Seth: Negative focus robs you of energy you need to help

Seth, The Nature of the Psyche, Session 800

Seth: You form your own reality. That reality contributes to the experience of others, but each of you possesses a unique, original stance in space and time that is yours alone in quite practical terms, regardless of time's relative existence.

Only when you operate from your own stance can you help others to the best of your ability. To anticipate danger, or to imaginatively take on the troubles of others robs you of the very energy with which you could help them.

I am not saying, therefore, to turn your eyes from the unfortunate conditions of the world. Practical help is needed in all areas of the human life.

Yet it is far better, and more practical ultimately, to concentrate upon the beneficial elements of civilization-far better to organize your thoughts in areas of accomplishment than to make mental lists of mans deficiencies and lacks. Such a practice leads to feelings of helplessness and hopelessness, in which effective action seems impossible.

Life possesses an exuberance.

If this is cherished, nurtured, encouraged, then additional energy is generated that is not needed for the purposes of daily private life-a superabundance, that can be effectively directed in those areas of the world where help is most needed. The strength, vitality, and effectiveness of thought is seldom considered, Thought, you may say, will not stop a war-yet what do you think started such a war?

Throughout history the downtrodden have often risen into power, using force, rebelling against their oppressors; and yet, learning little from that experience, they turn and become the elite, the new power-holders. Their physical conditions may be completely changed. Now theirs, the offices of government, the wealth. Gone are the conditions that, it would seem, caused the uprising. Yet in retaliation they strike out, forming a new class of downtrodden who must in their turn rise and retaliate.

Despite all appearances, conditions of an exterior nature do not cause wars, or poverty, or disease, or any of the unfortunate circumstances apparent in the world. Your beliefs form your reality. Your thoughts generate practical experience. When these change, conditions will change.

To add your own energy, focus, and concentration to dire circumstances in other portions of the world does not help, but adds to, such situations.

© Laurel Butts

Abraham on Bipolar Disorder and Suicidal Thoughts

Abraham on Depression

Abe: Is your Mother's depression messing up your vibe?

Abraham, 8/17/02 West Los Angeles, CA

Guest: Hi, Abraham. I wanna ask you about responsibility. My mother, who I have a complicated relationship with, is massively unhappy. Ummm, I keep trying to do things to make her happy, to find ways to guide her to happiness.

Abe: Well, let us ask you a question because this is at the heart of everything. When you think about your mother, what is the most active, dominant vibration within you? “My mother is an unhappy woman? My mother is a happy woman?”

Guest: Unhappy.

Abe: And so you, from that vibration, can offer no guidance to anything else. Because what’s happened is, she’s won. She has presented herself in a way that you’ve observed until you’ve learned your vibration about her, from her. And now you’re reflecting it back to her. And so that’s the part of her that you get to keep rendezvousing with.

And so now, let’s play the game of asking the other questions. When I think about my mother, I see her as more unhappy or more happy?

Guest: More unhappy.

Abe: It’s my job to change the vibration of my mother? It’s not my job to change the vibration of my mother?

Guest: See, that’s where I get, it gets sticky for me.

Abe: It’s my job to change the vibration of my mother? It’s not my job to change the vibration of my mother? Just answer it.

We’re not saying one is right and one is wrong. We just want you to say which. It’s my job to change the vibration of my mother. It’s not my job to change the vibration of my mother.

Guest: I think it’s not my job. But I think the right answer is, that it is my job.

Abe: My mother’s vibration is unchangeable? My mother’s vibration is changeable?

Guest: It’s changeable.

Abe: That was a trap. (Laughter)

Guest: And I fell in it?

Abe: You did, because

Guest: Because I can’t change it?

Abe: Because - well. Because you don’t believe that her vibration is changeable. But you do believe it’s your job to change it.

(Audience - “Oh”) So you’re in this

Guest: You’re good, you know. (Laughter)

Abe: So you’re in this impossible place

Guest: Yea.

