Abraham advises a Lifeline over a Deadline

Abe: What is Nervousness?

Male Guest: I want you to explain nervousness and how that falls into our relationship to getting things that we want, and why it's there in the first place.

Abraham: Well, nervousness is a manifestation, an indicator, manifestations...because emotions are manifestations, aren't they? It's a manifestation of wanting something that you're not quite vibrationally up to speed with.

Guest: Right.

Abraham: And therefore. IOW, you demonstrated it really well because we were very specific about you, and you just kept turning around and looking behind you. IOW, you were not expectant, not really expectant of something that you want. There are a lot of people really expectant of what they want, so much so that they head this way when we're not even pointing at them. Sometimes we're pointing over there and someone comes from over there because they are so wanting and expecting, and so, we have a question or two for you. How do you think your beliefs or expectations have come to be what they are?

Guest: Trial and error.

Abraham: Good words. There never is any error, but we know what you mean...Trying.. so trial and error.

Guest: Being in the experience, going for it.

Abraham: And what kind of an experience has trained you to not expect what you want?

Guest: Not...?

Abraham: IOW, our we in agreement that nervousness is an active vibration that is to the contrary of something wanted. So what do you think has trained you into a habit of thought, which is just a belief is just a thought you keep thinking, what do you think has trained you into that?

Guest: Well, the interesting thing is I'd be there and I'd set my intention, and I'd visualize what I'd want, and I'd be ready to go for it and allow it, but once I'm in the situation, the nerves comes in for a reason I'm trying to figure out on my own.

Abraham: Well, you just demonstrated that, and that's a wonderful thing, but we want you to try to hear the question that we're asking. What kinds of things cause you to perpetuate a vibration or a belief that prevents you from getting you what you want, now now now now now.

Guest: I'm assuming focusing on the false belief, right?

Abraham: Yeah, but what do you think, this is really good, what do you think, we're just going to enjoy it ourselves, what do you think, what do you think is causing it to be active right now? IOW, you were in a situation where we looked around the room and found you. We wanted you. You wanted to be here and we wanted you. And yet even with us pointing right at you, you couldn't perceive it in that way because there is a belief system within you that is contrary to that, but there was no reason, there was no, here it is, there was no reason for that belief system here and now because something entirely different was happening. 

You wanted to be here. We wanted you to be here. There was no reason for you, in this moment, there was no reason for you to be getting anything other than that except that you've got a habit of vibration that bled into this moment; it bled into this moment and covered up the reality of this moment. 

Guest: Okay.

Abraham: Because your desire was so strong that we found you, and even though we could feel the vibrational variance within you, we knew that we could get you here, and we knew we would have a meaningful conversation; iow, we weren't worried about any of that, but are you getting how good this is?

Iow, so we want to say it again, it is so important:There are many moments in time when you are ready for what you want, you are ready for what's in your vortex, except that in the moment that it begins to flow towards you, you instead let an old vibrational pattern become dominant. Now how would you go about keeping an old vibrational pattern from being dominant now?

Guest: I would love to know that.

Abe: By deliberately practicing new vibrational patterns and then watching the outcome of it until you show yourself that you have vibrational control. By understanding it first of all. By accepting that the Law of Attraction is a powerful law and that it is responding to the way you feel. But there's something we still haven't quite formulated here in the way that it is possible, so let's stay with this because you're not alone in this. Everyone is experiencing this. Because the Big Question is, and it is such a big question:

How do I, in my powerful now, where all my power is, where the junction between me and Me meets, where I have the potential of preparing my vibrational grid to allow myself to be ready for what's in my vortex to flow like water flows downstream into  my experience right now: What is preventing that from happening? 

Old beliefs... Old beliefs that I thought yesterday, old beliefs that I thought last year? Old beliefs that I thought five years ago? No, a belief that is active now. Because you don't store these beliefs up, you gather the propensity for them; IOW, it's more likely for you to do that now because you did it yesterday and the day before and the day before and the day before....it's likely that you will do it. But it's not because you did it that it's happening, it's because you're doing it that its happening. And you have the power to do something different right now. Did you get that? And you have the ability to see it differently if you'll try just a little bit.

