Monogamy: Is It Natural or Unnatural?

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex"- pp. 136-7

Questioner: Where I'm stuck is on the whole issue of monogamy. That is the way I was raised, and so I assume that that's a value of mine, but I've noticed a lot of pain and fear associated with it. First of all, you have to find someone who wants the same thing, and then you have to control that person's wanting, which is not fun by itself, and . . .

Abraham: Not only is it not fun to attempt to control over another, it is not possible. People often believe that what they really want is just some final ruling on the rightness or wrongness of monogamy so that they could then keep the rule or break the rule, but at least they would know what the rule is. And so, in your societies that rule had moved back and forth many times. It varies today depending upon what part of the world you are living in. But we want you to understand that it was never your intention as you came into the physical from Non-Physical to find one way of living and convince or coerce all others to abide. You understood that the world is big enough to accommodate vast difference in desires, beliefs, and the creation of lifestyles.

Which brings us to the first point of this question: I need to find someone who wants what I want. Coming together with another who is in agreement with the desires that you hold does make for good relationships. And, surely it is obvious that there are enough people with whom you share your planet that it should to be too difficult to find someone who is a match to you and what you want. But the thing that hinders most people - as they are looking to find that other person who matches the things they desire - is that they cannot find that person unless they themselves are a match to their own desires.

People who worry about finding someone who will remain true to them cannot find such a person because the most active thoughts within them are worrisome thoughts of betrayal. People are finding it difficult to find the mate of their dreams not because that person is not out there, but because of their own contradiction to their own desire in the thoughts they offer about the subject every day.

When you consistently offer thoughts about your future relationship that feel good while you think them, that means you are consistently matching the desires that you have discovered as your have lived life. And under those conditions, only someone in agreement with your desires could come to you. Under those conditions, no need for control is necessary.

Questioner: So is it out "natural" nature to have only one relationship over a lifetime? Or is that something that was imposed on use by culture or religion?

Abraham: It was your intent ot interact with many others on many subjects. And whether you choose the subject of sexuality ot be something that you experience with only one, or whether it is something taht you want to experience with more than one, or with many, it is an individual thing. And your ideas about it are continually changing.

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Abraham on The Vortex

Excerpt from "The Vortex" DVD:

And so..Imagine this Source Energy, let's call it God, you usually do, this Source Energy who is the consensus of what Everyone, even one-celled organisms, have been asking for that would be best for them. Can you imagine a more Equal Opportunity? Can you imagine anything being more right than for there to be a Holder of All Requests and a Pushing Against Nothing? An Environment where what you ask for is always given?

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Why Does the Media Broadcast Pain, but Censor Pleasure?

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex" p. 135-6

Jerry: I also notice that in our culture it seems perfectly appropriate for television and movies to depict the maiming of people, and destruction and gore- anything horrible as far as destroying the human body- while it seems inappropriate to show human sexuality and pleasure. I've never understood why our culture has come to the place where it can stand hate and anger and pain, but doesn't want to see pleasure.

Abraham: It is not a matter of their wanting to see hate, anger, and pain, and not wanting to see pleasure. In fact, the opposite of that is true: people do want to feel good, and they want to see things that are successful and beautiful and pleasurable.

Many people are attracting to thmselves unwanted things by virtue of their atettention to those unwanted things. A misunderstanding of the Laws of the Universe is at the heart of this conversation as the people of your society wage wars against the things they do not want: war against terror, war against AIDs, war against teenage pregnancy, war against violence, war against cancer - adn every one of those things is getting bigger because attention to unwanted creates more unwanted.

Your moviemakers, whether they understand the Law of Attraction or not, understand that people do gravitate more toward viewing unwanted things than wanted. And we sumbit that the reason that is true is because there are strong active Vibrations in most people about what they do not want. If you were to engage the average person in coversation about what is going on with his life, you would find him much more articulate in expressing the things that are not working well - things that are unjust and things that need to be changed than he would be able to express the aeauty of his life and world.

Also, once you have decided that the world is leaning toward anger and hate, you are no longer a Vibrational Match to the beauty of the wolrd- and the world, as you attract, then leans in the direction of your belief. Anyone who begins to make list of the positive aspects of the world around them will train their Vibartion and therefore their own point of attraction to more of that.

Meanwhile, the people who make movies will continue to make the movies that people are attracting from them. We would like to help you remember that if you are waiting around for your society to get straightened out before you have a happy life experience, you will have a very long wait. If you are waiting for anybody else in your epxiernce to get straightened out before you ahve a happy experience you will have a very long wait.

