Abraham: Of Frenemies, Relationships, and Co-Creation

Abraham - Sacramento CA 7/27/02

Abraham: You don't feel anyway about anyone without them helping you to feel that way. It's really cocreation. We'll even go further and louder and blunter: If there is someone you don't like, they don't like you either. We have never seen it otherwise. We have never seen someone to adore someone that the one they were adoring didn't adore them back.

Now someone is thinking, "Now wait a minute, there was that man I loved with all my heart and he didn't love me back." We say you were offering him insecurity, you were offering him worry, it wasn't that pure vibration of love. When you are tuned in, tapped in, turned on, they can't offer you anything else. The Law of Attraction wouldn't put you together even when you live in the same house. You would rendevoux differently.


© Abraham-Hicks Publications

In ALLOWING There is No Tolerance

Abraham-Hicks, San Francisco, CA 08/18/2001

We want so much for you to discover the joyous delicious freedom in recognizing that you cannot control others -- but that you do not have to. You cannot control what others are choosing to do or experience -- but you CAN control YOUR vibrational participation with it.

Once you understand vibrational participation, then, you are able to be the absolute ALLOWER that you were born to be. Many misunderstand, they think that ALLOWER means, let someone spit in your face and don't spit back, or let someone abuse someone that's important to you, and just passively do nothing about it, grin and bear it. Tolerate the injustice.

In ALLOWING there is no tolerance. In the moment of tolerance there is usually anger or fear, or rage -- there is just absence of action about it. While in the ART OF ALLOWING, it is true there is not the aggressive action, but there is not the pushing against, in the form of anger or fear. What ALLOWING truly is, is standing in my physical now, and choosing a vibration that ALLOWS who I really am to be fully present within me, in this moment.

When you are in the state of ALLOWING, your Source Energy is flowing through you in a non-resisted way. You are feeling love or appreciation. You are acknowledging Well-being. You are knowing that all is well. You are looking for evidence of that. And you are reverberating your resounding affirmation of Well-being in your moment of ALLOWING.

So, in your moment of fear, or in your moment of hate, even though there are circumstances where everyone would agree that you are utterly justified in your temporary disconnecting from who you really are, there is no value, and nothing good has ever come, from that feeling.

(c) Abraham-Hicks Publications

Seth: Love is Always a Protection

Seth, The Early Sessions, Book 4, Session 176

(Blogger's Background Note: Jane/Ruburt's mother was bedridden throughout most of her childhood and could be very emotionally abusive.)

Seth: He [Ruburt] would do his mother no harm, and for this reason she can do him no harm. The desire and the intent to do violence almost inevitably brings forth violence. We are involved here in somewhat of a basic problem, hardly Ruburt's alone, that will someday take up many sessions. For like does indeed attract like. If you hate, you will be hated. You will attract hate.

There are definite reasons for this. The reasons have been known and forgotten, but the very practical fact remains. If Ruburt would indeed do his mother harm if the opportunity presented itself, then he would indeed be in danger of harm...

...Ruburt's love for you, his ABILITY to love in general, is his protection. So he has nothing to fear. Love is ALWAYS a protection, in a quite literal manner; in a biological and electromagnetic and chemical and psychic manner.

(c) Robert Butts

Seth: YCYOR Police Persecution

Seth (ESP Class, 3-19-74): 

After discussion of Seth’s remarks, Tom was relating what had been to him a quite disturbing encounter with a police officer recently. Seth returned, speaking to Tom:

Seth: You were so gloriously angry at the police officer because you did not express your natural anger at your children and did not feel able to do so fully, or to follow through with your feelings toward them. You feel persecuted by the police because they represent authority to you because you have not emotionally come to terms with yourself—in terms of authority—so they bear the brunt.

You also feel that your own emotions are underground, and that you must physically express them through body motion. You do not understand the nature of true force or aggression, and so it seems to you that they should be expressed through forceful and aggressive, in your terms, body reactions. You wanted to hit him in the face! You did not consciously accept the fact that you wanted to kick him.