An experience like this, you'll never forget this, an experience like this, you've attracted an experience like this where now your belief has shifted. IOW, there are many times you're nearly where you want to be, not quite,  so you nearly have the experience that you want, not quite, but that's why we so much want you to hear us when we say. There are two ways to know whether you're in alignment with what you want and Who You Are or not: One is by the way you feel, and the next it by what happens. So what has this experience demonstrated for you?

Guest: I appreciate this experience because it's helping me shift my beliefs.

Abraham: But what did this experience demonstrate for you? What is the experience? Hundreds of people in the room, you're in the hot seat, what did this experience demonstrate for you?

Guest: Um...

Abraham: I must have been in the vibrational vicinity or I wouldn't be in the hot seat right now. I must have been in the vibrational vicinity. Good for me. Must have been in the vibrational vicinity. So what are the components for being in the vibrational vicinity? How did you prepare yourself for this experience of being in the hot seat?

Guest: Uh, I did my hair. I...

[Audience: Hoots and hollers.]

Abraham: Best. Answer. Ever. You expected be here. IOW, there was more expectation to be in the hot seat than expectation not to be.

Guest: Yes, because I've acquired a lot of grateful knowledge from you, but being here, I get to personally ask you, and it's much more in detail, and it's personal.

Abraham: So I thought about it. I wanted it. I liked the idea of it. I got pretty sure of it. I felt good about it. And in the quiet of my own experience, there wasn't that much to challenge it. So imagined it, I visualized it, I visualized it enough that I wanted to present myself in the way I wanted to... that's all that it is you see. That's what prepaving is.

And the more that you prepave what you want, the less active those old hindering beliefs will be.That's what we're reaching for here. The more you prepave what you want, the more the balance tips, and the hindering beliefs just begin to peter away.

Guest: Personally, I feel the allowing factor the hardest part of the whole process.

Abraham: Well let's talk about what allowing is. Allowing is just a deliberate choosing of a vibration that allows it. We've been calling this the Art of Allowing for quite a long time. And now in the context of this vibrational grid that we are wanting you to focus upon, we'll give a new definition of what allowing is. Allowing of what, first of all?

Allowing my frequency to be in keeping with what's in the vortex in order to allow what's in the vortex to flow to me. Allowing. And so, allowing is about focus. Allowing is about thinking and feeling, thinking and feeling. So, I don't just stumble upon allowing, I practice myself into allowing, that's why we call it an Art not an accident. The accident of allowing. You have those all the time, btw, because there is something that you're observing, but the Art of Allowing, the Art of feeling myself into the frequency of that which I really am, in order to create some outcome? No, in order to feel the deliciousness of allowing my frequency to meet the level of that which I really am, to feel the fullness of Who I Am, the clarity of Who I Am, the fun of Who I Am, the beauty, the brilliance, the stability, the vitality, the On-ness, the Oneness, the Wholeness, the Fullness.

Guest: Right.

Abraham: Good Hair.

[Audience: Applause] 



Excerpted from Seattle, WA 8/26/2012 Workshop 

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Head in the Clouds/Pollyanna vs Dynamic Living

Abraham, Mexican Cruise, 01/23/10:

Guest: I find myself, okay, majority of the time in a really happy place. I don't really look at reality, I just try to be in a place where I feel really good. And so I'm looking for a feeling...

Abraham: Now, we want to just ask you a question, all of you:

So did we make it sound to you like we want you to ignore reality, and just find the feeling place, and then just feel your way around, or did you understand us to say ignore reality because it's easier then to feel your way into the Vortex, then you tune into the whole of Who You Are, and then you give your undivided attention to Life?

That's quite a different subject, isn't it? And some of you aren't quite making the jump. You've got the ignoring the reality part down, and you've got the feeling for something..that's why they call you Pollyanna, but you're sort of, you've got your head in the clouds because you're not really focusing. In other words, we want you to do it all.

We want you to ignore reality long enough to get into the Vortex, knowing that once you are in the Vortex that your undivided attention will cause you then to devour Life.

In other words, when you are conversing with someone who is tuned in and passionate about something, they're not ever accused of being Pollyanna. They're talking about future worlds; they're talking about dynamic things; they're talking about new technology; they're talking about new inventions; they're talking philosophy; they're talking about the best of life; they're talking about how Life is good to them in this way and this way and this way and this way.




