Mother's Day Message

Abraham (to a Mom), Syracuse NY, 9/28/2005

Guest: I really would appreciate your help in releasing the resistance of being bossy and not minding my own business, but feeling responsibility. And what are we responsible for? Who are we responsible for? So if we have a label of a Mom…

Abraham: The only responsibility that exists anywhere in the universe as far as we are concerned is the self-imposed responsibility of being who we are.

Guest: So mind my own business what other people might think or say…

Abraham: Jerry and Esther had some great amount of time on the last cruise with two grandchildren and their parents. And Jerry and Esther had several opportunity (sic) to play with Laurel and Kevin. (They are seven and four.)

And as they are playing together they are having extraordinary fun time. All four of them are at the height at of their game of life: laughing, feeling creative, in love with life.  And the sounds of pleasant laughter are wafting through the doorway, down the hallway, and Kevin and Laurel’s parents are standing outside for quite a long time listening to the fun that is going on inside not wanting to interrupt it.

And then Father Mark says to his children, “I used to have a lot of fun like you but now I have to be in charge.”

Guest: That’s that feeling.

Abraham: Because as he was listening he could feel the gay abandon that these four were living. J & E felt no responsibility whatsoever for the outcome of these children’s lives. And these children felt no responsibility whatsoever for the outcome of Jerry and Esther's lives. IOW, no one was worried about the outcome. All four of them were focused upon only one thing how much fun can we extract from this moment in time and how many Kikis will join us? How much fun will we have? How much of us can rendezvous in this…

And it was incredible the creativity, and the fun, and the cleverness, and the love, and the joy that the four of them managed to focus there and now. And Father and Mother who are listening close by are feeling the intoxicating draw of such fun, but deliberately holding themselves apart from it because somebody has to be in charge, and there’s this feeling that if you just let fun have its way with you that somehow you will be irresponsible or something will happen if you’re not watching out, if you’re not being careful, you see.

And what we’re wanting you to understand is that when you get into vibrational alignment with who you really are, all of the resources of the Universe are helping you to make the decisions that will keep you upon a path that will please you. You don’t have to hold yourself with any sort of rigid, determined guidance. When you get in the stream of well-being, well-being is the way your life plays out. It just must be, you see.

These parents are perhaps the most freedom-seeking, not only for themselves and for their children, but they still have this overlaying sense of responsibility that you are attempting to describe here. And in fact you used the word, “What is my responsibility?”

And that’s why we say and mean: Your ultimate and only responsibility is self-alignment and when you’ve got that everything else takes care of itself and until you’ve got that you’re just groping around out there in the dark stumbling around having some success and some failures but you have no real sense of what you’re doing, you see. Get Happy and then do anything that comes from that.

So, you’re right, when you’re having an experience when you feel grouchy, or where you feel betrayed, or where you feel dishonored, or where you feel that somebody could be more efficient, and you’ve been striving for efficiency all of your life, and have brought it to an art, and it’s hard to understand why others aren’t willing to at least make the same effort, we say you have to stop and ask yourself what’s really happening with me here? Am I succeeding in the only responsibility that truly matters? Am I in alignment with me?

© Abraham-Hicks Publications

What to say to Suicidal or Troubled Teens

Abraham, Mexican Cruise, 2/2009

(Abe counsels the counselor on what to say to troubled teens.)

Abraham: It's easier to no longer try to modify my behavior to please the unpleasable. I reached somewhere else. I found out I was looking for love in all the wrong places (tell them). I was looking for love in all the wrong places.

And you'll find it in the death experience (say to them), you will. You'll find that love you're looking for in the death experience, and I think that's why it is appealing to you, but I don't think you should have to die to find the love. I think that it's available to you, but you're just tuned to a different frequency.

And hey, I can see how you got tuned to that different frequency. I can see how you got tuned out of alignment. I've been hearing your stories. I've met your parents. I get it. I get why it's hard for you. But I have a sense about you that you didn't come here wanting an easy way. And then, give some other analogies that...

Guest: And so that brings up the bigger subject then of self-love as we talk about being able to love ourself enough to be in our own vortex enough of the time, or all of the time, or most of the time, as opposed to being out and focusing on other people...

Abraham: But stop there for just a moment. Hold that thought. We really want you to come back around to it. But think about it in the context of what we just said. If you could say to them: I think, friend, that you are mastering or on the verge of such self-love that you've figured out that that might be a way that you can totally reemerge into the total love of self.