Now listen!! You are used to following your emotions—only so far. Then you clamp down upon them. If you would follow them all the way, you would not be frightened of them. You think that physical action and boxing, for example, or karate, or physical motion is the only way to express aggressive action within an acceptable framework.

Now, you have work to do with your emotions, and listen to me, and for now at least do not interrupt. Argue with me after you have come to terms with your own emotional being.

You are as afraid, for example, of expressing the aggression of love fully as you are of those other emotions. Now, you may argue with me later when you read a transcript of what I have said. And my best wishes to you!

Abe: Can You Trust Men?

Blogger note: This post is a transcript of an mp3 from twitter.com/AbrahamFan.

Abraham - G-7-24-04

Q: I want to trust men…

A: You don’t want to trust men. You don’t want to trust men. You want to be able to think about men and feel good at the same time. Get rid of that ‘trust’ word; that ‘trust’ word will trip you up. IOW, you want to be able to think of a man, or think of men, or think of yourself with a man, or think of yourself in a relationship with a man, and feel good at the same time. And you have to train yourself to do that. And when you do, one that feels like that can come to you, you see.

There are so many words like ‘love’ and ‘trust’ and ‘worthiness’ that just activate all this chaos in you. And ‘trust’ is really one of those words. How do you trust… We’ll tell you what you can trust. You can trust that law of attraction will match you up with what you’re putting out there.

So instead of saying, ‘I don’t trust men,’ say, ’I’ve been offering a vibration that brings to me stuff I don’t want. I think I’ll change my vibration.’ So now suddenly, it’s not about whether they’re trustworthy or not, it’s about whether you’re practiced in your vibration. Whole different thing, isn’t it?

When you say, ‘No, this isn’t an issue of being able to trust them. This is an issue of me being able to soothe myself into a place that I can let the things in that I want in. I’m in charge of what comes to me.’

You’re right, the opening was for you because you and so many others are saying ‘you need to be different so that I can feel better.’ And we say, ‘Good Luck’ because they don’t owe it to you, they don’t even care about you, and it’s not because they’re bad; it’s because they are selfishly-oriented, too.

You finally got to say, ‘I’m selfishly-oriented. You’re selfishly oriented. I’m selfishly-oriented. You’re selfishly-oriented.’

And then in time you’ll be able to stop saying, ‘You need to do something different. You need to take me into consideration first.‘ Because what you’re saying to them is ‘You have to give up what matters most to you.’

Now there are a lot of churches, there are a lot of social structures that would teach that that’s the way you’re supposed to be, but it goes cross current of the whole nature of the universe. Everyone is oriented from the perspective of self and you care passionately about how you feel.

Feel the difference between saying, ‘You care more about you than you do about me, and that hurts my feelings,’ and saying, ‘You care more about you, than you do me and that’s normal. And I care more about me, than I do about you, and that’s normal.’ And what’s not normal is me thinking that if I care about how you care about me that you’ll be able to change how you care about me so that I will feel better. That’s…. never going to work.

So then you say, ‘Oh, so you care more about your feelings than you do my feelings. Oh yeah… that’s how we all are. Never mind.’

And then you don’t say, ‘I can’t trust you to do what I need you to do,’ you say, ‘I trust you to do what you need to do and I wouldn’t ask you to distort your experience, and do what I need you to do because that can never last; that’s why I’ve concluded that none of you are trustworthy. None of you are willing to give up what is most important to you for me. I’ve been barking up the wrong tree all this time. So what I want to do is just beat the drum of who I am purely and clearly and proudly and the Universe will bring someone to me that matches me. I can trust that.’

(c) Abraham Hicks

Seth: Hate, Love, and Reincarnation Part 3

Seth, Seth Speaks, Session 550 cont. - 9/28/70

Seth: Are you following me and this material?

Rob: Sure. Why do you ask?

Seth: You are my first reader.

I would like to make it clear that there is nothing to be gained, either, by hating hatred. You fall into the same trap.

What is needed is a basic trust in the nature of vitality, and faith that all elements of experience are used for a greater good, whether or not you can perceive the way in which “evil “ is transmuted into creativity. What you love will also be part of your experience in this life and others.

