What is it with Baldness / Hair Loss Anyway?

Abraham, Asheville, NC 05/31/09

Guest: What is it with male pattern baldness. Why is it we lose our hair? And most people in the same spot?

Abraham: Don't look over there! (Abraham and guest look at Jerry – crowd laughs) Well it's expectation. It isn't only that you inherit the propensity which is expectation also, but after you inherit the propensity, you inherit the expectation. You just get what you expect. That's why there are much more significant issues on the same subject.. like why do we decline as we move through time? The answer is your manifestations follow the pattern of your thought. Your thought creates resistance.

Guest: Can we bring it back?

Abraham: If you are willing to get in the vortex about it, your body will respond. You have the wherewithal to get any physical condition you are asking for. Could you get taller? Yes. Could you get stronger? Yes. Could you feel more vital? Yes. Can you change the nature of your physical body? Yes. But what if my hormones or my chemistry has changed? Well, your body has changed in response to your expectations.

Let's go deeper. Let's talk about cellular expectations. Do I have the ability to focus my mind in such a way to influence the behavior of those cells? Absolutely! Most people don't believe they can, so they don't bother trying. In other words, most people just accept what is, and complain about it. Almost every behavior you see when people are wanting to reduce, or change their bodies in some way, almost all of that behavior is out-of-the-vortex behavior, where if they work hard, and struggle hard enough then they believe they will get results and they get the results to the degree that they expect them.

But oh, wouldn't it be wonderful to get in the vortex, to line up with who you really are, and from inside the vortex utilize the energy that creates worlds to flow towards something that you want. If a healer can influence wellness in another who is sick, surely that same healer can shift the cells in his own body!

Guest: Wouldn't it be better to just get in the vortex and try to get comfortable about not having the hair now?

Abraham: Well, that's the starting place. If you get in the vortex and then focus on that subject then the vortex will spit you out. So the first step in staying in the vortex on that subject is to make peace with what-is. You've been hearing us talking about making peace with what-is. Making peace with it means not pushing against it. And not pushing against it is like meditation. When you make peace with it, there is no longer resistance, and now the vortex takes you right in.

Guest: And then you ask for it?

Abraham: You've already asked for it. Now you line up with what you've asked for. Just get your mind off it. If we were standing in your physical shoes, no matter what issue we were trying to find improvement on, we would just use any excuse we could find all day long to get in the vortex. We'd just get in no matter what! Why? To improve your life? Sure. To get stuff you want? Of course. But the REASON we'd get in the vortex is it just feels so good! Clarity feels so good! Surefootedness feels so good! Worthiness feels so good! Certainty in who I am and my well-being feels so good.

We'd get in the vortex because it feels good, not because getting in there will give me the goodies. All the goodies you want, you want because you want to feel good. So when you get in there and feel good they've all gotta come. Just don't be worried about the vortex spitting you out. Now you know how to get right back in. You do. You know how to get back in. You've ust gotta want to be in. Gotta find thoughts that help you in. And don't start with the hard stuff.


© Abraham-Hicks Publications

Abraham on Inherited Traits

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex"- p. 160

Jerry: But aren't there traits that we pass on to our children? In the same way that physical characteristics are passed on, don't we also pass on other traits?

Abraham: What, specifically, are you thinking about?

Jerry: Like capability of mind, capability of body, abilities, health...How much control does that have over me now?

Abraham: You need not be negatively affected by anything, but when you are negatively influenced, it is because you are allowing your active thought to be one that disallows what you really want.

It is quite common to pass negative expectations on from generation to generation, but at any point, a person who recognizes the discord of that negative thought, who recognizes that the negative emotion means that his Inner Being does not agree, can gradually omit those resistant thoughts, which are at the core of all illnesses, diseases, and negative experiences.

(c) Abraham-Hicks Publications

Classic Seth: Birth Defects, Tragedies and Other Severe Conditions

Nature of Personal Reality Session 667: 

From the outside it seems impossible that anyone would choose such a background, such a highly restricted or even painful situation in which to live. From that viewpoint birth defects, or lifetime diseases of any kind, make no sense.

No one begins a race with a handicap, you may say, but that is obviously not the case. Individuals have often chosen such situations precisely as incentives, and many great men have done so. 

