Mother's Day Message

Abraham (to a Mom), Syracuse NY, 9/28/2005

Guest: I really would appreciate your help in releasing the resistance of being bossy and not minding my own business, but feeling responsibility. And what are we responsible for? Who are we responsible for? So if we have a label of a Mom…

Abraham: The only responsibility that exists anywhere in the universe as far as we are concerned is the self-imposed responsibility of being who we are.

Guest: So mind my own business what other people might think or say…

Abraham: Jerry and Esther had some great amount of time on the last cruise with two grandchildren and their parents. And Jerry and Esther had several opportunity (sic) to play with Laurel and Kevin. (They are seven and four.)

And as they are playing together they are having extraordinary fun time. All four of them are at the height at of their game of life: laughing, feeling creative, in love with life.  And the sounds of pleasant laughter are wafting through the doorway, down the hallway, and Kevin and Laurel’s parents are standing outside for quite a long time listening to the fun that is going on inside not wanting to interrupt it.

And then Father Mark says to his children, “I used to have a lot of fun like you but now I have to be in charge.”

Guest: That’s that feeling.

Abraham: Because as he was listening he could feel the gay abandon that these four were living. J & E felt no responsibility whatsoever for the outcome of these children’s lives. And these children felt no responsibility whatsoever for the outcome of Jerry and Esther's lives. IOW, no one was worried about the outcome. All four of them were focused upon only one thing how much fun can we extract from this moment in time and how many Kikis will join us? How much fun will we have? How much of us can rendezvous in this…

And it was incredible the creativity, and the fun, and the cleverness, and the love, and the joy that the four of them managed to focus there and now. And Father and Mother who are listening close by are feeling the intoxicating draw of such fun, but deliberately holding themselves apart from it because somebody has to be in charge, and there’s this feeling that if you just let fun have its way with you that somehow you will be irresponsible or something will happen if you’re not watching out, if you’re not being careful, you see.

And what we’re wanting you to understand is that when you get into vibrational alignment with who you really are, all of the resources of the Universe are helping you to make the decisions that will keep you upon a path that will please you. You don’t have to hold yourself with any sort of rigid, determined guidance. When you get in the stream of well-being, well-being is the way your life plays out. It just must be, you see.

These parents are perhaps the most freedom-seeking, not only for themselves and for their children, but they still have this overlaying sense of responsibility that you are attempting to describe here. And in fact you used the word, “What is my responsibility?”

And that’s why we say and mean: Your ultimate and only responsibility is self-alignment and when you’ve got that everything else takes care of itself and until you’ve got that you’re just groping around out there in the dark stumbling around having some success and some failures but you have no real sense of what you’re doing, you see. Get Happy and then do anything that comes from that.

So, you’re right, when you’re having an experience when you feel grouchy, or where you feel betrayed, or where you feel dishonored, or where you feel that somebody could be more efficient, and you’ve been striving for efficiency all of your life, and have brought it to an art, and it’s hard to understand why others aren’t willing to at least make the same effort, we say you have to stop and ask yourself what’s really happening with me here? Am I succeeding in the only responsibility that truly matters? Am I in alignment with me?

© Abraham-Hicks Publications

They Show You What is Active in Your Vibration

Abraham-Hicks, 3/23/02, Phoenix, AZ

We have a new game for you to play. And the game goes like this. “I’ve decided in my physical human form that I’m going to take complete ultimate only responsibility for everything that happens to me. I’m not ever again" ... (it’ll take a little getting used to)... "I’m not ever again going to blame somebody else for where I am, for how I’m feeling, for what’s happening to me.”

Can you imagine if everyone would say “It’s my job.. my life is MY job.” So you don’t blame your mate anymore; you don’t blame your kids; you don’t blame your parents; you don’t blame your teacher; you don’t blame circumstances. You say “I take FULL responsibility.”

The reason that this is ultimately so satisfying is because you have only ever always, only ever always, only ever always, been the only ever always one who could only ever always do anything about anything in your life experience. Nobody else can do anything. In other words, asking someone else to change even if they’re willing, even if they can do it for 5 or 10 or 15 or 20 years, even if you can get somebody else to contain their behavior so that you will feel better, you are the ONLY one EVER who can do anything about it.