The most important idea to be remembered is that no one thrusts the experience of any given lifetime upon you. It is formed faithfully according to your own emotions and beliefs. The great power and energy of love and creativity is apparent in the mere fact of your existence. This is the truth so often forgotten—that[ the combination of] consciousness and existence is continuous and absorbs those elements that seem to you so destructive.

Hate is powerful if you believe it, and yet though you hate life, you will continue to exist. You have made appointments, each of you, that you have forgotten. They were signed, so speak, before you were born in this existence. In many cases the friends that you make were close to you long before you met them in this present life.

This does not mean that everyone in your present acquaintanceship has been known to you, and this certainly does not imply a boring record played over and over again, for each encounter is a new one in its own way. Remembering what I said about families, realize also that towns and villages may also be composed of the past inhabitants of other such towns and villages, transposed with new experiences and backgrounds, as the group tries different experiments.

Now sometimes, there are also such variations in that the inhabitants of a particular town now may be the reborn inhabitants of those who lived, say, in 1632 in a small Irish village. They may be transposed to a town in Idaho.

Some who wanted to travel from the Old World to the New, may be born in the new one. You must remember also that abilities from past lives are at your disposal for your present use. Your reap your own rewards. Information concerning these is often given to you in the sleep state, and there is a kind of gestalt type of dream, a root dream, by which those who know each other in past lives now communicate.

In such dreams, general mass-information is given, that the individuals then use as they desire. Overall plans for development are made as the group members, say, of a town decide upon its destiny. Some individuals always choose to be born as part of some group—reborn, in other words, with past contemporaries, while others, disdaining such endeavors, return in much more isolated positions.

This is a matter of psychological feeling. Some individuals are more ease, more assured, and more capable working with others in this case. You could consider an analogy in which John Doe follows his kindergarten class all the way through high school. In a reincarnational situation, he would always choose to return with his associates. Others, however, would rather skip from school to school, appearing alone relatively speaking, with greater freedom, more challenge, but without the comforting framework of security chosen by the others.

In each case the individual is the judge, not only to each succeeding life, it’s time, the environment, and historical date, but also of its overall character and methods of accomplishment. There are as many different ways to reincarnate, therefore, as there are inner selves, and each inner self will choose its own characteristic methods.

I will end our session now that the chapters is begun. I have the feeling that we will have some extra sessions in any case.

Now: Give me a moment here. First of all, as a species, in the context of normal usage, you have considered yourselves as apart from rest of nature and consciousness.

Your own survival as a species was your main concern. You considered the other species only in the light of their use to you. You did not have a true conception of the great sacredness of all consciousness, nor of your relationship with it. You are losing your grasp of that great truth.

In the present circumstances you are carrying that idea forward -of species’ survival regardless of the consequences, the idea of changing the environment to suit your own purposes; and this has led you to a disregard of spiritual truths.

In physical reality, therefore, you are seeing the results. Now those personalities who are returning are doing so for various reasons. Some of them are drawn to physical life again because of these attitudes. They are those who in the past, in your terms, strove for physical existence without consideration for the rights of other species. The are driven to return because of their own desires.

The species must learn the value of the individual man. The species is also learning its dependence upon other species, and beginning to comprehend its part in the whole framework in physical reality.

Now: some individuals are being reborn at this time simply to help you understand. They are forcing the issue, and forcing the crisis, for you still have time to change your ways. You are working on two main problems, but both involve the sacredness of the individual, and the individual’s relationship with others and with all physically orientated consciousness.

The problem of War will sooner or later teach you that when you kill another man, basically you will end up killing yourself. The overpopulation problem will teach you if you do not have the loving concern for the environment in which you dwell, it will no longer sustain you—you will not be worthy of it. You will not be destroying the planet, you see. You will not be destroying the birds or the flowers, or the grain or the animals. You will not be worthy of them, and they will be destroying you.

You have set up the problem for yourselves within the framework of your reference. You will not understand your part within the framework of nature until you actually see yourselves in danger of tearing it apart. You will not destroy consciousness. You will not annihilate consciousness of even one leaf, but in your context, if the problem were not solved, these would fade from your experience.

