How to Leave Childhood Insecurities Behind

Guest: I've done a lot of belief work and I've found the beliefs that when I get very up, when I get very excited, enthusiastic there are certain beliefs I've found that bring me down.  And of course, I activate them, but I've discovered the beliefs are basically "I'm not worthy", "I'm not good enough", basically garden variety beliefs. And I've worked hard...

Abraham: And what is a belief other than a thought you keep thinking. The word 'belief' makes it sound power and important doesn't it. A thought that you keep thinking just makes it sound like a thought that you keep thinking. So we want to play with you a little bit and say, why do you keep thinking a thought that doesn't feel good and you say, "Well, because it's a belief!" We say, Yes, but why would you continue to beat the drum of something that doesn't feel good when you beat the drum of it, you see. Do you have an answer?

Guest: I was taught it very forcefully when I was young and that's my guess.

Abraham: Because you were wanting to please someone else?

Guest: Sure. I was wanting to believe the person that taught me these things. Because they were important to me, their respect was important to me.

Abraham: Yes.

Guest. And now it's hard to shake, isn't it? These beliefs don't make sense, and yet they still arise under certain scenarios.

Abraham: Do you think the person that taught then to you...what do you think their greatest motive was? In other words, when someone teaches you something what do you think their motive is for imparting this information to you?

Guest: I could think of ... my brother gave me a lot of these messages. He wanted to make me tough. He he wanted me to be a tough little brother, so he said means things to me to make me strong, I guess, that was his....

Abraham: But do you think his true motive was?

Guest: To make himself feel better? I don't know.

Abraham: But related to you, in other words, if you are guiding someone and giving them what you consider to be your best information, what's your motive? Why do you guide someone? Why do you teach them to be tough? Because you believe they will be better off if they are tough. Why do you teach them the things that you do? IOW, there are few exceptions to the reason being you believe that it is the best for them. IOW most people that are guiding you in most ways, are doing so...

It's like our friend said earlier, his sister is trying to save him. She's not trying to send him to Hell. She's trying to send him to Heaven. She's trying to save him from what she sees are problems. And most people who are guiding you in most ways, really, really mean well, you see.

And so when you say, What do I do now about shaking those beliefs that no longer serve me?  We say get to the bottom of the reason that somebody tried to impart them to you to begin with and accept that that reason was that they wanted you to thrive and they wanted things to go well for you, and then just fast forward to things going well for you, and then thank them for their part in it.

That's a really fast way to shift those beliefs because when you say to someone, "You taught me things that don't serve me. You taught me things that I hate. You taught me things that are wrong." All they do is puff up and try to teach you more of them.

But when you say, "Thank you, for your part, in helping me to be the joyous person that I am" it is our promise for you that in the majority of cases they were wanting your success, and when you emmanate your thriving, many of them they are soothed and then they press less hard about the details that they are trying to teach you.

Guest: And that's what's happening now in my relationship with my brother, but those beliefs still arise.

Abraham: You see what happens, when you're little, or when you're not little, but when you are feeling insecure, and you express your insecurity to someone else,  they want to help you. They want to teach you something.

And so what happens to a lot of you is you felt insecure, you ask others to help you feel more secure,  and then they started giving you their opinion which now you resent. And we say, in the majority of cases they wouldn't have been trying to help you if you weren't feeling vulnerable and asking for something from them, you see.

And so now what's happening and we hear this, you know this, but what happens is... So you were insecure, and from your insecure place, you attracted somebody who tried to tell you what to do. And now you're not insecure anymore, you want them to go away.  And we want to say to you they wouldn't even be there if there wasn't still some of that vibration of insecurity within you, you see.

And that's why your question was worded so perfectly when you say, "I guess I've got these beliefs."  And that's why we said, "And what's a belief. It's a thougth you keep thinking. So, are you feeling how full circle we've come?

You don't have to go back and unlearn those things. You don't have to back and stop believing those things. You just have to believe so clearly, which means practice so clearly, the thoughts that feel good to you when you practice them now,  and only things that match what you're offering now vibrationally can come to you, you see. You can attract the best of your now brother to you now, but you got to stop beating the drum of who he was or who you were, or how what he said affected you then, or how what he said affects you now. Yes?


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When Bad Things Happen to Kids (Long)

Abraham, San Francisco, CA  02/24/07-B 

Guest: I was having lunch with somebody who asked me to ask a question for her. She wanted to know if you could explain why bad things happen to children.

Abraham: When something unwanted happens (you're calling it a bad thing), the assumption is that it is punishment. The bad thing that happened isn't punishment that's being exacted by some greater power, it is this person who is receiving the punishment, or the bad things, not allowing the good thing to be there instead. So it's a vibrational resistance that is keeping them from living the well-being that they want and deserve.

So now the next question is how would a child get into a place of vibrational resistance? They weren't born with it.. how did they get there so fast?

And we say, in some cases they are born with it in the sense that they picked up the vibration of a worried parent even before they were born. The misassumption is because they can't talk they're not thinking. And that's not true.  You don't need language to think. The best thinkers on your planet are the beasts and they don't talk at all. They don't formulate their experience of life into words or into sentences. They Be It.

Then the next question is so does that mean that anyone, a child, could learn a vibration of resistance so early in life that they begin blocking the Stream of Well-Being?  And we say of course that resistance is passed on from generation to generation. Look at the hatred in the homes that so many children are being born into. Look at the family squabbles and the abuse that some children are even born into.

