How to Leave Childhood Insecurities Behind

Guest: I've done a lot of belief work and I've found the beliefs that when I get very up, when I get very excited, enthusiastic there are certain beliefs I've found that bring me down.  And of course, I activate them, but I've discovered the beliefs are basically "I'm not worthy", "I'm not good enough", basically garden variety beliefs. And I've worked hard...

Abraham: And what is a belief other than a thought you keep thinking. The word 'belief' makes it sound power and important doesn't it. A thought that you keep thinking just makes it sound like a thought that you keep thinking. So we want to play with you a little bit and say, why do you keep thinking a thought that doesn't feel good and you say, "Well, because it's a belief!" We say, Yes, but why would you continue to beat the drum of something that doesn't feel good when you beat the drum of it, you see. Do you have an answer?

Guest: I was taught it very forcefully when I was young and that's my guess.

Abraham: Because you were wanting to please someone else?

Guest: Sure. I was wanting to believe the person that taught me these things. Because they were important to me, their respect was important to me.

Abraham: Yes.

Guest. And now it's hard to shake, isn't it? These beliefs don't make sense, and yet they still arise under certain scenarios.

Abraham: Do you think the person that taught then to you...what do you think their greatest motive was? In other words, when someone teaches you something what do you think their motive is for imparting this information to you?

Guest: I could think of ... my brother gave me a lot of these messages. He wanted to make me tough. He he wanted me to be a tough little brother, so he said means things to me to make me strong, I guess, that was his....

Abraham: But do you think his true motive was?

Guest: To make himself feel better? I don't know.

Abraham: But related to you, in other words, if you are guiding someone and giving them what you consider to be your best information, what's your motive? Why do you guide someone? Why do you teach them to be tough? Because you believe they will be better off if they are tough. Why do you teach them the things that you do? IOW, there are few exceptions to the reason being you believe that it is the best for them. IOW most people that are guiding you in most ways, are doing so...

It's like our friend said earlier, his sister is trying to save him. She's not trying to send him to Hell. She's trying to send him to Heaven. She's trying to save him from what she sees are problems. And most people who are guiding you in most ways, really, really mean well, you see.

And so when you say, What do I do now about shaking those beliefs that no longer serve me?  We say get to the bottom of the reason that somebody tried to impart them to you to begin with and accept that that reason was that they wanted you to thrive and they wanted things to go well for you, and then just fast forward to things going well for you, and then thank them for their part in it.

That's a really fast way to shift those beliefs because when you say to someone, "You taught me things that don't serve me. You taught me things that I hate. You taught me things that are wrong." All they do is puff up and try to teach you more of them.

But when you say, "Thank you, for your part, in helping me to be the joyous person that I am" it is our promise for you that in the majority of cases they were wanting your success, and when you emmanate your thriving, many of them they are soothed and then they press less hard about the details that they are trying to teach you.

Guest: And that's what's happening now in my relationship with my brother, but those beliefs still arise.

Abraham: You see what happens, when you're little, or when you're not little, but when you are feeling insecure, and you express your insecurity to someone else,  they want to help you. They want to teach you something.

And so what happens to a lot of you is you felt insecure, you ask others to help you feel more secure,  and then they started giving you their opinion which now you resent. And we say, in the majority of cases they wouldn't have been trying to help you if you weren't feeling vulnerable and asking for something from them, you see.

And so now what's happening and we hear this, you know this, but what happens is... So you were insecure, and from your insecure place, you attracted somebody who tried to tell you what to do. And now you're not insecure anymore, you want them to go away.  And we want to say to you they wouldn't even be there if there wasn't still some of that vibration of insecurity within you, you see.

And that's why your question was worded so perfectly when you say, "I guess I've got these beliefs."  And that's why we said, "And what's a belief. It's a thougth you keep thinking. So, are you feeling how full circle we've come?

