Mother's Day Message

Abraham (to a Mom), Syracuse NY, 9/28/2005

Guest: I really would appreciate your help in releasing the resistance of being bossy and not minding my own business, but feeling responsibility. And what are we responsible for? Who are we responsible for? So if we have a label of a Mom…

Abraham: The only responsibility that exists anywhere in the universe as far as we are concerned is the self-imposed responsibility of being who we are.

Guest: So mind my own business what other people might think or say…

Abraham: Jerry and Esther had some great amount of time on the last cruise with two grandchildren and their parents. And Jerry and Esther had several opportunity (sic) to play with Laurel and Kevin. (They are seven and four.)

And as they are playing together they are having extraordinary fun time. All four of them are at the height at of their game of life: laughing, feeling creative, in love with life.  And the sounds of pleasant laughter are wafting through the doorway, down the hallway, and Kevin and Laurel’s parents are standing outside for quite a long time listening to the fun that is going on inside not wanting to interrupt it.

And then Father Mark says to his children, “I used to have a lot of fun like you but now I have to be in charge.”

Guest: That’s that feeling.

Abraham: Because as he was listening he could feel the gay abandon that these four were living. J & E felt no responsibility whatsoever for the outcome of these children’s lives. And these children felt no responsibility whatsoever for the outcome of Jerry and Esther's lives. IOW, no one was worried about the outcome. All four of them were focused upon only one thing how much fun can we extract from this moment in time and how many Kikis will join us? How much fun will we have? How much of us can rendezvous in this…

And it was incredible the creativity, and the fun, and the cleverness, and the love, and the joy that the four of them managed to focus there and now. And Father and Mother who are listening close by are feeling the intoxicating draw of such fun, but deliberately holding themselves apart from it because somebody has to be in charge, and there’s this feeling that if you just let fun have its way with you that somehow you will be irresponsible or something will happen if you’re not watching out, if you’re not being careful, you see.

And what we’re wanting you to understand is that when you get into vibrational alignment with who you really are, all of the resources of the Universe are helping you to make the decisions that will keep you upon a path that will please you. You don’t have to hold yourself with any sort of rigid, determined guidance. When you get in the stream of well-being, well-being is the way your life plays out. It just must be, you see.

These parents are perhaps the most freedom-seeking, not only for themselves and for their children, but they still have this overlaying sense of responsibility that you are attempting to describe here. And in fact you used the word, “What is my responsibility?”

And that’s why we say and mean: Your ultimate and only responsibility is self-alignment and when you’ve got that everything else takes care of itself and until you’ve got that you’re just groping around out there in the dark stumbling around having some success and some failures but you have no real sense of what you’re doing, you see. Get Happy and then do anything that comes from that.

So, you’re right, when you’re having an experience when you feel grouchy, or where you feel betrayed, or where you feel dishonored, or where you feel that somebody could be more efficient, and you’ve been striving for efficiency all of your life, and have brought it to an art, and it’s hard to understand why others aren’t willing to at least make the same effort, we say you have to stop and ask yourself what’s really happening with me here? Am I succeeding in the only responsibility that truly matters? Am I in alignment with me?

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Abraham: Momentary Anxiety Is NOT Destiny

Abraham - Boulder, CO- 6/15/02

Abraham: You see, some would say your world is about economics. Now we don’t agree with that, although much of your world seems to be driven by economics. And those who want to sell you something, want to activate within you a need for what they’re selling. That is a big part of the reason that so many of you feel anxiety. Because they’re getting very good at promoting things in ways to activate your anxiety.

And so what’s happened is, you like so many others have become someone who easily acquiesces to the vibration that they want you to vibrate, rather than choosing your own. And we say, actually these are Esther’s words. She’s been saying it a lot lately, “I can damn well choose my own vibration! (laughter) I can choose my own vibration! I can choose my own vibration! I can choose my own vibration! I can choose my own vibration! I can choose my own vibration! I can! I can! I can! I can! I can! I can! I can! I can! I can choose my own vibration! (laughter)

I do not have to (carry) the vibration within me that I picked up along my physical trail! I don’t have to carry the vibration of my mother or of a worrisome friend! I don’t have to carry the vibration that the television is hammering at me or that the government is hammering at me for whatever reason!”

In other words, when somebody wants you to do something, you always have to stop and ask yourself, “Why do they want to do this?” In other words, what’s in it for them? And when you begin to look at things in that way, you begin to understand that you get to choose your own vibration. You’re very good at it. 