This does not mean that such disabilities are necessary. At any point that an individual realizes his point of power in the present, he will not need a barrier to test himself against, or to focus him in what he thinks of as the proper direction.

You live many lives simultaneously. You often think of these as reincarnational existences, one before the other. If you are severely ill and believe that the reasons for your symptoms exist in a past life, that you must "put up with it," then you will not realize that your point of power is in the present, and you will not believe in the possibility of recovery.

Again, even so-called incurable diseases can be healed as long as this does not involve regenerations not possible within the context of creaturehood.

In your terms, birth defects of whatever kind are chosen before this life. This is done for many different reasons (just as people choose to be ill in this life, regardless of the duration involved). That is, a certain psychic framework is set up through which an individual decides "ahead of time" to experience an entire life situation. Some information on this has been given in my other writings.

A person with several existences stressing intellectual achievement might purposely then decide upon a life in which mental abilities are beyond him, and the emotions allowed a full play that he had denied them earlier.

Since all existences are simultaneous, this simply means his stressing certain aspects in this life at the expense of others, you would say and setting up a frame of reference that may seem to be limiting. 

On the other hand the personality involved may see this as a most rewarding and expansive experience, in which the emotions are allowed freedoms ordinarily denied. Characteristically, some personalities prefer lifetime experiences in which accomplishment and development follows an even course. Others demand great contrast. One of the latter may be miserably poor in one life, luxuriously rich in another, an intellectual giant in still another, a great athlete, and then a complete invalid. Individual differences operate then in the kinds of life situations chosen.

In many cases it is the family, rather than the incapacitated member, who questions and does not understand as in cases of severely mentally retarded children, for example. Yet in all instances not only do children choose their parents ahead of time, but parents choose their children, of course.

In such a situation, there are fulfillments to be gained from the parents' standpoints. There are always opportunities of growth and unusual creativity possible under those conditions for all involved. That is why the framework was chosen. The same applies to seeming tragedies such as accidents, or severe illnesses that come at any time.

On an individual basis a grave illness, for instance, will represent the adoption of a particular highly intense focus in which a given aspect of usual experience is deliberately cut out or denied; the context of life itself must then be magnified along other lines. In somewhat the same manner, this also applies to those born in extreme poverty or in the most seemingly unfortunate of family situations. The life challenge is inherent within the problem itself and springs from it. Usually, though not always, a peculiar personal achievement results precisely because of the given difficulty (intently).

Now this accomplishment need not involve some great artwork or invention, or political leadership, for example, though it may. Often the successful activity represents a challenge on the part of the personality who set it in terms of psychological creativity, and the overall enrichment of experience. Those involved, such as family, will have acquiesced to the situation "earlier." 

Often, particularly in the case of mental or physical birth defects, the incapacitated person will be accepting that role not only because of personal reasons; he or she will also be choosing that part for the family as a whole.

Highly intelligent parents, therefore, may find themselves with a retarded child. If they place a great value upon intellect at the expense of the emotions, then the child may be acting out for them the emotional spontaneity of which they are so afraid themselves.

A birth defect is obvious, and sets up certain conditions that cannot be ignored.

Many ordinary illnesses also involve the family group to some degree. The predominating beliefs of the sick person will always be paramount, however. The group situation will encompass an acquiescence on the part of other family members.

Now understand that the same thing applies in the case of unusual achievements. In those instances the achiever's beliefs predominate, and yet apart from this he may also be acting out the unrealized aspirations of his family members, or of the group in which he is intimately involved. There will always be reasons for such interrelationships.

Many great contrasts of a social nature have the same kind of inner meaning; here whole groups of individuals chose particular life situations in which, for example, poverty and illness predominate, while other areas of the world (or of any given nation) enjoy the highest technological advances, wealth and prosperity."

Abe on the Autistic Revolution

Seth on Susan Boyle

[Not really, but this is Seth on those with difficult life situations from birth, often genetic, saying that they set those as challenges in a previous life. I don't know about this. Maybe. It'd be nice, but... I don't know if I'm buying it. Personally, I think I'm going to call bullshit on this one.]