You don't have to go back and unlearn those things. You don't have to back and stop believing those things. You just have to believe so clearly, which means practice so clearly, the thoughts that feel good to you when you practice them now,  and only things that match what you're offering now vibrationally can come to you, you see. You can attract the best of your now brother to you now, but you got to stop beating the drum of who he was or who you were, or how what he said affected you then, or how what he said affects you now. Yes?


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They Show You What is Active in Your Vibration

Abraham-Hicks, 3/23/02, Phoenix, AZ

We have a new game for you to play. And the game goes like this. “I’ve decided in my physical human form that I’m going to take complete ultimate only responsibility for everything that happens to me. I’m not ever again" ... (it’ll take a little getting used to)... "I’m not ever again going to blame somebody else for where I am, for how I’m feeling, for what’s happening to me.”

Can you imagine if everyone would say “It’s my job.. my life is MY job.” So you don’t blame your mate anymore; you don’t blame your kids; you don’t blame your parents; you don’t blame your teacher; you don’t blame circumstances. You say “I take FULL responsibility.”

The reason that this is ultimately so satisfying is because you have only ever always, only ever always, only ever always, been the only ever always one who could only ever always do anything about anything in your life experience. Nobody else can do anything. In other words, asking someone else to change even if they’re willing, even if they can do it for 5 or 10 or 15 or 20 years, even if you can get somebody else to contain their behavior so that you will feel better, you are the ONLY one EVER who can do anything about it.

And so, when you stop and think about it and you think... hmm, let’s talk about the uprising, the seemingly eternal uprising in the Middle East. Everyone thinking that somebody else should do something different. And no one else is willing to do it different for the other. And we say, can you imagine how peaceful and wonderful experiences could be if each individual would understand that “Hey, I can do something. I can do something.” And what is it that we’re asking you to do? We’re asking you to choose any thought, any word, any action that allows who you are to come back in this moment.

So... You’re so angry at your mate, or your mother, or someone... someone you work with, someone you work for. And they just seem to be ruining your life because they will not change their behavior. You do no seem to be important enough to them to change their behavior which hurts your feelings a great deal. And then you discover “Wait a minute! They don’t have to change a thing in order for me to feel better. I can start looking for positive aspects. I can look for things within them that make me feel good.”

“Oh that’s impossible” you say... “there is so much that is bad and not much that’s good. In fact I haven’t seen a glimmer of anything that’s good for so very long.” And we say, there are other subjects to which you could give your attention. “Well maybe,” you say reluctantly. “My dog. My dog is easy to love.. or my cat.”

And we say... do whatever it takes to find something to be your object of attention. And as you give your attention to something that allows you to feel good, you’ve done something about this relationship that was bothering you. In fact, if you will make it your work to feel good, every relationship that you have will be one that pleases you.

Now that’s offensive to some of you because you’ve been holding others as being responsible for you feeling good for so long that it’s sort of hard to let loose of that. It’s sort of hard to let them be whatever they need to be while you selectively choose whatever you need to choose to feel good. And we know friends that it would be a lot easier for you to do this if they’d learned it first. (laughter), but you can’t wait for them to figure this out and you don’t need to because once you figure it out, your life is going to feel so much better.

It does not matter how many aspects of whatever it is that you’re giving your attention to that’s making you feel bad. It does not matter how many negative aspects there are. It is our absolute knowing that in there somewhere are some positive aspects.

Now, it might be that the way your relationship has been evolving that you have begun to focus upon the aspects that you don’t like. So you have activated that part of your vibration to an art. So that when you come together with this person or these people that what they mostly show you is that part that is most active in your vibration. DID YOU HEAR THAT? WHAT THEY MOSTLY SHOW YOU, IS THE PART THAT IS MOST ACTIVE IN YOUR VIBRATION.

It’s such a wonderful thing... did you hear that? What they keep showing you is the part of them that is most active in YOUR vibration. And all this time you thought it was their doing. It is the part that is most active in your vibration. That’s why when we say to you, “Somebody should do something about it” the person that we’re ALWAYS talking about is YOU... not them, YOU.

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