The crisis is a kind of therapy, however. It is a teaching method that you have set up for yourselves because you need it. And you need it now, before your species embarks upon journeys to other physical realities. You must learn your lessons now in your own backyard before you travel to other worlds. So you have brought this upon yourself for that purpose and you will learn.

Seth: Hate, Love, and Reincarnation Part 2

Seth, Seth Speaks, Session 550 cont. - 9/28/70

I spoke earlier of rigid concepts of right and wrong. There is only one way to avoid this problem. Only true compassion and love will lead to an understanding of the nature of good, and only these qualities will serve to annihilate the erroneous and distortive concepts of evil.

The simple fact is that as long as you believe in the concept of evil, it is a reality in your system, and you will always find it manifested. Your belief in it will, therefore, seem highly justified. If you carry this concept through succeeding generations, through reincarnations, then you add to its reality.

Let me try to throw some light upon what I am trying to tell you. First of all, love always involves freedom. If a man says he loves you and yet denies to your freedom, then you often hate him. Yet because of his words you do not feel justified in the emotion. This sort of emotional tangle itself can lead to continued entanglement’s through various lives.

If you hate evil, then be aware of your conception of the word. Hate is restrictive. It narrows down your perception. It is indeed a dark glass that shadows all of your experience. You will find more and more to hate, and bring the hated elements into your own experience

Now: If, for example, you hate a parent, then it becomes quite easy to hate any parents, for in their faces you see and project the original offender. In subsequent lives you may also be drawn into a family and find yourself with the same emotions, for the emotions are the problem, and not those elements that seem to bring them about.

If you hate illness you may bring upon yourself a succeeding life of illness, because the hate has drawn it to you.

Now: If you expand your sense of love, of health, and existence, then you are drawn into this life and in others towards those qualities; again, because they are those upon which you concentrate. A generation that hates war will not bring peace. It generation that loves peace will bring peace.

To die with hatred for any cause or people, or for any reason, is a great disadvantage. You will have all kinds of opportunities now to recreate your personal experience in more beneficial ways, to change your world.

In the next life you will be working with those attitudes that are now yours. If you insist upon harboring hatreds within you now, you are very likely to continue doing so. On the other hand, those sparks of truth, intuition, love, joy, creativity, accomplishments gained now, will work for you then as they do now.

They are, you see, the only true realities. They are the only real foundations of existence. It is foolish, as Rupert once said, to hate a storm or Shake your fist at it and call it names. You laugh if you think of children or natives in such activities. It is useless to personify a storm and treated it as a demon, focusing upon its destructive elements, or those elements that to you appear destructive.

Change of form is not destructive. The explosive energy of the storm is highly creative. Consciousness is not annihilated. A storm is part of creativity. You view it from your own perspective, and yet one individual will feel within the storm the unending cycle of creativity, and another will personify it as the work of the devil.

Through all your lives you will interpret the reality that you see in your own way, and that way and will have its effects upon you, and in turn upon others. The man who literally hates, immediately sets himself up in this fashion: He prejudges the nature of reality according to his own limited understanding.

Now I’m emphasizing the issue of hate in this chapter on reincarnation because its results can be so disastrous. A man who hates always believes himself justified. He never hates anything that he believes to be good. He thinks he is being just, therefore, in his hatred, but the hatred itself forms a very strong claim that will follow him throughout his lives, until he learns that only the hatred itself is the destroyer.

You may take a break.  (cont. in next post)

Seth: Hate, Love, and Reincarnation Part 1

Seth, Seth Speaks, Session 550 - 9/28/70

Now: Throughout your reincarnational existences you expand your consciousness, your ideas, your perceptions, your values. You break away from self-adapted restrictions, and you grow spiritually as you learn to step aside from limiting conceptions and dogmas.

Your rate of learning depends entirely upon you, however. Limited, dogmatic, or rigid concepts of good and evil can hold you back. To narrow ideas of the nature of existence can follow you through several lives if you do not choose to be spiritually and psychically flexible.

