Abraham on Parents, Teens and Piercings

Abraham-Hicks Jan/Feb/Mar 1997 newsletter

GUEST: I don’t get along with my father very well. He has very contradictory ideas about what I want to do, and I was wondering, if he wants something very strongly... Well, I want to pierce my belly button and he does not want me to do that. It’s like a sin, and so if he is wanting very much for me to have a whole complete belly button without any holes or anything, and I am wanting to have a belly ring, how will that work out?

ABRAHAM: All right, now, let us show you what’s happening here. Teenagers are the one example in all of the Universe that defies the Law of Attraction as we know it to be. (group laughs) We are having fun with you.

What happens with any two groups or two armies or any two people that are wanting something different from the other...what happens is, as your father knows clearly what he does not want and gives that his attention, he is disempowered, which makes him mad at you, because it is his attention to you that makes him feel so bad. As you see your father as someone big and strong and in your way from what you want, you are disempowered, which makes you want to blame him for the way you feel. You’re both using each other as your excuse to not be connected to your Energy Stream.

So as each of you, independently from each other, focuses upon what you don’t want, momentarily, because that’s always the best way to identify what you do want. So your father would say, “Well I know what I don’t want. I don’t want her puncturing her body. I know what I don’t want. I don’t want her wearing something that is a symbol of something that I don’t feel comfortable with. It could mean any number of things, but it is representation of something that I am not at one with. I don’t want her getting a belly button ring because I wouldn’t get one. I don’t want her getting a belly ring because it makes her appear to be something other than what I want her to appear to be.”

Now, having said that, his desire may be erupting within him, and so then he could begin saying, “What I want to include, relative to my daughter, is I want her to be so at one with who she is that she acknowledges that all is well with her. I want her to feel so self-sufficient about who she is that she doesn’t have to do anything faddish in order to fit in. I want her to feel so confident and so comfortable and so connected to who she is that she just radiates the essence of that and doesn’t feel any desire to go the way of the fad. I want her to acknowledge that her magnificent body is young and beautiful and delicious, and I want her desire to be to hold it in that place forevermore.”

Now, if your father is saying those kinds of things to you, we don’t think you’d feel so much resistance about it. When he taps into the pure essence of his Nonphysical Energy and expresses that to you, you would not feel nearly so much resistance.

Now, let’s say that you’re saying, “I don’t want somebody telling me what I can and cannot do. I don’t want somebody else making their decisions for me. I don’t want somebody else making the decisions about what I do with my own body.” So you know what you don’t want. And then you begin making your statements of inclusion. “I want my daddy to realize that I’m all grown up. I want him to know that I really know what I’m doing. I want to be self-sufficient. I want to be...”

All of a sudden, when you both start including, you find yourself saying the same kinds of things. In other words, you are in absolute harmony about what you want. And the belly ring is superfluous to any of it. Get it or don’t get it. It doesn’t matter. You can both still have what you want.

(c) Abraham Hicks Publications

Abraham Video Excerpt: Father/Son Relationship Issues

Abraham counsels a guy on his relationship with his father (excerpted from Law of Attraction in Action DVD):

A Dad's Abraham Advice to his Children

Blogger's note: This is an email forwarded to Jerry and Esther and published online from a very present Abraham Dad to his kids after he attended a series of seminars:

To My Dear Children,

I think a father can only write a letter like this once a lifetime. It will be relatively short and to the point. But print this and reference it for the next 100 years...

You have been raised in love. That is unarguable... You even finally have come to love each other, as well as translate your love natures into healthy and blessed relationships with current partners.

The big buzz with you guys has been: “What will I do? Be? What profession? When?Where?” I have been on the sidelines, coaching, listening, supporting, counseling—as you each continue to parachute into your lives as loving beings.

However, I’ve felt restricted in communicating with you. The bandwidth of possibilities, choices, the possible and probable futures were missing to communicate the other key component besides Love, Truth, and its attendant clarity. Thank goodness for the living confirmation of Divine Intelligence and the clarity of teaching that you have now witnessed with Abraham. 

And what you heard:

You have a living, all-Knowing, Godlike Inner Being, who absolutely knows what you want and helps you get it. You will have whatever you summon. No exceptions. And if you guys REALLY take this seriously and learn this system, it will put Harvard, Stanford degrees, Rosie O’Donnell, Arthur Anderson, Bonnie, Andy, etc. in the permanent rear view mirror. 