Abe: ...you see. And so, which of those do you think would be the easiest outlet for you? In other words, you’re in a jam, you can’t get out. Where is the path of least resistance? It’s not my job to change my mother’s vibration? Or, my mother’s vibration is changeable? [You] can take any way out. Which is the easiest one?

Guest: (Pause)

Abe: Not my job.

Guest: Not my job.

Abe: It’s not my job to change my mother’s vibration. Now let’s go back to more general statements. My life is mostly really good?

Guest: My life is mostly

Abe: Ooooooo, it is

Guest: really good,

Abe: isn’t it?

Guest: really good.

Abe: There are so many things that I can think about that bring me to a good feeling place. And on the occasional moment that I focus upon her, I can take it. Now let’s, let’s start here.

Guest: Yes.

Abe: My mother and her sadness are such a big part of my life, that it’s sucking the life out of me. Or my mother and her problems are not a big part of my life. And I can deal with it when I need to.

Guest: Yea.

Abe: SO STOP BEATING UP ON YOURSELF THAT THERE’S A PIECE OF LIFE EXPERIENCE THAT YOU CAN’T CONTROL - AND YOU CAN’T CHANGE. And say, “Hmmm, maybe I should practice a little unconditional love.” And we’re not talking about unconditional love for your mother. We’re talking about letting yourself off the hook.

Guest: Okay.

Abe: We’re talking about wanting so much to feel good, that you say, “It has to be alright for my mother to be like that. I have to allow my mother to have the experiences that she is having. AND I HAVE TO FIND MY HAPPINESS ANYWHERE I CAN GET IT. And maybe I’ll find some with thoughts about her and maybe I won’t. But for right now, I’m not gonna think about that. I’m not gonna think about that.

Abraham: When Depression Feels Better Than Rage?

Excerpted from Law of Attraction in Action DVD.

Abe: Low Opinion of Self Hampers Strong Desires

Originally from a long ago online friend who transcribed his talk w/ Abraham from back in the days before the hotseat. Now from my personal archive:

"Your desire to excel is in strong contradiction with your belief in self.  Your opinion of yourself and your fantastic desires are colliding. So Eastern philosophy would say "Desire not", and you would come back into balance, and that would be right.  Abraham's philosophy says:  Little by little raise the vibration of your belief of self and you will come back into harmony.   That is just not a fast process. 

And a very wise teacher would say to you: "Do some of both", do your best to booster your appreciation of yourself, while you bring your desires in check a little bit so the extremes is not so debilitating. 

We would so some of all of that.  We would do everything in our power to soothe ourselves.  We would sleep more, we would float on the swimming pool more, we wold meditate some, not extreme, we would go to pleasant movies.  In another words, what we want to do, we want to somehow find a way, and we are certainly not in a position to grant you anything.  But if we could, we would like to give you permission to pamper yourself more, to soothe yourself more, to love yourself more, to appreciate yourself more, because that is so very much needed.

When you say "what is it, what is it that keeps me in pain from the faster achievement of my desires?", we say lack of appreciation of self.  Now, you could spend time trying to figure out how you got there, that's ALL COUNTERPRODUCTIVE, you see what we are getting at?

Hold these words with you for a couple of days and use them if they soothe and if they help:

Abraham which is a non-physical energy and certainly the energy at my core - has expressed to me their utter appreciation, ADORATION, and certainly respect for me, and if Abraham, clear and guided and sure as they are, can look at me at as I stand in my humble mess, as I see though my eyes, and they can assure me that I am doing very well, that I am loved beyond words to express, then may I should lighten up on myself a little bit and give myself a break here and there. 

We would think that if you can really hear us when we say: You're loved and you're known fully, and you're appreciated by this non-physical energy called Abraham, which is not different from energy that some called God, if that energy can see me as I am and ADORE ME WHOLLY, and I AM SOMEHOW WRONG IN NOT ADORING MYSELF TOO.

As you focus there and hold this words, it will help you."