And so the reason that you’re feeling anxiety is because every fiber of your being wants to feel joy, wants to know the well being that is your Source.  And when you fixate on things that don’t allow it, you sort of go berserk on some level of your being. And we’re glad. That means your guidance system’s working.

Your anxiety is not because the world is in trouble. Your anxiety is not because you’re in trouble. Your anxiety is because you're choosing a thought that doesn't match your desire, that’s all. 

In other words, it’s not because some big bad thing is gonna happen. You’re in no way near a vibrational proximity to anything like that. You're just someone who deserves and intends to be so in harmony with source, and when you're not, you can't stand it. That’s why you’ve got anxiety. So just practice, practice, practice, practice...

In other words, we want you to show yourself that you can feel good by conjuring your own thought. And once you’ve done that for a few days, you’ll be free. You’ll be free of all anxiety. Because we can feel that you believe us. We can feel that you believe that Well Being abounds. We can feel that you believe that you have the ability to conjure a vibration. And we can feel that you understand the Art of Allowing.

In other words, We think everything is intellectually lined up for you. We just don't think you've practiced it enough that you feel confident to go out and play a serenade for someone. Yes.

Guest: I don’t feel confident. Like you say, your emotions are your guideposts. And when I feel anxious, I don’t know if that’s just the anxiety or if that’s my intuition trying to tell me something or...

Abe: Well it, what it always is, negative emotion - whether you call it blame or guilt, or anxiety of fear - it doesn’t matter what you call it. Negative emotion always means the same thing. You are focused on something that doesn't match your desire. 

Sometimes a person will say, “I am too sensitive.” And we say, it’s like someone saying, “My hands are really sensitive and it’s painful for me to put them on the hot stove.” And we say, we don’t think sensitivity is your problem (laughter). We think, we think your problem is you’ve got your hands on the stove (laughter), you see.

And so bless that anxiety. That is sensors. In other words, that’s a very good sign. What it’s saying is, “Don't think this thought, this thought that doesn't line up.” It’s saying, “You would do well to de-activate this thought. You do not have to face reality. Some of reality is painful. Don't go to the painful parts of reality."

And as you show yourself that you can FEEL GOOD by pointing over there and that you feel bad by pointing over there. And that you CAN point over there. Then more and more, you point over there and anxiety goes away.

YOUR ANXIETY IS NOT WARNING YOU OF SOMETHING TO COME. Your anxiety is alerting you to a vibration that’s happening NOW.

You have POWER NOW. So just think about your hand on the stove and just laugh about it and say, “I can take my hand off the stove.” And as you practice this just a little bit, you’ll feel your CONFIDENCE come.

Because from what we feel from you, you are good at directing thought. You have a very clear mind. You’re good with words. You can focus easily. You concentrate easily. And that’s all that we’re talking about here. Just choosing the ones that feel good - instead of accepting anything that anybody wants to dump on you, you see. Yes.

You Cannot Bargain with Vibration

Abraham, San Rafael, CA, 7-22-07

Most of you stand in this place of defending why you need or want something better. You say, as if you were pleading to your mother—you did that when you were little: I NEED it! I REALLY NEED it!

“Mother, I really WANT this.” “Well, we all want things, son. You don’t get what you want.” Many mothers say that, misguided beings that they are. “You don’t get what you want.” “Well, I NEED it.” “Oh, well that’s different. How badly do you need it?” “I will DIE if I don’t have it.”

As you plead your neediest cases, that’s when Congress puts the money there. That’s when your mother gives up the goods. That’s when people who are weary of your complaining, cave in and say, “Alright TAKE the car!”

But we’re wanting you to understand that even though humans may cave in to your negative demands or pleading, the Universe never, EVER gives you what you want, when you’re beating the drum of what you don’t want. Everytime you are justifying how much you NEED something, you are vibrationally preventing yourself from having what you want. You cannot offer the frequency of NEED, and DESIRE, at the same time. You cannot be a vibrational match to what you want, and its absence, at the same time.

Abe: Is your Mother's depression messing up your vibe?

Abraham, 8/17/02 West Los Angeles, CA

Guest: Hi, Abraham. I wanna ask you about responsibility. My mother, who I have a complicated relationship with, is massively unhappy. Ummm, I keep trying to do things to make her happy, to find ways to guide her to happiness.