Guest: Mmm. Wow.

Abraham: But say to them, "There are easier ways. And disregarding the peanut gallery really is one of them, even though it doesn't seem like it, but I'll teach you how (say to them). I'll teach you how. I'll teach you how to release the unlovable. And by that I don't mean (say to them), I don't mean those who you are having a hard time loving, I'm saying those who are having a hard time loving you. You want to release your opinion of their opinion of you from your experience."

Guest: So is that what having a hard time self-loving is? Is that people are just caught up in others' opinion of themself for so long?

Abe: Exactly what it is because if they weren't doing that thing that they do, they'd be swept into the vortex. So here is Source adoring you...*adoring you*. And as long as you feel adored, then you get swept in where all the good stuff is.

But then someone says: You're bad. Not only are you bad you're really bad, and not only are you really bad, I've always known you were bad, and I've never liked this about and this about you and this about you.

And as they drone on and on and this person listens to it and trains themselves there, then even though Source is trying to call them in, they've developed these vibrational patterns where they can't go.

And that's why it occurs to them in their most poignant moments of letting go that... that feeling of Source calling, they're translating it as "I've got to be dead." Because they think it's Dead or Alive. And they want that so much that if that's the choice, "Dead or Alive"... I want that, I'll take dead.

And what you've got to help them to understand is that it's not dead or alive, it's in alignment or not in alignment and you don't have to be dead to be in alignment. That's the message that they want to hear from you, you see. And they'll hear it more loudly than all others who you might teach.

Guest: It's true. It's true. Even teenagers at that age are much more able to hear that, I find, than even the adults that I try to counsel who are dealing with them.

(Continued here.)

© Abraham-Hicks Publications

Are You Blessed with a Difficult Child? Or Are You a Difficult Child?

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex", p. 64

Many children are able to hold to their Broader Perspective even amidst strong human influence. They are often labeled by their parents and teachers as "problematic" or "troubled" children. They are often deemed "stubborn" and "incapable of learning," but we want you to know that a determination to guide oneself, and follow one's personal guidance, is an inherent intention that all are born with. Many are coming into physical form with an even more powerful intention of remaining connected to their own Broader Perspective, and the physical people who surround them are finding them less easy to dissuade from their own determinations. That is a good thing.

Many people have been socialized, in the sense that they commonly seek the approval of others, and they often live very difficult lives because it is no simple task to determine which, of the influential people who surround them, they should bend to.

And many people who have spent many years making an effort to fit in, to not make trouble, and to find approval from others finally reach the point of recognizing the futility of it, because no matter how hard they try to please others, the list of those who are not pleased with them remains longer than the list of those who are pleased. And who gets to decide what the right way of living is, anyway?

You are living in the wonderful time of Awakening. This is the time when more people will come into conscious realization of their own value. It is the time when fewer people will attempt the impossible task of pushing the unwanted far enough away that they will be left with only that which is wanted. It is the time when more people will come to the realization that what they have been long seeking is not a change in the behavior of others, or in the world outside of them -- over which they have no control -- but, instead, an understanding of their own Vibrational relationship with Source, over which they have complete control.

(c) Abraham Hicks Publications

Abe: Mother's Day Message

Abraham to a Mom on 9/28/2005 in Syracuse, NY

Q: I really would appreciate your help in releasing the resistance of being bossy and not minding my own business, but feeling responsibility. And what are we responsible for? Who are we responsible for? So if we have a label of a Mom…

Abe: The only responsibility that exists anywhere in the universe as far as we are concerned is the self-imposed responsibility of being who we are.

Q. So mind my own business what other people might think or say…

Abe: J & E had some great amount of time on the last cruise with two grandchildren and their parents. And J & E had several opportunity (sic) to play with Laurel and Kevin. (They are seven and four.)

And as they are playing together they are having extraordinary fun time. All four of them are at the height at of their game of life: laughing, feeling creative, in love with life.  And the sounds of pleasant laughter are wafting through the doorway, down the hallway, and Kevin and Laurel’s parents are standing outside for quite a long time listening to the fun that is going on inside not wanting to interrupt it. 

And then Father Mark says to his children, “I used to have a lot of fun like you but now I have to be in charge.”

Q: That’s that feeling.