And so, when you stop and think about it and you think... hmm, let’s talk about the uprising, the seemingly eternal uprising in the Middle East. Everyone thinking that somebody else should do something different. And no one else is willing to do it different for the other. And we say, can you imagine how peaceful and wonderful experiences could be if each individual would understand that “Hey, I can do something. I can do something.” And what is it that we’re asking you to do? We’re asking you to choose any thought, any word, any action that allows who you are to come back in this moment.

So... You’re so angry at your mate, or your mother, or someone... someone you work with, someone you work for. And they just seem to be ruining your life because they will not change their behavior. You do no seem to be important enough to them to change their behavior which hurts your feelings a great deal. And then you discover “Wait a minute! They don’t have to change a thing in order for me to feel better. I can start looking for positive aspects. I can look for things within them that make me feel good.”

“Oh that’s impossible” you say... “there is so much that is bad and not much that’s good. In fact I haven’t seen a glimmer of anything that’s good for so very long.” And we say, there are other subjects to which you could give your attention. “Well maybe,” you say reluctantly. “My dog. My dog is easy to love.. or my cat.”

And we say... do whatever it takes to find something to be your object of attention. And as you give your attention to something that allows you to feel good, you’ve done something about this relationship that was bothering you. In fact, if you will make it your work to feel good, every relationship that you have will be one that pleases you.

Now that’s offensive to some of you because you’ve been holding others as being responsible for you feeling good for so long that it’s sort of hard to let loose of that. It’s sort of hard to let them be whatever they need to be while you selectively choose whatever you need to choose to feel good. And we know friends that it would be a lot easier for you to do this if they’d learned it first. (laughter), but you can’t wait for them to figure this out and you don’t need to because once you figure it out, your life is going to feel so much better.

It does not matter how many aspects of whatever it is that you’re giving your attention to that’s making you feel bad. It does not matter how many negative aspects there are. It is our absolute knowing that in there somewhere are some positive aspects.

Now, it might be that the way your relationship has been evolving that you have begun to focus upon the aspects that you don’t like. So you have activated that part of your vibration to an art. So that when you come together with this person or these people that what they mostly show you is that part that is most active in your vibration. DID YOU HEAR THAT? WHAT THEY MOSTLY SHOW YOU, IS THE PART THAT IS MOST ACTIVE IN YOUR VIBRATION.

It’s such a wonderful thing... did you hear that? What they keep showing you is the part of them that is most active in YOUR vibration. And all this time you thought it was their doing. It is the part that is most active in your vibration. That’s why when we say to you, “Somebody should do something about it” the person that we’re ALWAYS talking about is YOU... not them, YOU.

(c) Abraham-Hicks Publications

Abe: Mother's Day Message

Abraham to a Mom on 9/28/2005 in Syracuse, NY

Q: I really would appreciate your help in releasing the resistance of being bossy and not minding my own business, but feeling responsibility. And what are we responsible for? Who are we responsible for? So if we have a label of a Mom…

Abe: The only responsibility that exists anywhere in the universe as far as we are concerned is the self-imposed responsibility of being who we are.

Q. So mind my own business what other people might think or say…

Abe: J & E had some great amount of time on the last cruise with two grandchildren and their parents. And J & E had several opportunity (sic) to play with Laurel and Kevin. (They are seven and four.)

And as they are playing together they are having extraordinary fun time. All four of them are at the height at of their game of life: laughing, feeling creative, in love with life.  And the sounds of pleasant laughter are wafting through the doorway, down the hallway, and Kevin and Laurel’s parents are standing outside for quite a long time listening to the fun that is going on inside not wanting to interrupt it. 

And then Father Mark says to his children, “I used to have a lot of fun like you but now I have to be in charge.”

Q: That’s that feeling.