We're not suggesting that you go to the Vortex and you sit over dinner and then someone says, "Hi how are you?"

And you say, "Flow and Ease."

And they say, "Did you move into your new house?"

And you say, "Appreciation. Clarity. Blissful."

That's not what we're encouraging. We want you to use the tools to tune in, so that you can give them the real response when someone says, "How are you doing?" and you say, "I have never been better. It's as if everything that I've ever lived is all queued up for this moment." You'll give them a hair blowing back experience, but they won't call you Pollyanna.

Guest: Maybe that was the wrong choice.

Abraham: "I never felt better in my life. Everything is going my way. Abundance is flowing. Ideas are flowing. Books are flowing through me. People are coming everywhere. Anything I want I can be or do or have."

"How are you?"

"Check," they'll say, "Check," but they won't call you 'Pollyanna'.


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Dead or Alive: There is No Separation Between the Vortex and You

Abraham answers a question about what happens to dead people in Sydney, Australia on 12/13/09

Abraham: And everything that you hear us do through the words that we express through Esther, or the books that we express through Esther, every effort that we make to help you understand... is to help you understand the wholeness of you: that we are all in this together,  that there is not a separation between that which you call Physical and that which you call Non-Physical, but for your lackful vibration that deprives you of it.

Now think about what we just said to you. So in this Vortex where all of the aspects of everything that you're asking for are, and where your Inner Being is, where the larger part of you is,  where the solutions to all things that you want are - it is from that vantage point that all new energies come forth -  this Vortex is this vibrational place that you can tune yourself to, and when you tune yourself to it...

And here's the reason that we love this question more than we can convey to you, and the answer even more than we can convey to you  is because when you get into the Vortex, you get to see what Source sees. You'll be the Lover that Source is, you see, and yet you want to make what Source sees entirely different than what you see when you're happy, or than what you see when your elated.

But think about those masters of your society, the Masters of Sport, of the Masters of Music, or the Masters of Art,  or the Masters...those that you revere, those that you see who have tuned themselves to the creative energies and have expressed themselves in the most fantastic ways: What are they painting about, what are they singing about, what are they writing about?  They're writing about what Source sees out here on this Leading Edge It's time to accept the bigness, and the wholeness and the goodness of this Physical World that is an extension of Source, and stop trying to hold out for this "Heaven" that man has conjured that he separates himself from every time he condemns himself for not being good. (applause)

When you get in the Vortex and those things occur to you, those thoughts that are occurring to you are the thoughts of Source. IOW, That's what we were talking about earlier as you choose the feeling and you tune yourself to it. You can tune yourself right in and you can answer for yourself exactly how Source sees and what Source sees, and no words that you'll ever hear from anyone else will ever be anything close to satisfying once you've gotten into the Vortex and you've taken a look and a whiff and listen and a feel and a sniff to what Source sees and hears and smells, you see.


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Trying To Make Things Happen Despite Not Being In the Vortex

Abraham - Asheville, NC 5/29/09

Abraham: If you take a period of time, and you ask more of yourself than is really physically possible, you put stress on yourself. It's just not possible to do it. So you get smarter and sharper and more efficient, but still, if you are not in the vortex, if you are outside the vortex trying to make things happen, then you have this imbalance taking place.

The more you are in the vortex, the more the resources are there for you to expend, but if being in the vortex is not your highest priority, and you are still active and involved, then you just deplete yourself a little bit. And it's the same as not being able to take as much air in as you are breathing out. It's exactly the same thing. So we're really talking about in the vortex-out of the vortex kind of stuff.

So stay with us just a little bit and you'll feel some things click into place. So what if, knowing all you know about being in the vortex, what if you, and others that you know, including Esther, too, what if you're trying to make too much happen outside the vortex? So that you are spending more than is coming in, in essence. So that you're breathing more out than you are breathing in. It's that imbalance that is at the heart of this. It's not about an allergy. It's about over-extension.



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Hate Men? Or Women...but still want a relationship? Good Luck.

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex"- p. 91

She Wants Someone, But Not That One

Jerry: Okay, so what would you say about a woman who seems to feel good about herself, who continues to express her desire for a mate, but who disqualifies them, one by one, as the parade of men moves through her experience?

