such methods cause panic, national or individual.

(snip)

To solve a problem you begin to minimize its characteristics, diminish its importance, rob it of your attention, refuse it your energy.

The method is the opposite, of course, of what you are taught.

That is why it seems to be so impractical. I have said this so many times--and I do realize it is difficult for you--but you cannot concentrate upon two things at once. So to the extent that you concentrate upon your pleasures, your accomplishments, and to the extent that you relate to the PSYCHIC AND BIOLOGICAL MOMENT, you are refreshing yourselves.

You are not projecting negatively, and you are allowing the problem to un-wrinkle, un-knot.

You are denying it the energy of your attention that keeps it going.

You do not spend time thinking that you have not used your abilities properly. You take it for granted that you ARE using them properly, and that allows them to fully develop.

© Laurel Butts

In Love = In the Vortex

Abraham- Los Angeles, CA 09/06/09 (Hat tip to David on Yahoo Groups.)

Guest: My wife says I'm "different".... We're each other's best friend, we do love each other, but she's just not 'in love' with me anymore. Something has shifted and I don't know what.

Abraham: That "in love" thing is not what people think it is. First of all, no one is ever 'in love', unless they're in the Vortex. Never. Because in the Vortex is connected with Source.

So what happens is, you're young, you're more carefree, or you're distracted from stuff that's bothering you, by each other, so you inspire each other into the Vortex. "Ahh! Aha!" You're in the Vortex and you're looking at each other, and there's all that physical good stuff. And there you are in the Vortex, in the Vortex, in the Vortex, "In Love, In Love, In Love."

And then, you step into life, and you're out of the Vortex and you say, "You don't love me anymore, I don't feel the same way." And we say, it has nothing to do with THEM, it has to do with whether you're in the Vortex or out of the Vortex, in the Vortex or out of the Vortex.

That feeling of 'in love' is that feeling of 'in alignment' as you hold someone as the positive object of attention, you see.

© Abraham-Hicks Publications

Religion's Catch-22

Continued from "What to Say to Suicidal or Troubled Teens."

Abraham, Mexican Cruise, 2/2009

Guest: But then the Buddhists have this kind of almost guilt trip that says that if you do commit suicide then you set yourself back many many many lifetimes. That's what spawned my thought as you were talking previously.

Abraham: Well, there are many people who teach that in their effort at controlling the behavior of others. Isn't that the ultimate control or grip around your neck? Your life is miserable. (It's like being at Guantanamo.) You're miserable, but we won't let you die. IOW it's the same sort of trying to control.

People say, "if you want to be part of our religion then you have to keep these rules."

And you say, "Well those people are thriving and they're not keeping the rule."

"Oh, we forgot to tell you, you don't get to know whether you've kept the rule or not until after you die. And here's the list of rules that you'll be punished for after you die."

And so then so many people are just scrambling around trying to figure it out. And we say, how do you ever let someone outside of you, and some set of rules outside of you, be louder and clearer and stronger than your own Guidance that is being offered to you from Source. In other words, Source Loves You.

The thing that you, you and we (it's the work that we do)...we want to help them to understand there's not a Dark Switch.

© Abraham-Hicks Publications

What to say to Suicidal or Troubled Teens

Abraham, Mexican Cruise, 2/2009

(Abe counsels the counselor on what to say to troubled teens.)

Abraham: It's easier to no longer try to modify my behavior to please the unpleasable. I reached somewhere else. I found out I was looking for love in all the wrong places (tell them). I was looking for love in all the wrong places.

And you'll find it in the death experience (say to them), you will. You'll find that love you're looking for in the death experience, and I think that's why it is appealing to you, but I don't think you should have to die to find the love. I think that it's available to you, but you're just tuned to a different frequency.

And hey, I can see how you got tuned to that different frequency. I can see how you got tuned out of alignment. I've been hearing your stories. I've met your parents. I get it. I get why it's hard for you. But I have a sense about you that you didn't come here wanting an easy way. And then, give some other analogies that...

Guest: And so that brings up the bigger subject then of self-love as we talk about being able to love ourself enough to be in our own vortex enough of the time, or all of the time, or most of the time, as opposed to being out and focusing on other people...