Abe: Because as he was listening he could feel the gay abandon that these four were living. J & E felt no responsibility whatsoever for the outcome of these children’s lives. And these children felt no responsibility whatsoever for the outcome of J & E’s lives. IOW, no one was worried about the outcome. All four of them were focused upon only one thing how much fun can we extract from this moment in time and how many Kikis will join us? How much fun will we have? How much of us can rendezvous in this…

And it was incredible the creativity, and the fun, and the cleverness, and the love, and the joy that the four of them managed to focus there and now. And Father and Mother who are listening close by are feeling the intoxicating draw of such fun, but deliberately holding themselves apart from it because somebody has to be in charge, and there’s this feeling that if you just let fun have its way with you that somehow you will be irresponsible or something will happen if you’re not watching out, if you’re not being careful, you see.

And what we’re wanting you to understand is that when you get into vibrational alignment with who you really are, all of the resources of the Universe are helping you to make the decisions that will keep you upon a path that will please you. You don’t have to hold yourself with any sort of rigid, determined guidance. When you get in the stream of well-being, well-being is the way your life plays out. It just must be, you see.

These parents are perhaps the most freedom-seeking, not only for themselves and for their children, but they still have this overlaying sense of responsibility that you are attempting to describe here. And in fact you used the word, “What is my responsibility?”

And that’s why we say and mean: Your ultimate and only responsibility is self-alignment and when you’ve got that everything else takes care of itself and until you’ve got that you’re just groping around out there in the dark stumbling around having some success and some failures but you have no real sense of what you’re doing, you see. Get Happy and then do anything that comes from that.

So, you’re right, when you’re having an experience when you feel grouchy, or where you feel betrayed, or where you feel dishonored, or where you feel that somebody could be more efficient, and you’ve been striving for efficiency all of your life, and have brought it to an art, and it’s hard to understand why others aren’t willing to at least make the same effort, we say you have to stop and ask yourself what’s really happening with me here? Am I succeeding in the only responsibility that truly matters? Am I in alignment with me?

And an easy way to bring that back around is “Alright Kiki, or Inner Being,  whoever you are, names don’t matter, how are you looking at this? How do you feel about this? Because clearly, you feel differently than I do. That’s why I feel so rotten. How are YOU looking at this?

And when you ask the question, and whatever name appeals to you, in other words, we love “Kiki” because “Kiki” is a reality for our friend that he can conceptualize where “God” you are more aloof from, more apart from, and “Abraham” you’re not so sure about, and “Inner Being” you don’t…IOW, you’ve got to determine some label that references some non-physical energy that you can make a reality in your mind so that you can feel the vibe of that reference point. That’s why we’re talking about these points of vibrational relativity. Those coordinates are about vibrational points of relativity, and until you’ve established what those two points are, and what the relationship with each other is, you don’t have any accurate information that’s coming forth.

So we tell you again and again that that one point of vibrational relativity which is who you really is (sic) is always strong, and always feels good, it’s always beaming a signal, you can always feel it, just stop more often and see where you are in the vibe of that.

If you’re ornery you’re far apart from it.

If you’re overwhelmed, you’re far apart from it.

If you’re feeling victimized, you’re really far apart from it.

If you are feeling revenge, you’re pretty far apart from it.

If you are feeling hopeful, you’re not so far apart from it.

If you’re feeling optimistic, you’re not so far apart from it.

If you’re beginning to believe that life is good, you’re not so far apart from it.

And when you know that you are worthy and that well-being is yours, then there is no discord in the vibration at all you are sending one signal, and then your bossiness isn’t bossiness, it’s knowingness; it’s confidence; it’s loving guidance; it’s powerful expectation. 

It’s part of the signal that still calls, but everybody doesn’t respond to it. They all can’t hear it because some of them are too far from it, and that’s when you start flipping out. IOW when you get in alignment and you want them to just follow their bliss and come right to where you often are, that’s one thing, but when they’re over there in that place that you can’t reach them, we think that’s why you sort of freak out and go down there to try and rescue them, but don’t do that. Stay up there and let them come to you or let them drown.

M: Drowning is good. Drowning is good. For my sake. One last question…

Abe: Let them come to you or let them find someone else as their intermediary teacher.

Q: And they will right?  They will.

Abe: Every time.

Q: They will everytime

Abe: Every time.

Q: Thank you.

Abe: Yes, indeed.