Abraham: Her desire for a mate keeps the men coming, but her belief in bad relationships causes her to push them away. And her attention to unwanted characteristics makes it impossible for the characteristics that she desires to come her way.

If she is continually focusing upon what she does not like in the men coming to her, her chronic attention to the lack in others is keeping her from being in alignment with Who She Really Is, and under those conditions, she cannot be feeling good about herself or about anyone.

Finding lack in others is not the path to liking what you see in yourself.

If you are a person who has trained yourself to look for positive aspects, you will find them in yourself as well as in others. If you are a person who has trained yourself to look for negative aspects, you will find them in yourself as well as in others. Therefore, it is always accurate to say that no one who is critical of others really likes themselves. It defies Law. Whenever you see those who are very critical of others, you are actually seeing people who do not like themselves.

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Abraham on Inherited Traits

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex"- p. 160

Jerry: But aren't there traits that we pass on to our children? In the same way that physical characteristics are passed on, don't we also pass on other traits?

Abraham: What, specifically, are you thinking about?

Jerry: Like capability of mind, capability of body, abilities, health...How much control does that have over me now?

Abraham: You need not be negatively affected by anything, but when you are negatively influenced, it is because you are allowing your active thought to be one that disallows what you really want.

It is quite common to pass negative expectations on from generation to generation, but at any point, a person who recognizes the discord of that negative thought, who recognizes that the negative emotion means that his Inner Being does not agree, can gradually omit those resistant thoughts, which are at the core of all illnesses, diseases, and negative experiences.

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Abraham on The Vortex

Excerpt from "The Vortex" DVD:

And so..Imagine this Source Energy, let's call it God, you usually do, this Source Energy who is the consensus of what Everyone, even one-celled organisms, have been asking for that would be best for them. Can you imagine a more Equal Opportunity? Can you imagine anything being more right than for there to be a Holder of All Requests and a Pushing Against Nothing? An Environment where what you ask for is always given?

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Find Alignment First and Then Take Action

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex" p. 4-6

In every society of the vast number of societies on your planet today, you have instituted rules, requirements, taboos, laws - along with a great variety of rewards and punishments for conforming or not conforming - as each society seems determined to sort into separate piles the wanted from the unwanted. And although you work very hard at the sorting process, the piles continue to shift around; and you never come even close to a consensus of wanted and unwanted, right and wrong, good and bad.

It is our desire that, as a result of just reading this one book, you will never again require global, community, or even a partner's agreement in order to find your confidence, direction, and power. We want you to remember that the need for agreement from others come from a basis of misunderstanding of the Laws of the Universe and runs counter to who-you-really-are.

It is our desire that, by understanding your own personal Guidance System, you will return to alignment with the power that flows to you and through you. For by your finding agreement with the power that flows forth from within you, the harmony that you seek on all other levels and all other subjects- and with all others - will then (and only then) be possible.

Most people would deem it unwise to load a big clumsy truck, which has a very bad suspension system and a steering mechanism so worn-out that it is almost impossible to keep the truck on the road, with their most precious cargo. Or, most people would deem it unwise to gather a load of precious glass antiques and put them in the carrying basket of the bicycle that their five-year-old son is taking on his first bicycle ride today. Or, most people would deem it unwise to carry a sack containing their life's savings and all of their favorite jewelry and then walk out onto the iced-over lake before they were sure that the ice was actually strong enough to hold their weight.

In other words, it always makes sense to first find fundamental stability before embarking on any journey, especially those journeys that matter most to you. And yet, as people interact with one another on important subjects, they commonly plunge headlong into conversations and decisions and behaviors before they have achieved any sense of true stability, and then the return to stability is often very long in coming. And often, once out of balance, they stumble into the next and then the next and then the next out-of-control experience. Through the examples in this book, it is our desire to help you remember the art of alignment first - then action. Alignment first - then conversation. Alignment first - then interaction. Alignment first - then anything else.

People sometimes say, "Think before you speak." A wise intention, but we would take it further. We would suggest, "Think - and then evaluate the value of that thought by noticing how it feel; and do that often enough that you know, without question, that you are in alignment - then speak, then act, then interact."

Someone who takes the time to understand their relationship with Source, who actively seeks alignment with their Broader Perspective, who deliberately seeks and finds alignment with who-they-really-are, is more charismatic, more attractive, and more effective, and more powerful than a groups of millions who have not achieved that alignment.