You are not here to discover that which is perfect. You are here to create or to attract that which is perfect. As the contrast of your life, and even of what you are calling unpleasant movies, helps you know what you do not want, you also understand more clearly what you do want. Focus upon what you do want, become a Vibrational Match to what you do want, train your point of attraction to what you do want, and watch your personal world become that.

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Until You Leverage Alignment, Not Much Will Happen Financially

Abraham-Hicks, Asheville, NC - 10/21/06

There are people who are earning, all around this world, so disproportionate to the action that they are offering that you could not possibly reconcile the wealth that's flowing to them. You just can't reconcile it. There are a majority of people that are accustomed to performing an action and receiving a financial response. Performing an action and receiving a financial response, and when your income is tied to an action, the amount that you can receive, proportionately, is miniscule.

When you're trying to make it happen by performing an action, you are limited by the beliefs that you have about time and space. In other words, you will say "I only make this much per hour and there's only this many hours in a day." And then you can work overtime, and you can work double time, and you can work extra time, and you can leverage your time in different ways, but until you leverage through alignment, you really are in the category with millions of other people where not very much is gonna happen.

Where if you say "I'm willing to play the game differently, I'm willing to accept on faith, maybe a little, that Abraham's right and that all of the struggling that I've done has put a lot of money for me in vibrational escrow, and I'm willing to go on faith that this universe is abundance and that there is an open valve for me through which I can receive abundance. I'm willing to go along with that idea. And I'm willing to play it that way for just a little while where instead of considering action in relationship to money, I instead consider emotion in relationship to money. How do I feel about money? How do I feel about money? I'm gonna leverage through emotion rather than bang it out through action."

Now that doesn't mean stop your action. Go to work, do whatever you need to do. Let the money come in in the little, mediocre, pitiful way that it flows into your experience. In other words, you don't want to pinch that off. Let it come. But while it's coming, appreciate it. While it's coming, look forward to it. While it's coming, compliment yourself and compliment others. In other words let it be an energy game while you're living the action game, because you can do both. It doesn't have to be one or the other.

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Find Alignment First and Then Take Action

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex" p. 4-6

In every society of the vast number of societies on your planet today, you have instituted rules, requirements, taboos, laws - along with a great variety of rewards and punishments for conforming or not conforming - as each society seems determined to sort into separate piles the wanted from the unwanted. And although you work very hard at the sorting process, the piles continue to shift around; and you never come even close to a consensus of wanted and unwanted, right and wrong, good and bad.

It is our desire that, as a result of just reading this one book, you will never again require global, community, or even a partner's agreement in order to find your confidence, direction, and power. We want you to remember that the need for agreement from others come from a basis of misunderstanding of the Laws of the Universe and runs counter to who-you-really-are.

It is our desire that, by understanding your own personal Guidance System, you will return to alignment with the power that flows to you and through you. For by your finding agreement with the power that flows forth from within you, the harmony that you seek on all other levels and all other subjects- and with all others - will then (and only then) be possible.

Most people would deem it unwise to load a big clumsy truck, which has a very bad suspension system and a steering mechanism so worn-out that it is almost impossible to keep the truck on the road, with their most precious cargo. Or, most people would deem it unwise to gather a load of precious glass antiques and put them in the carrying basket of the bicycle that their five-year-old son is taking on his first bicycle ride today. Or, most people would deem it unwise to carry a sack containing their life's savings and all of their favorite jewelry and then walk out onto the iced-over lake before they were sure that the ice was actually strong enough to hold their weight.

In other words, it always makes sense to first find fundamental stability before embarking on any journey, especially those journeys that matter most to you. And yet, as people interact with one another on important subjects, they commonly plunge headlong into conversations and decisions and behaviors before they have achieved any sense of true stability, and then the return to stability is often very long in coming. And often, once out of balance, they stumble into the next and then the next and then the next out-of-control experience. Through the examples in this book, it is our desire to help you remember the art of alignment first - then action. Alignment first - then conversation. Alignment first - then interaction. Alignment first - then anything else.

People sometimes say, "Think before you speak." A wise intention, but we would take it further. We would suggest, "Think - and then evaluate the value of that thought by noticing how it feel; and do that often enough that you know, without question, that you are in alignment - then speak, then act, then interact."

Someone who takes the time to understand their relationship with Source, who actively seeks alignment with their Broader Perspective, who deliberately seeks and finds alignment with who-they-really-are, is more charismatic, more attractive, and more effective, and more powerful than a groups of millions who have not achieved that alignment.

