Abraham on Divorce and Being a Happy Family Living Apart

Guest: Hi. I have a situation with my former husband I thought that would get better as a result of the divorce, but it seems to be getting increasingly worse, and I have a very hard time overcoming these resentment feelings that I have towards him - though we have made lots of alterations so that we don't even have to see each other. Nonetheless...

Abraham: Well, how do you feel, in general terms, about the idea of a divorce, not necessarily yours, but anyone's? How does the idea of divorce hit you when you first think about it?

Guest: I have mixed feelings. I think that it's painful, but that it could be an extremely positive thing in that it enables people to move on into happiness that could not be reached within the marriage.

Abraham: Most people still feel, even in your evolved and moving forward society, that it is better not to divorce than to divorce. In other words, most people equate divorce with some sort of a failure, as some sort of a breaching of a promise that was made.

In other words, they don't say, I'm going to the market and I'm going to get gas, and I'm going to get a divorce. They don't put it into that sort of category. They call it one of those life altering things that I prayed about, and I suffered about, and I got counseling about, and they make it a very big thing.

And what we notice with most people, not all, but most, is that when they are contemplating a divorce, or a separation of a relationship, or after they have done it, because part of them feels that they should not have done it, then they spend quite a big amount of time justifying the reasons for having done it. So they don't get on with that better life that they hoped for, instead, they hold themselves in vibrational bondage, so to speak, by continuing to activate their reasons of justification about leaving.

So even though they want to feel better, they keep justifying or defending why they left which holds them in a sort of vibrational quagmire. Again, it's that same sort of chaotic vibration that you have to clean up before you can start feeling better. When you said, I have mixed feelings about it, we want to say, "Alright, pick one, and make it the right feeling."

IOW are you noticing a pattern here? I have mixed feelings about this, on the one hand I think it was a good thing that I did it, and on the other hand, it was upsetting to my family and for me, it was probably the best thing, but my mate is having a hard time moving on, or whatever, and so just pick: I've made the decision and I've done this and it was a good thing for me to do for these reasons. And as you look for the positive aspects of what you have done, instead of for the defending reasons of why you've done it... what happens is your vibration clears up and then it gets better and better and better.

Guest: This has to do with our children. This is the only reason why we have to stay in contact with each other. And there is huge disagreements (sic) about the children.

Abraham: Well, we want to give you something that you may not have considered. Every relationship, whether you like it or not, or whether you know it or not, every relationship is eternal. And so just like that stuff that we were talking about that has a vibration, all of these people -- even your children, your children have the activated vibration of both of their parents within them. In other words, their relationship with each of you is always active, and so for you to think that you can put enough distance, or enough time, between you and someone you've been with in that way, you cannot ever, you just have to accept that it is an eternal relationship, and stop trying to sever it the way that you tried to sever it by divorce.

IOW, that's the thing that goes so wrong with with most people who attempt divorce is they attempt the impossible. They say, we'll get legal documents, we'll get the judge to declare us separated. And we say you can't get separated from somebody like that. You're not really separated from the person you met in the elevator for a while, there's vibrational merging that has taken place, you see, so stop trying to accomplish the impossible,

Instead say, "Alright, we have this relationship. Not we had a relationship,  not we had a marriage, but we have a relationship, and now I am going to approach this relationship in the way that serves me best which means I'm going to think the thoughts that feel best to me about this relationship.

Can you feel the difference? We want to teach you to soothe your energy because we know, we have an aerial view, we see all the stuff you want; we see it all lined up outside your door, and we know all we need to do is help you to soothe yourself, and the stuff you want will come in.

We're not trying to soothe you so that you'll get back together with him, we're trying to soothe you so you can get back together with you. IOW, you can't think mean thoughts about somebody -- no matter how justified they are -- without separating you from Who You Are because that's not Who You Are. You're a lover even if they don't deserve it. You're an unconditional lover even if they don't deserve it, you see.

Almost all of you are offering your thoughts, and your words, and your actions, because you're still trying to defend the action that you took which you are still trying to justify. And we want to say to you, you don't have to justify it. You made the right decision. It's alright that this divorce has happened, now just get back together with you, and you're going to discover, maybe not right away, but eventually, that it's a lot easier on you to love this person, and it will be a lot easier on your children for you to love this person.