The historical masters and healers who you revere understood the value of this personal alignment. And in this book about relationships, we submit to you: There is no relationship of greater importance to achieve than the relationship between you, in your physical body, right here and now, and the Soul/Source/God from which you have come. If you tend to that relationship first and foremost, you will then, and only then, have the stable footing to proceed into other relationships. Your relationships with your own body; your relationship with money; your relationship with your parents, children grandchildren, the people you work with, your government, your world will all fall swiftly and easily into alignment once you tend to this fundamental, primary relationship first.

(c) Abraham - Hicks Publications

When You Think They Won't Help Around the House

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex" p. 34

Jerry: Would you elaborate a little more on ways in which family members could harmoniously share in the responsibilities of common hom maintenance and help with the general flow of the activities of the family, and still maintain their individual feeling of freedom.

Abraham: When you speak of responsibilities, you are usually speaking of action, and we certainly understand that there are plenty of action responsibilities to be shared in the making and managing and maintaining of a home environment. And we also understand how it seems logical to most people that when there are a specific number of things that need to be done and there are a specific number of people to share those tasks, an action regimen seems logical.

The thing that usually goes wrong in such situations is that the people who are assigning the activities of the family are often doing so from a personal place of imbalance - not out of balance because of the amount of work that they are personally doing, but because of the resentment they feel about having to do more than what they feel is their fair share, or the frustration they feel about the work to being done the way they want it to be done.

Even though we are talking about taking action to organize and maintain the home, it is still necessary to find personal alignment first. Which leads us to another flawed premise:

Flawed Premise #7: With enough effort, or hard work, I can accomplish anything.

When you are Vibrationally out of balance with your desired results, there is not enough action in the world to compensate. Without working to achieve Vibrational alignment with what you really want, but instead, offering action to push against, or fix existing problems, the Law of Attraction will bring you a steady stream of problems to fix - and you will never get out ahead of them. If you are focused upon problems - the Law of Attraction will bring problems to you faster than you can fix them. If you are focused upon a disorganized home - the Law of Attraction will bring more experiences of disorder, disruption, and problems than you can keep up with.

In simple terms, the power of the Law of Attraction's response to your Vibration will always be stronger than your ability to keep up in terms of action. You just cannot get there from there. The only way to bring order to your life or your home - or your relationships - is to tap the powerful leverage of Energy alignment. And when you do, things that were formerly a struggles will seems to flow effortlessly.

. You have to let go of the struggles nad focus upon the end result that you are seeking. You have to find the feeling-place of a cooperative home that is organized and good-feeling before you can inspire that behavior from others. The people in your life will always give you exactly what you expect. No exceptions.

Many people tell us that they believe that their negative expectations were born from observing negative behavior, and not the other way around. "I didn't expect my son to refuse to take out the garbage until he consistently refused to take out the garbage."

You can find yourself in an endless loop where you explain that you feel negative because of the negative behavior of someone else. But if, instead, you take control of your own emotions and you think and improved thought because it feels better to do so, you will discover that no matter how the negative trend got started, you can turn it around. You have no real control of what anyone else is doing with their Vibration (or with their actions, for that matter), but you have complete control over your own thoughts, Vibrations, emotions, and point of attraction.

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Abraham's 30-Minute Energy Alignment Process

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex" p. 39

Find things in your immediate vicinity--such as your bed, your bed linens, and your pillow--to direct your appreciation toward. Then set your intention to sleep well and to awaken refreshed. When you find yourself awake in the morning, like in more appreciation for at least five minutes, and then refresh yourself by bathing and eating. Then, sit for 15 minutes and quiet your mind. Feel whatever resistance you may have fall away, and feel your Vibration rise. Then open your eyes, and sit for five or ten minutes writing a list of things you appreciate about your life.

In doing this Energy-alignment work, your point of attraction will not only yield to you activities and rendezvous with good-feeling people, places, and things - but your ability to experience the delicious depth of them will be dramatically enhanced. Rather than doing things and going places to try and make yourself feel good, deliberately get to feeling good - and let those things and people and places come to you. It is possible that once you come into alignment with who-you-really-are, you will gravitate to a different relationship. But it is also likely that the relationship that you are already in was attracted from your point of being in alignment to begin with, and now that you have achieved alignment again, it will renew itself for you.