As you follow the paths of serial killers (and we don't recommend it), but if you could get to know their history and if you could hear from them what their life was like they would tell you about all of the abuse that they experienced and how many people were pushing against them. No one ever behaves badly who is in alignment with source, so it's just a chain of pain where I'm not in alignment with Source which means I feel totally disempowered, so I'm seeking revenge because it makes me feel better than the disempowerment that I feel, so I offer something negative to you, and now you feel powerless, and on and on it goes, you see.

So then the next obvious question, we can feel it all over the room, is well that's a screwy environment that we would say we were willing to be born into. If we are Pure Positive Energy in the non-physical why would we, for a moment, say that we are willing for a moment to subject ourselves to  to an environment where we could possibly encounter this influence of disconnection to the point that we would then attract something negative into our experience

And we say from the Broader Non-Physical Perspective you didn't see any of it as risky because you knew you were being born with a Guidance System. And most of all, most of you, and especially those, there a lot of teachers in this room who had very shaky, uncomfortable beginnings. And the reason you did is because you wanted to hit the ground running, you wanted your own contrasting life experience because you wanted to fill your Vibrational Escrow full of wonderful things.  And as you listen to so many teachers you discover that even though they had rocky beginnings their desire was so strong... and when they found vibrational alignment with Source then the wonderful things that begin to unfold in their life are so much more than they could have been if they hadn't had the rocky beginnings because the Rocky Beginnings are what put the Vibrational Escrow stuff  there, you see.

Guest: Yes.

Abraham: Now do not misunderstand. We are not for a minute saying that we recommend hard lives so that you can firm up your vibrational escrow. That was not the point at all. But some of you come forth so invincible, so knowing, so ready to teach, so wanting to teach, that you are not picky about the environment into which you are born. You were not wanting to be born into a feathered nest. You are wanting to be born into an environment of diversity where you could gather a lot of information fast and come to your own conclusions fast, you see.

And the only thing that goes wrong, it's not wrong, but it makes it seem like it's temporarily wrong, is that you get into that environment and the rockets of desires are born, but instead of turning your undivided attention to what you want, you keep justifying why you want it by pushing against what's gone wrong. And there are so many parts of your civilization that encourage that. In other words, so many people are happier for you to be a victim, and to encourage you to continue to be a victim, and they'll join forces with you in pushing against the victimizer and none of that turns you downstream ever you see. Ever.

There are no victims there are just recipients of vibrational offerings. Does that mean everybody offers vibrationally what they mean to? Of course not. You aren't even offering vibrationally what you want to. Every time you watch CNN or spend some time reading a newspaper and get fixated on something that's going wrong in the world, you're not in vibrational alignment with what you want. But reading those newspapers and watching those world events is certainly what's putting the stuff in Vibrational Escrow. The question is how soon are you lining up with it.

And a lot of those children that people are worried about are in a much better place than the people who are worried about them. And there's so many people around the world who are using what's going wrong with each other as their reason to beat the drum of powerlessness that there is an epidemic about it, afoot, you see.

Oh... when you come into the vibrational alignment with the knowledge that all is well and that it is just a thought away to come into alignment with it. And when you start demonstrating as you and our friend before, so many of you, are deliberately putting Law of Attraction to test. You're saying okay I hear that it's out there, this is a thought that I'm thinking, and it's a pure thought, it's not a thought I've worried about for a long time, it's a thought that I'm putting out there... when you see how fast Law of Attraction responds to your pure thought, doesn't it make you want to clear up some of the others? Doesn't it make you want to come into alignment with your own worthiness and with your own abundance and with your own physical body? With the other people that are in your live that you love and that you want to love you. Don't you want to come into alignment withthose things?

And you do it by choosing thoughts that feel good when you think them.

So, now back round to your question:

Abraham how is it that a child, a little child, could be born into this world and have less than good-feeling thoughts? 

(That's really what you're asking because w/o that they could not be having a negative experience. )

And we say they are like almost everybody else. They are a byproduct of their environment and they offer almost 100 percent of the time vibrational response to what they are observing. So if they have the good fortune of being born into a happy home, they observe it mostly and they get off to a more positive start. if they have what you would call the bad fortune of being born into a negative home they observe it more and they get off on that foot.

But whether they are off on the foot of feeling good or off on the thought of feeling bad, in every moment they have this vibrational relevance between where they are and Who They Really Are and that Call of Source never stops calling, so We think you like the drama of it as humans, we do.  Very often you want to know what you don't want so that you REALLY know what you do want. And it doesn't make any difference whether you go a long time before you turn and go with the stream. It's more dramatic. I was without it and without it, without it, without it, without it, without it, without it, without it, then I figured it out and oh boy is life good. As opposed to I want it. I got. I want it. I got it. I want it. I got it. I want it. I got it. I want it.

And your public seems to enjoy you more if you suffer first.

Guest: Thank you very much.


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Co-Dependent vs Independent Relationships

Abraham-Hicks, Kansas City, MO 9/15/04-B

It is possible for you to be selfishly oriented and care about someone else at the same time, but you can't let what they want matter more to you than what you want, or you are going to get out of balance. Then that's where you start sacrificing, which lays the groundwork for resentment.

Then you find yourself in an adult relationship, like so many adults who have parents and parents who have adult children, and none of them even like each other because their relationship is based on sacrifice and resentment instead of upon balance and alignment and self-sufficiency.

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Someone who really wants to help really enjoys a needy friend, sort of a nice balance. "I like to help and you like to be helped, so we get along really good together."

But most of you have to acknowledge that the people who make your heart sing the most are those independent, self sufficient beings who aren't dependent upon you for their joy.

When someone says to you, "You need to do something so I can feel better", if there is only one of them, you might take them in as a friend. But if you get a handful of them, then you've got a burdensome crowd hanging around you.

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