Abe: Well, let us ask you a question because this is at the heart of everything. When you think about your mother, what is the most active, dominant vibration within you? “My mother is an unhappy woman? My mother is a happy woman?”

Guest: Unhappy.

Abe: And so you, from that vibration, can offer no guidance to anything else. Because what’s happened is, she’s won. She has presented herself in a way that you’ve observed until you’ve learned your vibration about her, from her. And now you’re reflecting it back to her. And so that’s the part of her that you get to keep rendezvousing with.

And so now, let’s play the game of asking the other questions. When I think about my mother, I see her as more unhappy or more happy?

Guest: More unhappy.

Abe: It’s my job to change the vibration of my mother? It’s not my job to change the vibration of my mother?

Guest: See, that’s where I get, it gets sticky for me.

Abe: It’s my job to change the vibration of my mother? It’s not my job to change the vibration of my mother? Just answer it.

We’re not saying one is right and one is wrong. We just want you to say which. It’s my job to change the vibration of my mother. It’s not my job to change the vibration of my mother.

Guest: I think it’s not my job. But I think the right answer is, that it is my job.

Abe: My mother’s vibration is unchangeable? My mother’s vibration is changeable?

Guest: It’s changeable.

Abe: That was a trap. (Laughter)

Guest: And I fell in it?

Abe: You did, because

Guest: Because I can’t change it?

Abe: Because - well. Because you don’t believe that her vibration is changeable. But you do believe it’s your job to change it.

(Audience - “Oh”) So you’re in this

Guest: You’re good, you know. (Laughter)

Abe: So you’re in this impossible place

Guest: Yea.

Abe: ...you see. And so, which of those do you think would be the easiest outlet for you? In other words, you’re in a jam, you can’t get out. Where is the path of least resistance? It’s not my job to change my mother’s vibration? Or, my mother’s vibration is changeable? [You] can take any way out. Which is the easiest one?

Guest: (Pause)

Abe: Not my job.

Guest: Not my job.

Abe: It’s not my job to change my mother’s vibration. Now let’s go back to more general statements. My life is mostly really good?

Guest: My life is mostly

Abe: Ooooooo, it is

Guest: really good,

Abe: isn’t it?

Guest: really good.

Abe: There are so many things that I can think about that bring me to a good feeling place. And on the occasional moment that I focus upon her, I can take it. Now let’s, let’s start here.

Guest: Yes.

Abe: My mother and her sadness are such a big part of my life, that it’s sucking the life out of me. Or my mother and her problems are not a big part of my life. And I can deal with it when I need to.

Guest: Yea.

Abe: SO STOP BEATING UP ON YOURSELF THAT THERE’S A PIECE OF LIFE EXPERIENCE THAT YOU CAN’T CONTROL - AND YOU CAN’T CHANGE. And say, “Hmmm, maybe I should practice a little unconditional love.” And we’re not talking about unconditional love for your mother. We’re talking about letting yourself off the hook.

Guest: Okay.

Abe: We’re talking about wanting so much to feel good, that you say, “It has to be alright for my mother to be like that. I have to allow my mother to have the experiences that she is having. AND I HAVE TO FIND MY HAPPINESS ANYWHERE I CAN GET IT. And maybe I’ll find some with thoughts about her and maybe I won’t. But for right now, I’m not gonna think about that. I’m not gonna think about that.

Abe: Mother's Day Message

Abraham to a Mom on 9/28/2005 in Syracuse, NY

Q: I really would appreciate your help in releasing the resistance of being bossy and not minding my own business, but feeling responsibility. And what are we responsible for? Who are we responsible for? So if we have a label of a Mom…

Abe: The only responsibility that exists anywhere in the universe as far as we are concerned is the self-imposed responsibility of being who we are.

Q. So mind my own business what other people might think or say…

Abe: J & E had some great amount of time on the last cruise with two grandchildren and their parents. And J & E had several opportunity (sic) to play with Laurel and Kevin. (They are seven and four.)

And as they are playing together they are having extraordinary fun time. All four of them are at the height at of their game of life: laughing, feeling creative, in love with life.  And the sounds of pleasant laughter are wafting through the doorway, down the hallway, and Kevin and Laurel’s parents are standing outside for quite a long time listening to the fun that is going on inside not wanting to interrupt it. 

And then Father Mark says to his children, “I used to have a lot of fun like you but now I have to be in charge.”