"Suppose the worst, that in this life you have the following background: you are poor, you are of a minority race, you are not intellectual, you are a woman, you have a severe physical defect and you are no beauty. Now you set these challenges for yourself in a so-called past life. This does not mean that you cannot use all of your courage and resolution to solve these problems. You set them in the hope that you will solve them. You did not set them like millstones about your neck, hoping ahead of time that you would drown.

All you have to do is realize your own freedom. You form the reality that you know, not esoterically, not symbolically, not philosophically. Some great oversoul doesn't form it for you — you cannot put the burden there, either. You have in the past, collectively and individually, blamed a god or a fate for the nature of your personal realities—those aspects, indeed that you did not like.

The personality is given the greatest gift of all; you get exactly what you want to get. You create from nothing the experience that is your own. If you do not like your experience, then look within yourself and change it. But realize also that you are responsible for your joys and triumphs, and that the energy to create any of these realities comes from the inner self. What you do with it is up to the individual personality."

(During break class members discussed fate and pre-destination.)

"Some evening I would like our lady over here to talk to me about predestination."

(Bernice M.: "I would like you to talk to me about it.")

"You are not 'programmed.' Nothing happens because it must happen. Every thought that you have now changes reality. Not only reality as you know it, but all reality. No act of yours predisposes a future self to act in a particular manner. There are banks of activity from which you can draw or choose not to draw."

(Bernice M.: "Do we make instantaneous decisions? For example, I was thinking of the Los Angeles earthquake today. A man walked out into the street and was killed by a falling brick. What made this one person in the entire building walk out?")

"This particular individual was quite aware of what would occur, on what you would call an unconscious basis. He was not predestined to die. He chose both the time, in your terms, and the method, for reasons of his own."

(Bernice M.: "Regardless of who chose, it was destined that he die.")

"It was not predestined. He chose. No one chose for him."

(Bernice M.: "But he had made the decision before.")

"Before when?"

(Bernice M.: "Before he was killed.")

"He knew that he was ready to go on to other spheres of activity. Unconsciously, he looked about for the means and chose those immediately available. This particular individual, three days earlier, had made the plan. There was no predestination involved. Because a tree branch falls, this does not mean that it was destined to fall in either the particular manner of its fall nor in the timing of the fall. There is a great difference between free choice and predestination."

(Jim H.: "Didn't you say earlier, referring to the woman who was born in a minority race, that here challenges had been set up by a previous personality, in our terms?")

"By the whole self."

(Jim H.: "The decision was made when that previous personality had returned to the whole self for a period of reevaluation?")

"You must realize, again, that we are speaking of divisions for convenience's sake, where none really exists. At the same "time," so to speak, that this personality is born into a minority race, in a completely different era it may be born rich, secure and aristocratic. It is searching out different methods of experience and expansion. Do you follow me?"

(Jim H.: "I understand. I thought you probably meant the challenges had been set up by the whole self.")

"Indeed. Remember, this is your entire identity of which we are speaking. It is only you who are presently aware of but one portion of it; and this portion you insist upon calling yourself. You are the self who makes these decisions."

(Bert C.: "What recourse would the poor individual who was born with all of these seemingly insurmountable handicaps have, were she to say consciously, at the ego level, 'I just don't want any of this. I would have much preferred to have been born aristocratic'?")

"The inner self realizes, however, that potentials are present that would not necessarily be present under other circumstances—abilities that can not only help the present personality but other individuals, and even society at large.

Your main point of contention is brought about by the emotional barriers that are caused by the difference in terms. It is as if you choose to work for a day in the slums. It would be ridiculous for you to choose to do this, and then say to yourself, 'Why did I choose to work in the slums? I would prefer to work on Fifth Avenue.'

You know the reason, and your entire identity knows the reason. You hide it from the present self simply to insure the fact that the present reality is not a pretended one.

A rich man who tries to be poor for a day to learn what poverty is learns little, because he cannot forget the wealth that is available to him. Though he eats the same poor fare as the poor man, and lives in the same poor house for a day—or for a year or five years—he knows he has his mansion to return to. So you hide these things from yourself so that you can relate. You forget your home so that you can return to it enriched.

Consciousness is not made up of balances so much as it is made up of exquisite imbalances, and the focus of awareness is to some degree the result of this state of excitability. In this state all elements are never known because new ones are always being created. I am not speaking of physical elements, but of the psychological characteristics of consciousness, for even those continually merge and change.