Abe: Because as he was listening he could feel the gay abandon that these four were living. J & E felt no responsibility whatsoever for the outcome of these children’s lives. And these children felt no responsibility whatsoever for the outcome of J & E’s lives. IOW, no one was worried about the outcome. All four of them were focused upon only one thing how much fun can we extract from this moment in time and how many Kikis will join us? How much fun will we have? How much of us can rendezvous in this…

And it was incredible the creativity, and the fun, and the cleverness, and the love, and the joy that the four of them managed to focus there and now. And Father and Mother who are listening close by are feeling the intoxicating draw of such fun, but deliberately holding themselves apart from it because somebody has to be in charge, and there’s this feeling that if you just let fun have its way with you that somehow you will be irresponsible or something will happen if you’re not watching out, if you’re not being careful, you see.

And what we’re wanting you to understand is that when you get into vibrational alignment with who you really are, all of the resources of the Universe are helping you to make the decisions that will keep you upon a path that will please you. You don’t have to hold yourself with any sort of rigid, determined guidance. When you get in the stream of well-being, well-being is the way your life plays out. It just must be, you see.

These parents are perhaps the most freedom-seeking, not only for themselves and for their children, but they still have this overlaying sense of responsibility that you are attempting to describe here. And in fact you used the word, “What is my responsibility?”

And that’s why we say and mean: Your ultimate and only responsibility is self-alignment and when you’ve got that everything else takes care of itself and until you’ve got that you’re just groping around out there in the dark stumbling around having some success and some failures but you have no real sense of what you’re doing, you see. Get Happy and then do anything that comes from that.

So, you’re right, when you’re having an experience when you feel grouchy, or where you feel betrayed, or where you feel dishonored, or where you feel that somebody could be more efficient, and you’ve been striving for efficiency all of your life, and have brought it to an art, and it’s hard to understand why others aren’t willing to at least make the same effort, we say you have to stop and ask yourself what’s really happening with me here? Am I succeeding in the only responsibility that truly matters? Am I in alignment with me?

And an easy way to bring that back around is “Alright Kiki, or Inner Being,  whoever you are, names don’t matter, how are you looking at this? How do you feel about this? Because clearly, you feel differently than I do. That’s why I feel so rotten. How are YOU looking at this?

And when you ask the question, and whatever name appeals to you, in other words, we love “Kiki” because “Kiki” is a reality for our friend that he can conceptualize where “God” you are more aloof from, more apart from, and “Abraham” you’re not so sure about, and “Inner Being” you don’t…IOW, you’ve got to determine some label that references some non-physical energy that you can make a reality in your mind so that you can feel the vibe of that reference point. That’s why we’re talking about these points of vibrational relativity. Those coordinates are about vibrational points of relativity, and until you’ve established what those two points are, and what the relationship with each other is, you don’t have any accurate information that’s coming forth.

So we tell you again and again that that one point of vibrational relativity which is who you really is (sic) is always strong, and always feels good, it’s always beaming a signal, you can always feel it, just stop more often and see where you are in the vibe of that.

If you’re ornery you’re far apart from it.

If you’re overwhelmed, you’re far apart from it.

If you’re feeling victimized, you’re really far apart from it.

If you are feeling revenge, you’re pretty far apart from it.

If you are feeling hopeful, you’re not so far apart from it.

If you’re feeling optimistic, you’re not so far apart from it.

If you’re beginning to believe that life is good, you’re not so far apart from it.

And when you know that you are worthy and that well-being is yours, then there is no discord in the vibration at all you are sending one signal, and then your bossiness isn’t bossiness, it’s knowingness; it’s confidence; it’s loving guidance; it’s powerful expectation. 

It’s part of the signal that still calls, but everybody doesn’t respond to it. They all can’t hear it because some of them are too far from it, and that’s when you start flipping out. IOW when you get in alignment and you want them to just follow their bliss and come right to where you often are, that’s one thing, but when they’re over there in that place that you can’t reach them, we think that’s why you sort of freak out and go down there to try and rescue them, but don’t do that. Stay up there and let them come to you or let them drown.

M: Drowning is good. Drowning is good. For my sake. One last question…

Abe: Let them come to you or let them find someone else as their intermediary teacher.

Q: And they will right?  They will.

Abe: Every time.

Q: They will everytime

Abe: Every time.

Q: Thank you.

Abe: Yes, indeed.