If you entered your current relationship from a place of mostly-alignment, its potential for returning to a wonderful feeling-place is great. If you entered this relationship because you were in the process of escaping form something unpleasant, then the basis of this relationship may be more about what you do not want than about what you do want.

In any case, getting yourself feeling good before you take any action is always the best process; and when you do not feel good, you cannot be inspired to any action that will solve the problem

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What if One Doesn't Want the Relationship to End?

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex", p. 39-40

Jerry: But what if your desires are really different from those of your mate? What if one of you has decided to bring your relationship to an end and the other wants it to continue?

Abraham: We understand how that may seem like "different desires," but actually there is a powerful mutual desire at the heart of what both people want: the desire to feel better. One believes that the action of separation is the most likely path to feeling better, while the other believes that staying together is the path.

Let us begin this discussion by pointing out another flawed premise, which is a big part of thte basis of confusion on this issue:

Flawed Premise #9: The path to my joy is through my action. When I am feeling bad, I can get to a better-feeling place by taking action. I can focus upon a situation that I think is the reason I am feeling bad, and walk away from it. And once away from it, I will feel better. I can get to what I want by leaving what I don't want.

The positive moments you may have once felt within your relationship were not about the harmony you found with each other (that now seems to be gone), but instead about your own alignment with who-you-really-are. It is true that it is easier for you to be in alignment with yourself when you are not focused upon unwanted things. So a person near you who is pleasing to you can serve as a positive object of attention, causing no distraction from your alignment. But the belief that another person is "making" you happy is incorrect. Your happiness is your natural state of being. The correct understanding is that you are using this currently pleasant person as your reason not to focus yourself away from who-you-really-are; while, in your state of unhappiness, you may be using this currently unpleasant person as your reason to focus yourself away from who-you-are.

Your true happiness happens when you discover that no one other than yourself is responsible for the way you feel. If you believe that others are responsible for the way you feel, you are in true bondage, because you cannot control how they behave or how they feel.

It is natural that you would want to remove yourself from things that do not feel good, but in an inclusion-based Universe that is not possible. You cannot focus upon unwanted things- and therefore activate the unwanted in your Vibration--and get away from it, because the pulling power of the Law of Attraction is stronger than any action that you may offer.

As you walk away from one unpleasant situation, the Law of Attraction will bring another that feels very much like it, and usually quickly. You just cannot get there from there. To get to where you want to be - that place of feeling better - you have to reach for alignment between you and You.

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How Can One Move from Disharmony to Harmony?

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex", p. 64

Jerry: If you were a child born into a disharmonious environment - or even an employee finding yourself in an unpleasant work environment - how could you remain in such a situation and still maintain a positive personal life experience?

Abraham: The first thing we would encourage you to do is to lay low, so to speak. Try to be as inconspicuous as possible in your awareness of the disharmony. In fact, do your best to be unaware of the disharmony, because in actually being unaware of the disharmony, there will be no active Vibration of it present within you, and the Law of Attraction will then leave you out of any discordant rendezvous.

But if, instead, you are aware of the unpleasant occurrences - if you seek to quell the injustices by drawing attention to them - then you activate a Vibration within you that draws you closer into the unpleasant mix. If, from your point of view, you identify wrongdoing and you point it out, those participating in the behavior you believe is wrong will rise up larger and push back at you in an attempt to convince you that it is really your point of view that is wrong. Then you push back, and they push back, and the discord looms larger while both sides are deprived of any lasting solution.

All contrast causes an asking for improvement by all parties involved, but usually those involved are pushing so hard against someone else that they render themselves incapable of seeing the solution, even though it may be quite near.

Seeing what you do not want until you can no longer stand it, and then leaving the situation and going somewhere else, does not bring a lasting solution, because the reason you left is the dominant Vibration within you, which means more scenarios like the one you just walked away from are making their way into your experiences again. In other words, you did not change your point of attraction by moving to a new location, to a new job, or to a new relationship.

It may sound odd, but the fastest way to get to a new-and-improved situation is to make peace with your current situation. By making lists of the most positive aspects you can find about your current situaiton, you then release your resistance to the improvements that are waiting for you. But if you rail against the injustices of your current situation, you hold yourself in Vibrational alignment wiht wha tyou do not want, and you cannot then move in the direction fo improvement. It defies Law.

