Abraham: Feel Good Now, It's Important!

Abraham: You're right. You should feel bad. But feeling bad only makes tomorrow worse. You've got to feel good now!

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Abraham: Mother Feels Fear for Child's Fear

How to Leave Childhood Insecurities Behind

Guest: I've done a lot of belief work and I've found the beliefs that when I get very up, when I get very excited, enthusiastic there are certain beliefs I've found that bring me down.  And of course, I activate them, but I've discovered the beliefs are basically "I'm not worthy", "I'm not good enough", basically garden variety beliefs. And I've worked hard...

Abraham: And what is a belief other than a thought you keep thinking. The word 'belief' makes it sound power and important doesn't it. A thought that you keep thinking just makes it sound like a thought that you keep thinking. So we want to play with you a little bit and say, why do you keep thinking a thought that doesn't feel good and you say, "Well, because it's a belief!" We say, Yes, but why would you continue to beat the drum of something that doesn't feel good when you beat the drum of it, you see. Do you have an answer?

Guest: I was taught it very forcefully when I was young and that's my guess.

Abraham: Because you were wanting to please someone else?

Guest: Sure. I was wanting to believe the person that taught me these things. Because they were important to me, their respect was important to me.

Abraham: Yes.

Guest. And now it's hard to shake, isn't it? These beliefs don't make sense, and yet they still arise under certain scenarios.

Abraham: Do you think the person that taught then to you...what do you think their greatest motive was? In other words, when someone teaches you something what do you think their motive is for imparting this information to you?

Guest: I could think of ... my brother gave me a lot of these messages. He wanted to make me tough. He he wanted me to be a tough little brother, so he said means things to me to make me strong, I guess, that was his....

Abraham: But do you think his true motive was?

Guest: To make himself feel better? I don't know.

Abraham: But related to you, in other words, if you are guiding someone and giving them what you consider to be your best information, what's your motive? Why do you guide someone? Why do you teach them to be tough? Because you believe they will be better off if they are tough. Why do you teach them the things that you do? IOW, there are few exceptions to the reason being you believe that it is the best for them. IOW most people that are guiding you in most ways, are doing so...

It's like our friend said earlier, his sister is trying to save him. She's not trying to send him to Hell. She's trying to send him to Heaven. She's trying to save him from what she sees are problems. And most people who are guiding you in most ways, really, really mean well, you see.

And so when you say, What do I do now about shaking those beliefs that no longer serve me?  We say get to the bottom of the reason that somebody tried to impart them to you to begin with and accept that that reason was that they wanted you to thrive and they wanted things to go well for you, and then just fast forward to things going well for you, and then thank them for their part in it.

That's a really fast way to shift those beliefs because when you say to someone, "You taught me things that don't serve me. You taught me things that I hate. You taught me things that are wrong." All they do is puff up and try to teach you more of them.

But when you say, "Thank you, for your part, in helping me to be the joyous person that I am" it is our promise for you that in the majority of cases they were wanting your success, and when you emmanate your thriving, many of them they are soothed and then they press less hard about the details that they are trying to teach you.

Guest: And that's what's happening now in my relationship with my brother, but those beliefs still arise.

Abraham: You see what happens, when you're little, or when you're not little, but when you are feeling insecure, and you express your insecurity to someone else,  they want to help you. They want to teach you something.

And so what happens to a lot of you is you felt insecure, you ask others to help you feel more secure,  and then they started giving you their opinion which now you resent. And we say, in the majority of cases they wouldn't have been trying to help you if you weren't feeling vulnerable and asking for something from them, you see.

And so now what's happening and we hear this, you know this, but what happens is... So you were insecure, and from your insecure place, you attracted somebody who tried to tell you what to do. And now you're not insecure anymore, you want them to go away.  And we want to say to you they wouldn't even be there if there wasn't still some of that vibration of insecurity within you, you see.

And that's why your question was worded so perfectly when you say, "I guess I've got these beliefs."  And that's why we said, "And what's a belief. It's a thougth you keep thinking. So, are you feeling how full circle we've come?

You don't have to go back and unlearn those things. You don't have to back and stop believing those things. You just have to believe so clearly, which means practice so clearly, the thoughts that feel good to you when you practice them now,  and only things that match what you're offering now vibrationally can come to you, you see. You can attract the best of your now brother to you now, but you got to stop beating the drum of who he was or who you were, or how what he said affected you then, or how what he said affects you now. Yes?


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Abraham Video Excerpt: Father/Son Relationship Issues

Abraham counsels a guy on his relationship with his father (excerpted from Law of Attraction in Action DVD):

Abe: So You Messed Up Big Time. So what?

Abraham - San Francisco, CA, 3/16/02

Abraham: We are wanting to help you find a way of accepting once and for all the perfection of who you are, and we want so much for you to find this place where you really are so sure of who you are that anyone else’s opinion of who you are does not matter at all.

In other words, we want you to be able to... mess something up altogether or blow an exam or crash your car or do any other number of things [to which] much of the world would say, “Well, that was certainly an inappropriate thing for you to do,” and we want you to be able to stand proudly and say, “Hey, I did that and it doesn’t have any relationship to who I am.” 

In other words, “Who I am is Source energy physically embodied. Who I am is pure positive energy out here on the leading edge.... Who I am is an eternal seeker of alignment with who I am, but I’m not going to let any outside standards or judgments confuse me about who I am,” and we feel that’s what is at the basis of all of this for you. When you let somebody in really close where they might really know [you], then you start worrying about what they really think, and we want all of you to reach the place where it just doesn’t matter to you so much what anybody else thinks -- it only matters to you how you feel. And when you reach that place then you attract those people that agree with that.

Does that make some sense to you?

We do not believe that anyone could sit in a room like this... and hear someone like Abraham, who knows the perfection of who you are, telling you how good you are, how wonderful you are, how really right you are, how really expansive and ever-changing you are, and we don’t think that any of you could get it even close to the way we know it and mean it. What we hope to do is to incite within you a desire to train yourself into that dominant thought. We want you to train yourself into self-appreciation. And you just do it one little thought at a time.

Want to talk some more?

Guest: No—that’s perfect.

Abe: One little thought at a time. We want your mistakes—whatever they may be—to strike you as humorous. [When it comes to] your opinion of yourself, no matter what, we want you to look for redeeming features. We no longer want the insecure masses who have surrounded you, who have used your errors as their justification for feeling better, who have convinced you that you are unworthy and inappropriate and flawed in this way and this way and this way as you don’t measure up to who knows what standards—we want you to just stand and sort of shake yourself off and begin saying, “I really don’t give a rip what any of you are thinking because none of you have concentrated upon me fairly. None of you have really known—none of you know who I am, none of you know how I am from Source, none of you have walked in my shoes. Nobody knows. Nobody knows. I have accepted this feeling of unappreciation unfairly and I’ve practiced it, and I’m no longer gonna do it.”