These rigid ideas can indeed act as leashes, so that you are forced to circle like a tied puppy dog about a very small radius. In such cases through perhaps a group of existences, you will find yourself battling against ideas of good and evil running about in a circle of confusion, doubt, and anxiety.

Your friends and acquaintances will be concerned with the same problems, for you will draw to yourself those with the same concerns. I am telling you again, therefore, that many of your ideas of good and evil are highly distorted and shadow all understanding you have of the nature of reality.

If you form a guilt in your mind, then it is a reality for you, and you must work it out. But many of you form guilts for which there is no adequate cause, and you saddle yourselves with these guilts without reason. In your dimension of activity there appears to be a wild assortment of evils. Let me tell you that he who hates an evil merely creates another one.

Now: From within your point of reference it is often difficult for you perceive that all events work toward creativity, or to trust in the spontaneous creativity of your own natures. Within your system, to kill is obviously is obviously a moral crime, but to kill another in punishment only compounds the original error. Someone very well-known who established a church-if you will, a civilization-once said, “turn the other cheek if you are attacked. “The original meaning of that remark, however, should be understood. You should turn the other cheek because you realize that basically the attacker only attacks himself.

Then you are free, and the reaction is a good one. If you turned the other cheek without this understanding, however, and feel resentful, or if you turn the other cheek out of the feeling of pseudo moral superiority, then the reaction is far from adequate.

Now all of this can be applied to your relationships in your reincarnational existences, and of course it also is highly pertinent to your current daily experience. If you hate another person, that hate may bind you to him through as many lives as you allow the hate to consume you. You draw to yourself in this existence and in all others those qualities upon which you concentrate your attention. If you vividly concern yourself with the injustices you feel have been done to you, then you attract more such experience, and if this goes on, then it will be mirrored in your next existence. It is true that in between lives there is “time “for understanding and contemplation.

Those who do not taken advantage of such opportunities in this life often do not do so when it is over. Consciousness will expand. It will create. It will turn itself inside out to do so. There is nothing outside of yourself that will force you to understand these issues or face them.

It is useless then to say, “When this life is over I will look back upon my experience and mend my ways.” This is like a young man saying, “When I grow old and retire, I will use all those abilities that I am not now developing." You are setting the stage for your “next” life now. The thoughts you think today will in one way or another become the fabric of your next existence. There are no magic words that make you wise, that will fill you with understanding and compassion; that will expand your consciousness.

Your thoughts and everyday experience contain the answers. Any success in this life, any abilities, have been worked out through past experience. They are yours by right. You worked to develop them. If you look about you and your relatives, friends, acquaintances, and business associates, you will also see what kind of person you are, for your drawn to them as they are drawn to you, through very basic inner similarities.

If you examine your thoughts for five minutes at various times during the day for several times a month, you will indeed receive a correct impression of the kind of life you have arranged for yourself in the next existence. If you are not pleased with what you discover, then you had better begin changing the nature of your thoughts and feelings.

As you will see later in this book, you can do so. There is no rule saying that in each life you must meet again those whom you have known before; and yet through the nature of attraction, that is often the case….

You may be born into your present family for many reasons. You may find after death a much stronger relationship emotionally with a personality from a past life. If you’re married, for example, and have no true rapport with your mate, you may instead find a past wife or husband waiting for you.

Often times members of various groups—military groups, church groups, hunting groups, will in another life form family relationships in which they will then work out old problems in new ways. Families must be considered as the gestalts of psychic activity; they have a subjective identity, of which no particular member of the group may be aware.

Families have subconscious purposes, though the individual members of the family may pursue these goals without conscious awareness. Such groups are set up ahead of time, so speak, in between physical existences. Often times four five individuals will set themselves a given challenge, and assign to the various members different parts to play. Then in a physical existence roles will be worked out.

The inner self is always aware of the hidden mechanisms of these family gestalts. Those who of been closely bound through emotional ties often prefer to remain in a closely tied or loosely tied physical relationships that continue through many lifetimes. New relationships are always encouraged however, for you can have ingrown reincarnational “families.” Many of these form physical organizations that are actually manifestations of inner groupings. (cont. in next post)