We were visiting with a woman recently who had an upheaval with her brother. And to hear her tell it, it was all his fault. But the longer she talked, the longer you could see, he shoved her a little, and she shoved him, and he shoved her, and she shoved him. And before long neither one of them were even close to Who They Are and they both blamed each other for how they were feeling.

You just gotta bring yourself back into vibrational alignment and when you do, not that your family will come back together, in the way it did physically, but you will back into alignment with yourselves individually, and then you'll be a happy family that no longer lives together.

What you really want is to live happily apart, not just to "Be Apart" and live however that turns out. You want to be happy first, and apart. Or happy first, and together, but happy is what matters you see.

And you've got control about that, really, you do.

Guest: Thank you.

Abraham: Yes, indeed.

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False Choice Between Your Church's Agenda and Call of Source

Guest: I was raised in a very strict, oppressive religion; I was raised specifically in the Morman Church. And as I follow my guidance system, and as I learn this, it feels so good. And where this initially came from was the day I was so frustrated: I said everyone has an agenda. My mom's agenda is to get me to go to this church. And the Church's agenda is to get me to go here. And my friends just want me to go out and get drunk... 

I just want some guidance. (snip) I'm having such a hard time because this feels so good, but there are some aspects of it that conflict with my beliefs and what I was raised (with)...that are so core, it feels like that's me, and that's Source, and how can i leave that religion behind without feeling that I'm disconnecting from Source and from God?


Abraham: Well, we think the thing that is most bothersome about this is it feels to you like you have to choose this, and by choosing this, whatever it is,  push against that. In other words it's like saying I say "Yes" to you, and I say "No" to you. And what we want you to understand is that in the same way that there are aspects of what you are hearing here that are appealing to you - some will resonate with what they hear from Abraham, some will resonate (with) what they hear from someone else.  Don't ask anything to be the right thing for everyone, just pick from it what is right for you where you are and let it be the next logical step for you. 

So when you look at your church and you say it served me so well and still serves me so well in this aspect, and this aspect, and this aspect. You don't have to close the door on something. And what may be troubling you is that church is like almost every other church, it wants you to close the door on everything else.  It wants to say to you, everything that you are looking for is here.

And the reason that that flies in the face of the eternal expanding universe of which you are intuitively a part is because you know that something that has been created cannot stand still. IOW, everything has to continue to expand. And so you in your life experience are becoming more than what your understanding of what that particular chuch is allowing you to become. And so you are feeling sort of bound by it, and then you feel guilty as you try to move beyond it.

And we say the True Essence of that church, and every other, would say to you that you are an Eternal Being, would say to you that the The Source that you are reaching for you have access to. So don't say "No" to it, just say "Yes" to the aspects of Life that are calling you and you will discover that the connection to Source that you at one time looked for there, can be in many different places that it doesn't reside within A Religion it doesn't reside within the walls of a building, it resides in the Universal Forces and  it is a vibration that you tune into and you and you have access to it you see.

And then don't go running around, as most in most churches do, and  proclaim that you found something so much better, just live your alignment and when you live your alignment you find value everywhere you look you see.


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Seth on Botox. (Sort of.)

Seth,  03/02/76

Seth: Now: it may seem to most people that an exuberant, always-vital, energetic, healthy body would indeed be one of the greatest gifts of all--a body that never worried or showed signs of any disorder, a body that went ahead on its own, so to speak, propelled by feelings of strength and vigor.

This certainly sounds like a fine ideal. Yet I tell you that in such a body you would finally feel like a prisoner, for your moods and reflections, your feelings and your thoughts, would find no responsive mirror in your flesh.

You would wear a constant smile, and your blooming cheeks would often deny the heart's hard-earned knowledge.

It is natural and HEALTHY to yearn for a comfortable body if you are in health difficulties. The body, however, is NOT an assumed facade, but the physical materialization in your world of your inner being. All of nature is responsive, pliant, changing, each part connected with each other part.

It is quite natural, then, that during a lifetime you experience various assorted periods of temporary illness.