The historical masters and healers who you revere understood the value of this personal alignment. And in this book about relationships, we submit to you: There is no relationship of greater importance to achieve than the relationship between you, in your physical body, right here and now, and the Soul/Source/God from which you have come. If you tend to that relationship first and foremost, you will then, and only then, have the stable footing to proceed into other relationships. Your relationships with your own body; your relationship with money; your relationship with your parents, children grandchildren, the people you work with, your government, your world will all fall swiftly and easily into alignment once you tend to this fundamental, primary relationship first.

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When You Think They Won't Help Around the House

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex" p. 34

Jerry: Would you elaborate a little more on ways in which family members could harmoniously share in the responsibilities of common hom maintenance and help with the general flow of the activities of the family, and still maintain their individual feeling of freedom.

Abraham: When you speak of responsibilities, you are usually speaking of action, and we certainly understand that there are plenty of action responsibilities to be shared in the making and managing and maintaining of a home environment. And we also understand how it seems logical to most people that when there are a specific number of things that need to be done and there are a specific number of people to share those tasks, an action regimen seems logical.

The thing that usually goes wrong in such situations is that the people who are assigning the activities of the family are often doing so from a personal place of imbalance - not out of balance because of the amount of work that they are personally doing, but because of the resentment they feel about having to do more than what they feel is their fair share, or the frustration they feel about the work to being done the way they want it to be done.

Even though we are talking about taking action to organize and maintain the home, it is still necessary to find personal alignment first. Which leads us to another flawed premise:

Flawed Premise #7: With enough effort, or hard work, I can accomplish anything.

When you are Vibrationally out of balance with your desired results, there is not enough action in the world to compensate. Without working to achieve Vibrational alignment with what you really want, but instead, offering action to push against, or fix existing problems, the Law of Attraction will bring you a steady stream of problems to fix - and you will never get out ahead of them. If you are focused upon problems - the Law of Attraction will bring problems to you faster than you can fix them. If you are focused upon a disorganized home - the Law of Attraction will bring more experiences of disorder, disruption, and problems than you can keep up with.

In simple terms, the power of the Law of Attraction's response to your Vibration will always be stronger than your ability to keep up in terms of action. You just cannot get there from there. The only way to bring order to your life or your home - or your relationships - is to tap the powerful leverage of Energy alignment. And when you do, things that were formerly a struggles will seems to flow effortlessly.

. You have to let go of the struggles nad focus upon the end result that you are seeking. You have to find the feeling-place of a cooperative home that is organized and good-feeling before you can inspire that behavior from others. The people in your life will always give you exactly what you expect. No exceptions.

Many people tell us that they believe that their negative expectations were born from observing negative behavior, and not the other way around. "I didn't expect my son to refuse to take out the garbage until he consistently refused to take out the garbage."

You can find yourself in an endless loop where you explain that you feel negative because of the negative behavior of someone else. But if, instead, you take control of your own emotions and you think and improved thought because it feels better to do so, you will discover that no matter how the negative trend got started, you can turn it around. You have no real control of what anyone else is doing with their Vibration (or with their actions, for that matter), but you have complete control over your own thoughts, Vibrations, emotions, and point of attraction.

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Abraham's 30-Minute Energy Alignment Process

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex" p. 39

Find things in your immediate vicinity--such as your bed, your bed linens, and your pillow--to direct your appreciation toward. Then set your intention to sleep well and to awaken refreshed. When you find yourself awake in the morning, like in more appreciation for at least five minutes, and then refresh yourself by bathing and eating. Then, sit for 15 minutes and quiet your mind. Feel whatever resistance you may have fall away, and feel your Vibration rise. Then open your eyes, and sit for five or ten minutes writing a list of things you appreciate about your life.

In doing this Energy-alignment work, your point of attraction will not only yield to you activities and rendezvous with good-feeling people, places, and things - but your ability to experience the delicious depth of them will be dramatically enhanced. Rather than doing things and going places to try and make yourself feel good, deliberately get to feeling good - and let those things and people and places come to you. It is possible that once you come into alignment with who-you-really-are, you will gravitate to a different relationship. But it is also likely that the relationship that you are already in was attracted from your point of being in alignment to begin with, and now that you have achieved alignment again, it will renew itself for you.

If you entered your current relationship from a place of mostly-alignment, its potential for returning to a wonderful feeling-place is great. If you entered this relationship because you were in the process of escaping form something unpleasant, then the basis of this relationship may be more about what you do not want than about what you do want.

In any case, getting yourself feeling good before you take any action is always the best process; and when you do not feel good, you cannot be inspired to any action that will solve the problem

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