Abraham: But stop there for just a moment. Hold that thought. We really want you to come back around to it. But think about it in the context of what we just said. If you could say to them: I think, friend, that you are mastering or on the verge of such self-love that you've figured out that that might be a way that you can totally reemerge into the total love of self.

Guest: Mmm. Wow.

Abraham: But say to them, "There are easier ways. And disregarding the peanut gallery really is one of them, even though it doesn't seem like it, but I'll teach you how (say to them). I'll teach you how. I'll teach you how to release the unlovable. And by that I don't mean (say to them), I don't mean those who you are having a hard time loving, I'm saying those who are having a hard time loving you. You want to release your opinion of their opinion of you from your experience."

Guest: So is that what having a hard time self-loving is? Is that people are just caught up in others' opinion of themself for so long?

Abe: Exactly what it is because if they weren't doing that thing that they do, they'd be swept into the vortex. So here is Source adoring you...*adoring you*. And as long as you feel adored, then you get swept in where all the good stuff is.

But then someone says: You're bad. Not only are you bad you're really bad, and not only are you really bad, I've always known you were bad, and I've never liked this about and this about you and this about you.

And as they drone on and on and this person listens to it and trains themselves there, then even though Source is trying to call them in, they've developed these vibrational patterns where they can't go.

And that's why it occurs to them in their most poignant moments of letting go that... that feeling of Source calling, they're translating it as "I've got to be dead." Because they think it's Dead or Alive. And they want that so much that if that's the choice, "Dead or Alive"... I want that, I'll take dead.

And what you've got to help them to understand is that it's not dead or alive, it's in alignment or not in alignment and you don't have to be dead to be in alignment. That's the message that they want to hear from you, you see. And they'll hear it more loudly than all others who you might teach.

Guest: It's true. It's true. Even teenagers at that age are much more able to hear that, I find, than even the adults that I try to counsel who are dealing with them.

(Continued here.)

© Abraham-Hicks Publications

If All is Curable, Why is there Death?

Abraham, San Francisco, CA 2/24/2007-B

Guest: I have three questions.

Abraham: We have one answer.

Guest: I'm wondering if nothing is incurable, why is death inevitable.

Abraham: Oh, that was such a loaded question because what your question seems to mean is that there is life and then there is the long, sickly slide into death. As if the only reason anyone would ever die is because they have an illness. IOW, it's hard for you to conceive that anyone would want to die.

And we say you understand that you want to be born into this physical body, why is it hard to conceive that you would want to reemerge into pure nonphysical energy? The death experience, energetically speaking, is as exhilarating as the birth experience since there is no death. We like to call it croaking. We like to be as disrespectful as we can because there is no such thing as death. Did you feel the depth of the resistance in the human perspective relative to that though?

Guest: Yes, I think so. I'm trying to assimilate what you're saying.

Abraham: So ask the question again.

Guest: So death, "croaking", let's call it "croaking", okay, croaking seems to be an inevitable experience.

Abraham: But hear it from our POV. Life is inevitable. A changing of perspectives is inevitable. Eternalness is inevitable. That's like saying...how would like it if you say: I was born into this physical life experience, and I went to a movie one day. And now I have to watch the same movie over and over and over and over and over. Every time I try to get out of theatre they say No, it's not your time yet; go back.

IOW, this is just one of the aspects of Who You Are. You never intended to stand in one place.

Guest: Okay

Abraham: You begin to develop this resistance to, and it is odd, because it is inevitable, you don't know anyone that doesn't experience it, and yet you dread it. And a question like this further enhances the dread, doesn't it?

Guest: Well, I'm not sure, exactly, really. I'm trying to reconcile, if there's nothing that's incurable...

Abraham: IOW, if disease doesn't take you out, would anybody die. Let's take away train wrecks, car wrecks, trucks running over you. And disease...and there's leprosy...

We love this question because what you're helping us amplify is that there are many people who make their death experience in the same way that you make your next choice in life experience. IOW, sometimes you've lived enough live and you've put enough into vibrational escrow that the death experience is the call of Source.