These will be caused by your beliefs and your feelings, but they will not be necessarily negative at all, but a demonstration of the body's responsiveness. It is not realistic to expect a life of unending, exuberant health, with no momentary lapses of any kind.

Such momentary lapses follow personal and cultural patterns. Some generations fall heir to certain fashionable diseases, for example. The body copes with inner and exterior reality, and performs a marvelous job of maintaining multitudinous balances.

Ideally, the body would always right itself after such lapses from exuberant health--but even those lapses often exercise that resiliency. Maintaining that resiliency, then, is the important issue. Many such lapses are exaggerated because of your beliefs, so that they are experienced in a more drastic form than necessary. GENERALLY drugs impede that resiliency.

Often your medical beliefs as a culture stabilize conditions that, left alone, would right themselves. As you know, this can apply for example to children being given eyeglasses. IN THE SITUATION IN WHICH YOU FIND YOURSELVES, however, eyeglasses become a more practical alternative because you do not possess the proper mental methods to offset the current belief system.

The mind may want to react. The individual may realize that his or her pace has been too fast, and so natural feelings bring about a lethargy of body, or a slight fever, or an indisposition--all quite natural, resilient activities. I do not want this ever to be interpreted to mean, a priori, and in conventional terms, that "suffering is good for the soul". A reliance and faith in the natural self, however, would be large enough to accept certain indispositions without fear, panic, or doubt.

With the best of intent most public health announcements shout the symptoms of critical diseases to the skies, so that the smallest of indispositions become the trigger for personal fear on the part of millions. Such announcements actually teach people to fear what might be happening within the body. There is a stress upon disease rather than health.

When such beliefs are shared by an entire society, then the slightest indisposition is instantly suspect.


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He Wants A Million Dollars But He Doesn't Want To Go Work For It Part 3

Part One here, and Part Two here.

Guest: I was wondering if I was creating too big, if I was trying to make something too big, and the gap between what I wanted and where I am was too big and that was causing some of the grief.


Abraham: Well surely a million dollars is not too big from where you stand. That's just not too big.

Guest: It's actually wasn't even a million dollars, it's $150,000.  The million was just something I made up. (Laughs.)

Abraham: Esther was listening to Donald Trump, and she was listening to the words he chose. And he uses words like "Oh, it's a juggernaut. Oh, it's a sure success. Oh, it's the most sensational building that has ever been built. We're building the most beautiful building in Chicago that has ever been built. Oh, it's magnificent. Oh that person is a friend of mine."

And as she listened, she began to realize that he's figured it out. Now he annoys most of the world, but you know what? He doesn't care. He has developed a relationship between what he wants and where he is even when what he wanted and where he was were not in the same place, you would not know it to hear him. In other words, he continued to tell the story the way he wanted it to be, and so the Universe continues to yield to him. Now there are all kind of people that say, "Oh he's a braggart. Oh, of course he can talk like that, he's a billionaire." And we say he wasn't always, he was talking like that and then he became that you see.

And so, you don't have to follow his lifestyle or his personality, but you do have to follow the success principals that he's found. You gotta talk about what you want. You gotta tell it like you want it to be. You can't face reality and have reality change in any way. You've gotta face the parts of reality that you love, and fill in the gaps with things that you get from your imagination or from your expectation. 

And before you know it, you see... And so here you are and you've got a lot of good things in your life which you accentuate and talk about and appreciate and make lists of. So you make lists of positive aspects and you get on rampages of appreciation, and you look for good wherever you see it, and you feel good as much as you can.

And then you have goals that you don't know how you're going to achieve. So then, you fill those in with imagination and visualization and pretending. And then as you start doing that you'll have a dream about it that makes it feel more real. Or you'll meet somebody that's really living that way. Or you'll turn on the television and somebody will be talking just like you've been imagining. Or you'll pick up a book. Or you'll hear another interview. In other words, the Universe will help you to rendezvous with whatever the vibration is that you've finally achieved.

And little by little, you just work yourself in to where you've filled in the gaps that you're not now living with your vibration as you've used your imagination. The Universe does not know the difference between someone who has a million dollars and someone who just feels like they have a million dollars.