You are not now what you were ten minutes earlier. You are not the same being physically, psychologically, spiritually, or psychically, and ten minutes later you will be different again. To deny this is to try to force consciousness into some rigid form from which it cannot ever be freed, to apply rules to it that make a very neat psychological landscape."

from Seth Speaks

Q to Abe: I want a foot.

Abe: And so what we're suggesting is that you decide with only one criteria in mind -- how does this beating of the drum feel? Is this life-giving? Does this feel good to me? And if it doesn't, put your sticks down right now. Sit on your hands for just a minute. In other words, do everything that you can to case the beating of this drum. Which means, first of all, STOP TALKING ABOUT IT. That's the very first thing that you can do -- stop talking about it. The next thing is stop thinking about it. But you can't stop thinking about something that you're thinking about because Law of Attraction says, "Think about this! Think about this! Think about this! Did you look at this?"

And so as you're sitting on your hands and determining that you're not going to think about it, the next logical thing is, well then what can I think about? And pick something that feels just a little better than that. And before you know it those thoughts will be so far distant, you will have left the beating of that drum so far behind that you will wonder why you ever beat that drum.

Q: But will that change the state of the amputated foot? Will that make the foot grow back?

Abe: Not now. Not in this moment. But we love this question because you've gone right to the heart of what most people ask: "If I follow this process that you are offering, will I then jump from where I don't want to be over to where I do want to be?" And what we want to say is no, not right now. And it shouldn't matter -- that's not the reason that we encouraged you to do it. The reason we encourage you to do it is because you're sucking the life out of yourself with this thought. Why not get a little life back right now? In other words, the answer is: you'll feel better right away, whether the foot grows back or not.

So the question that we'd like to put to you is do you want to be miserable without a foot or happy without a foot?

Q: I want a foot.

Abe: And if you will say, "That's not my criteria, Abraham. I want a foot. I want a foot. I want a foot. And if I can't have a foot then I'm going to be miserable." And we say, but if you're miserable because of this, now you're depriving yourself of this and this and this, until eventually you say, "I'm miserable without a foot, I'm miserable without any teeth, I'm miserable without any money, I'm miserable without a mate. I've pinched off all of my well-being off because I was fixating on this thing that I could not have."

And we say, if you could just try to be joyful anyway. Just try to make the best of where you are anyway. It is our promise to you that it just gets better and better and better and better and better. And it doesn't take very many like that before all kinds of means to provide all kinds of feet begin to come forth. And you say, "But it's not the kind of foot I wanted. This isn't the kind of foot that I wanted, it's a cumbersome foot." And we say just relax, keep making the best of it. The Universe has the capacity to yield to you such fantastic things that you can't hold the Universe hostage with your distorted bargains. You have to get in sync with well-being in order to live well-being. There are no holds barred here -- you have to say, "Joy is what matters, and I will find joy."


Abraham Hicks: Tarrytown, N.Y., 5/10/03B

Abe on the Belief in Genetic Impossibility

Q: But what about genetics. Why are some crippled and messed up when they arrive? If I could find a way to change my expectation, then could I become taller at age 37? It doesn't bother me being this short now, as it did in the past, but could I change it if I had the desire to do so?

ABE: In that irritative mode you are LOCKED OFF. How about finding ways to prove to yourself that the universe is responding to you, but start with something small. And as you begin to diminish the number of times you do THAT THING THAT YOU DO then you will have absolute control over anything you want to change.

But as you express the desire-- you are really asking "could I do this IMPOSSIBLE thing?" and we say NO. When you desire to do something that you feel is impossible, you are wasting your time. To say I want it and I don't believe it is possible, is not a match. You must be a match to your desire with your BELIEF / EXPECTATION in order to allow it to come.

If you look around you will see evidence all over the place of people who are letting it in and people who are not letting it in. And what they are DOING DOING DOING doesn't have anything to do with what they are GETTING GETTING GETTING. It only matters how they are FEELING FEELING FEELING! SO GET THE STRUGGLE OUT OF THE EXPERIENCE!

When you realize that your life depends, that your very LIFE FORCE depends upon how you feel in any moment, then you will not be so willing to focus upon what feels bad. When you realize that every bit of attention you give to it, LOCKS you OFF.