Tag—You Are It! THIS IS YOUR EDGE. TAKE THIS SYSTEM TO HEART. 

Find your place of joy as tho’ it is the most important search of your life, and when you find it - STAY THERE, and from there, orchestrate those events that you want. Talk about knowing somebody in High Places. It’s you! And the Universe and your life will absolutely mirror whatever you believe they will give you.

So, Dad’s advice: Be insatiable. Demand and expect the best. Become churning Vortexes for whatever you desire. Order the best meal in the house. And then find a new best meal. You are a fully enfranchised part of the power of life itself. Learn that. Feel that. Allow that. That is your MASTER’s degree.

YOU CANNOT FIT INTO THE WORLD. EVERYTHING YOU SEE WILL CONSISTENTLY ALTER ITSELF TO REFLECT WHAT YOU SEE YOURSELF AS. SO EXPAND AND ENRICH YOURSELF INTO THIS LARGER SELF VIEW and your adventures, from this point on, will come to reflect this larger, happier and more empowered YOU.

This is the edge I can give you. I am proud to say that it is the ULTIMATE edge any parent can give their child. So the time approaches for your adulthood, and I wanted you to understand your TRUTH and to see the truth demonstrated in the light of day. Now walk and breathe and command this truth. Become the emerging gods/goddesses that you are. Bring in the money, friends, adventures, skills, and challenges. Your degrees are important. But if you ALLOW yourselves to grow and operate from your true stature, you will summon THE BEST.

Over and out,

Dad

Abraham: Did His Father Abandon Him or Free Him?

Abraham - San Francisco, CA 8/10/02

G: It's simple to say that he (his birth father) abandoned me, but now...

A: Or freed you.

G: I hadn't thought about it that way because

A: Freed you to be the chooser of your life without the influence of someone already undecided and unsure.

G: And troubled, he had...

A: Someone who wants more than anything to be of value. Who recognizes that he cannot guide his own life, what possibility does he have of guiding another...

G: Oh Abraham, this is wonderful.

A: ...and wisely said, "You'll do alright."

G: He used to spend a lot of his time in his fishing boat. He didn't, he was very much a loner.

A: He was much more a connected being than you have ever been allowed to believe that he was. Because those who wanted to justify to you his absence, had to make his being gone, wrong.

G: Ahhhh, exactly.

A:They couldn't let his absence be a noble thing, or a virtuous thing, or a guided thing, or a connected thing. It had to be a wrong thing. So you were spoon fed misinformation.

G: Because he got a lot of this ying, ying, yang from his family.

A: Of course he did. He did not stay put. And he did not allow them to pigeonhole him. And he refused to suffer in the ways that they chose to suffer.

G: Well now, because of the vibrational match, now Abraham, I did the very same thing. I fathered a child in another part of the world.

A: And then that child is blessed as you have been blessed.

G: Ahhhaaa. When I think of all the cheap melodrama I've gone through in my own head about all this. I don't have any guilt anymore. I freed him, too. Didn't I?

A: You did what so many of you intend to do. You come forth and provide an avenue for focused consciousness to have physical experience understanding that while guidance can be beneficial, that guidance is always coming from broader perspective and that Well Being is the order of things.

And so we're just using your example to sort of balance things out just a little bit. There's no right or wrong behavior. We're not saying it's wrong for a father to leave, or it's wrong for a father to stay. Or it's right to live in this way - wrong to live in that way. What we are saying is, you can't get it wrong. And your father didn't get it wrong. And you didn't get it wrong.

And anybody who's decided to make that wrong, is just using that as their temporary excuse to not allow themselves to have all of the riches that this environment is offering to them otherwise, you see.

You can use anything you want as your excuse to not allow Well Being in. And it is amazing how flimsy some of these excuses are. And on your world stage, many would say, "Abraham, this is far from a flimsy excuse...

We would focus in the more poignant now. We would make our relationship with our Source...

G: Oh, all right.

A: about things that you understand fully...

G: Yes, yes.

A: and not nebulous things you are piecing together. Since your father is not unhappy or unhealthy; since there is nothing that can be gained by going back and retracing it, then we just do not encourage it.

We encourage you instead to find something that is tangible in your NOW. And use that to activate your vibration and connect to your Source Energy, as a result of something that is more current.

It is exactly the reason that we think thses virtual realities are so lovely, and delicious, and life giving, and helpful. In other words, we would rather you get into a pure fantasy - than face any kind of factual reality, if the factual reality has the potential of taking you into a place that does not feel good.