And when you feel like you have it, your vibration is such that Law of Attraction must line you up with things like that. And that's true whether you're talking about relationships; whether you're talking about the building of empires; whether you're talking about attracting people to help you with your business, It doesn't matter what it is, you've got to find the vibration of it, and you've got to practice the vibration of it until the vibration of your desire, supersedes the Vibration of your Doubt. And when the vibration of desire supersedes your Vibration of Doubt, Bam. It happens. 


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He Wants A Million Dollars But He Doesn't Want To Go Work For It Part 2

Part One here.

Guest: It seems like the resistance is so subtle; it's like its somewhere in the background of the drama you don't even recognize it.


Abraham: We wouldn't call it "subtle", well, maybe that's a good word for it, but we would use a more blunt word, and that is "I've practiced contradictory thoughts so long, that they feel natural."

And so when you start imagining having a million dollars, and we're going to play here with you for just a little bit, but when you start imagining what that means, and we don't want you to just get a million dollars and stop, you're going to want a million dollars always at your disposal. You're going to want to spend that and have another on its heels, because we promise you once you get used to millions of dollars moving through your experience, a million dollars won't last you very long.  Because you begin to live in a way...and... your property taxes go way up.

So what is it that we are wanting you to trust in? The fact that you can be or do or have anything.  How is that we want you to approach it? Slowly and gently. We want you to be happy with where you are. You have to make peace with where you are. 

So you can't say, "Oh my life is miserable, and I have to do all these things I don't want to do and boy if I had a million dollars then I wouldn't do any of these things because... can you feel how jumbled the energy is?

What you're saying is "Universe, I'm miserable and unhappy where I stand, please give me something that will make it better." And the Universe says, "Sorry, we can only give you more things that will make you miserable," because that's the vibe you're offering.

And you say, well how do I offer something other than...I want to be over there and I'm over here.

And we say well, talk about what's over there. And most people have a very difficult time talking about what's over there because they've been talking so long and hard with such detail about what's over here that that's what is active in their vibration. And that's why we're talking about these emotional journey. You've got to talk yourself into a different vibe and then different things will come to you.

Part 3 here.


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He Wants A Million Dollars But He Doesn't Want To Go Work For It Part 1

Guest: I want to go create million dollars, but I don't want to go to work for it.

Abraham: Well, your statement is really telling and really important because what you're saying is " I want a million dollars, and I believe that there are ways to get a million dollars that I don't want to do." So what you're doing is saying, "I want this, but I don't want this," and that's not a very powerful state of being because you're setting  contradiction up right away.

So you soften that by saying, "I want a million dollars and I want to find a way that is compatible with me to receive it." Now there's less resistance in that. You say, "I want a million dollars, and I know that there are a lot of people who have a million dollars, who got it in a way that would be not be uncomfortable to me."

But when you say, "I want a million dollars, but there is no one  I'm going to inherit it from; or I want a million dollars, but nobody that I know is going to die and leave it to me... IOW, you've got to stop the contradiction.

When you talk about what you want, and why you want it, there is usually less resistance within you than when you talk about what you want and how you're going to get it because when you pose questions that you don't have answers for like how, where, when,who, then it sets up a contradiction vibration within you that slows everything down.

Statements such as "There must surely be many people on this planet today, who have a million dollars, and in excess of it, who at one time were standing right where I am, just wanting it, and having no idea how it was going to come. Feel how resistance-free that statement is.

Words like "Faith" and "Trust" are so annoying on some levels, but we want to explain to you the value of them because even though you don't know how, or where, or when, or who, if you know what, and you've talked about why you want it, and you've practiced the thought of it until it's starting to feel very familiar to you, what begins to happen is things that couldn't happen to you now, begin happening, and ideas that wouldn't even occur to you now,  begin to occur to you, and rendezvous with people that you don't have access to now, begin to happen, and when your million and many more come to you, you will wonder where it always was.

Part 2 here. Part 3 here.


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Reality is Old News

Abraham, Phoenix AZ, 12/5/09

You want to say, "Reality is OLD NEWS!"

Even what's manifested right now, it's old news, it's past tense. The money in my bank account right now is past tense. My physical bodily conditions right now are past tense.

They're past tense because there is a vibrational reality that's new and vivid and current, and it's who I really am, and it's based on that (which) all of my emotions ARE.

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