Q: That’s that feeling.

Abe: Because as he was listening he could feel the gay abandon that these four were living. J & E felt no responsibility whatsoever for the outcome of these children’s lives. And these children felt no responsibility whatsoever for the outcome of J & E’s lives. IOW, no one was worried about the outcome. All four of them were focused upon only one thing how much fun can we extract from this moment in time and how many Kikis will join us? How much fun will we have? How much of us can rendezvous in this…

And it was incredible the creativity, and the fun, and the cleverness, and the love, and the joy that the four of them managed to focus there and now. And Father and Mother who are listening close by are feeling the intoxicating draw of such fun, but deliberately holding themselves apart from it because somebody has to be in charge, and there’s this feeling that if you just let fun have its way with you that somehow you will be irresponsible or something will happen if you’re not watching out, if you’re not being careful, you see.

And what we’re wanting you to understand is that when you get into vibrational alignment with who you really are, all of the resources of the Universe are helping you to make the decisions that will keep you upon a path that will please you. You don’t have to hold yourself with any sort of rigid, determined guidance. When you get in the stream of well-being, well-being is the way your life plays out. It just must be, you see.

These parents are perhaps the most freedom-seeking, not only for themselves and for their children, but they still have this overlaying sense of responsibility that you are attempting to describe here. And in fact you used the word, “What is my responsibility?”

And that’s why we say and mean: Your ultimate and only responsibility is self-alignment and when you’ve got that everything else takes care of itself and until you’ve got that you’re just groping around out there in the dark stumbling around having some success and some failures but you have no real sense of what you’re doing, you see. Get Happy and then do anything that comes from that.

So, you’re right, when you’re having an experience when you feel grouchy, or where you feel betrayed, or where you feel dishonored, or where you feel that somebody could be more efficient, and you’ve been striving for efficiency all of your life, and have brought it to an art, and it’s hard to understand why others aren’t willing to at least make the same effort, we say you have to stop and ask yourself what’s really happening with me here? Am I succeeding in the only responsibility that truly matters? Am I in alignment with me?

And an easy way to bring that back around is “Alright Kiki, or Inner Being,  whoever you are, names don’t matter, how are you looking at this? How do you feel about this? Because clearly, you feel differently than I do. That’s why I feel so rotten. How are YOU looking at this?

And when you ask the question, and whatever name appeals to you, in other words, we love “Kiki” because “Kiki” is a reality for our friend that he can conceptualize where “God” you are more aloof from, more apart from, and “Abraham” you’re not so sure about, and “Inner Being” you don’t…IOW, you’ve got to determine some label that references some non-physical energy that you can make a reality in your mind so that you can feel the vibe of that reference point. That’s why we’re talking about these points of vibrational relativity. Those coordinates are about vibrational points of relativity, and until you’ve established what those two points are, and what the relationship with each other is, you don’t have any accurate information that’s coming forth.

So we tell you again and again that that one point of vibrational relativity which is who you really is (sic) is always strong, and always feels good, it’s always beaming a signal, you can always feel it, just stop more often and see where you are in the vibe of that.

If you’re ornery you’re far apart from it.

If you’re overwhelmed, you’re far apart from it.

If you’re feeling victimized, you’re really far apart from it.

If you are feeling revenge, you’re pretty far apart from it.

If you are feeling hopeful, you’re not so far apart from it.

If you’re feeling optimistic, you’re not so far apart from it.

If you’re beginning to believe that life is good, you’re not so far apart from it.

And when you know that you are worthy and that well-being is yours, then there is no discord in the vibration at all you are sending one signal, and then your bossiness isn’t bossiness, it’s knowingness; it’s confidence; it’s loving guidance; it’s powerful expectation. 

It’s part of the signal that still calls, but everybody doesn’t respond to it. They all can’t hear it because some of them are too far from it, and that’s when you start flipping out. IOW when you get in alignment and you want them to just follow their bliss and come right to where you often are, that’s one thing, but when they’re over there in that place that you can’t reach them, we think that’s why you sort of freak out and go down there to try and rescue them, but don’t do that. Stay up there and let them come to you or let them drown.

M: Drowning is good. Drowning is good. For my sake. One last question…

Abe: Let them come to you or let them find someone else as their intermediary teacher.

Q: And they will right?  They will.

Abe: Every time.

Q: They will everytime

Abe: Every time.

Q: Thank you.

Abe: Yes, indeed.