IOW, when this time space reality is no longer serving you in the powerful way you've intended, you often opt for reemergence into nonphysical and a fresh start again. Humans don't like the thought of that because they say oh the last start was pretty rough going and I just got it squared away and now I have to start all over? I have to be a teenager again?

But, we lovingly want to say to you that that is a question that would ever only be spoken from human perspective and from a disconnected human perspective as well.

Guest: Okay. Thank you. My next question: we can decide how we're going to die and when we're going to die?

Abe: You are the creator of your experience and in that sense, without exception, every death is suicide because nothing happens to any of you that is outside of what's going on in your vibration.

Guest: Whether we're conscious of it or not.

Abraham: A lot of creating by default going on by a lot of people because you're offering vibrations all over the place not tending to them because you've forgotten that it matters how you feel. It's a very common thing. People will say, "I must speak the truth. I must face reality." And we say why keep active in your vibration something that you don't want. "Because it's true."

We say but surely there are things that are true that cause alignment with source. IOW, just because it's true, it doesn't deserve your attention. Pick the things that are true that feel good when you focus on them and let that be the vibrational base of your life experience. Good.

© Abraham-Hicks Publications

Abe speaks to a Mother whose son was murdered

Abraham, San Rafael, CA 7/25/04

He's in such a good place of Pure Positive Energy, while you are still in despair and rage, you don't have access to him. You think that the loss of contact with your son that is the heart of your discomfort when what it really is, is the loss of full connection with your Source!

And now your son and your Source are vibrationally in the same place, so reaching for a re-establishment of a relationship wtih one will cause you to re-establish a relationship with the other.

And that is the glory of death. We just love it when someone dies because it stimulates within you the desire to reconnect with joy you have not yet known in this physical life experience.

As you begin playing the game of moving up the emotional scale and you begin receiving these communications, instead of hurting you, they will thrill you. Goose bumps will move through you. So. Good to know!

© Abraham-Hicks Publications

Truth and Communication

Abraham, Orlando, FL 2/15/97

You've heard us say that communication is essential. You all cannot stop communicating. You're vibrationally radiating your communication constantly and what trips you up and makes you think that maybe you're not a good communicator is that very often [what you say and what you vibrate is not the same.] What you mean is being communicated - and what you say is something different, and they're getting what you mean, and not willing to accept what you say.

How often does your partner says to you: "Are you mad at me? " And you answer "No.", but you are! What you are FEELING is what you're COMMUNICATING!! You all are communicating much more clearly than you think. [When you think you're not communicating], you're just not a vibrational match to what you think you're saying. What you think you're saying is not what you're really saying. That's the problem. Not a match.

Do you follow?

© Abraham-Hicks Publications

When You Don't Know What to Do

Abraham-Hicks, Pivoting and Positive Aspects, Special Subjects, Vol. 2

Sometimes when you are in the midst of a situation, you struggle to find any positive aspects within it, we know that. Some things are intolerable, some things are so big and so bad that it does not seem possible for you to find any positive within it. But that is because most of you are trying to decide what action to take that would correct it, and sometimes you are in a situation where there isn't any action that seems appropriate, you feel pretty much in a corner.

What we're wanting you to always remember, is that while there may not be a positive aspect to your action in this moment, while you may not be able to figure out what to DO that would make you feel better, you ALWAYS can figure out how it is you want to FEEL. In other words it is a matter of coming back, coming back, coming back, coming back, or another way of saying it would be to draw inward, inward, inward.

If you were watching a gymnast on the balance beam, and he is out of control, he has lost his balance, you would note that those who are really professionals do not try to somersault themselves back into balance. Instead they stop and regain their balance, and then they proceed forward. By focusing on how you are wanting to feel, this is how you regain your balance.

And friends, we acknowledge that, very often, the action, what to do is not absolutely clear. And we also acknowledge that you are not always clear even about what you are wanting to have. But it is our ABSOLUTE KNOWING and our absolute promise to you, that you always know how you are wanting to feel. You know you would rather feel happy than sad, refreshed than tired, invigorated rather than enervated. You KNOW you would rather feel productive than unproductive, free than confined, growing rather than stagnant.

© Abraham-Hicks Publications