Since a powerful desire for improvement is always born out of unpleasant situations, the larger part of you is already experiencing the benefit of the contrast you have lived, and you can - much more easily than many of you believe - begin, right now, to receive the benefit of that contrast. It may not be easy at first, but it really is as simple as making the best of wher eyou are.

In every particle of the Universe, there is that which is wanted - and that lack of it. By making a decision to orient yourself to look for what is wanted, you will change your Vibrational patterns of resistance, and it will not be possible to remain in unwanted situations for long periods of time.

Jerry: So, a child could be negatively influence by a parent, but that doesn't have to be a continuing influence through the adult life of the child, does it? In other words, that's an individual decision that can be made, at any time, by that child who is now an adult?

Abraham: It is clear, by the way you have worded your questions here, that you believe that the small child has little or no control in relationship to the older, bigger adult. And so, you are delaying your expectation of things getting better for this child until he become an adult and can gain control of his own life and make his own decisions.

(c) Abraham Hicks

Abe Classic: When You Both Want Different Things

Abraham-Hicks, St. Petersburg, Florida March 12, 1994

We were visiting with a woman, recently, and she said, “Abraham, what do you do when you want one thing and your mate wants exactly the opposite? How do you ever resolve it? Doesn’t one or the other of you have to give up something that you want?”

And we said, “What’s this about?”

And she said, “My husband is close to retiring and he wants to live in this house for the rest of our lives, and I want to move out of this house and out of this town. And I’m as sure that I want to leave, as he is that he wants to stay.”

We said, “Give us more information. Why do you want to leave?”

She said, "The town is very small. It’s very narrow-minded. There would never be a gathering like this in this town.” She had travelled about 80 miles for the gathering. She said, “I am bored in this town. I don’t have any very close friends in this town. I don’t feel at home in this town. I feel that I’m being smothered in this town.”

We said, “Why does your husband want to stay?”

She said, “Because he’s close to retirement and he knows that our income will diminish, and the house is nearly paid for and he does not want to go out and buy another house in another area. We’ve had this house for many years, so we’d have to pay a lot more for our next house, which means we would owe a lot more, which means our payments would be a lot higher, which means we wouldn’t have the money for the security that we are wanting. And he has done a lot of work around this place. He has the gardens the way he wants them and the garage is organized the way he wants it.”

And we said, “Can you hear what both of you are doing? Both of you, from your predominant place of knowing what you do not want, are trying to make a decision and encourage the other one to go along with it, and you have no power. The Universe is not helping either one of you, so you’re just sort of wallowing in this place of discontent, both of you.

And then we said, in an attempt to bring her from the peripheral, where the issues were about action, to come to the center of the wheel where she is already in harmony with her mate. “Does your mate disagree with you trying to find more uplifting, enlightening seminars like this one?” She said, “No, not at all. He encourages me to go wherever I’m wanting to go, to have those experiences.”

And we said, “Did you have a miserable journey as you left your home and came all this way to this gathering?” She said, “Actually, no, it was one of the better days of my life. It is springtime, everything is beautiful, I had a glorious time on my journey to this place.”

We said, “Are you at odds with your husband’s wanting financial security and Well-being?” She said, “Oh, not at all. I want him to feel financially secure.” We said, “Are you uncomfortable in living in a house that is well organized where the gardens are manicured? Are you uncomfortable with living in a house that is paid for?” “Not at all,” she said, “that’s why I had enough extra money that I could come and do this.”

And as we chatted, a little bit, she began to realize that they are both much more in harmony than they are not in harmony when they got to the deeper, more important issues.

And we said, “Once you find that place of connection, that place of love, that place of appreciation, once you find that place, then, together, in your state of connection, you will be inspired to action—and, moreover, you will be vibrationally in a place of allowing the Universe to deliver to you that which will please both of you out there on the peripheral.”

In other words, in that vibration, more people in her town, that are like she is in her thinking, can begin to gravitate to her. And her mate, in his more connection as a result of their harmony, would find himself feeling more secure, and in his feeling more secure, he might be willing to roam more, he might be willing to go out and explore the world a little more with her.