What if One Doesn't Want the Relationship to End?

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex", p. 39-40

Jerry: But what if your desires are really different from those of your mate? What if one of you has decided to bring your relationship to an end and the other wants it to continue?

Abraham: We understand how that may seem like "different desires," but actually there is a powerful mutual desire at the heart of what both people want: the desire to feel better. One believes that the action of separation is the most likely path to feeling better, while the other believes that staying together is the path.

Let us begin this discussion by pointing out another flawed premise, which is a big part of thte basis of confusion on this issue:

Flawed Premise #9: The path to my joy is through my action. When I am feeling bad, I can get to a better-feeling place by taking action. I can focus upon a situation that I think is the reason I am feeling bad, and walk away from it. And once away from it, I will feel better. I can get to what I want by leaving what I don't want.

The positive moments you may have once felt within your relationship were not about the harmony you found with each other (that now seems to be gone), but instead about your own alignment with who-you-really-are. It is true that it is easier for you to be in alignment with yourself when you are not focused upon unwanted things. So a person near you who is pleasing to you can serve as a positive object of attention, causing no distraction from your alignment. But the belief that another person is "making" you happy is incorrect. Your happiness is your natural state of being. The correct understanding is that you are using this currently pleasant person as your reason not to focus yourself away from who-you-really-are; while, in your state of unhappiness, you may be using this currently unpleasant person as your reason to focus yourself away from who-you-are.

Your true happiness happens when you discover that no one other than yourself is responsible for the way you feel. If you believe that others are responsible for the way you feel, you are in true bondage, because you cannot control how they behave or how they feel.

It is natural that you would want to remove yourself from things that do not feel good, but in an inclusion-based Universe that is not possible. You cannot focus upon unwanted things- and therefore activate the unwanted in your Vibration--and get away from it, because the pulling power of the Law of Attraction is stronger than any action that you may offer.

As you walk away from one unpleasant situation, the Law of Attraction will bring another that feels very much like it, and usually quickly. You just cannot get there from there. To get to where you want to be - that place of feeling better - you have to reach for alignment between you and You.

(c) Abraham-Hicks Publications

How Can One Move from Disharmony to Harmony?

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex", p. 64

Jerry: If you were a child born into a disharmonious environment - or even an employee finding yourself in an unpleasant work environment - how could you remain in such a situation and still maintain a positive personal life experience?

Abraham: The first thing we would encourage you to do is to lay low, so to speak. Try to be as inconspicuous as possible in your awareness of the disharmony. In fact, do your best to be unaware of the disharmony, because in actually being unaware of the disharmony, there will be no active Vibration of it present within you, and the Law of Attraction will then leave you out of any discordant rendezvous.

But if, instead, you are aware of the unpleasant occurrences - if you seek to quell the injustices by drawing attention to them - then you activate a Vibration within you that draws you closer into the unpleasant mix. If, from your point of view, you identify wrongdoing and you point it out, those participating in the behavior you believe is wrong will rise up larger and push back at you in an attempt to convince you that it is really your point of view that is wrong. Then you push back, and they push back, and the discord looms larger while both sides are deprived of any lasting solution.

All contrast causes an asking for improvement by all parties involved, but usually those involved are pushing so hard against someone else that they render themselves incapable of seeing the solution, even though it may be quite near.

Seeing what you do not want until you can no longer stand it, and then leaving the situation and going somewhere else, does not bring a lasting solution, because the reason you left is the dominant Vibration within you, which means more scenarios like the one you just walked away from are making their way into your experiences again. In other words, you did not change your point of attraction by moving to a new location, to a new job, or to a new relationship.

It may sound odd, but the fastest way to get to a new-and-improved situation is to make peace with your current situation. By making lists of the most positive aspects you can find about your current situaiton, you then release your resistance to the improvements that are waiting for you. But if you rail against the injustices of your current situation, you hold yourself in Vibrational alignment wiht wha tyou do not want, and you cannot then move in the direction fo improvement. It defies Law.

Since a powerful desire for improvement is always born out of unpleasant situations, the larger part of you is already experiencing the benefit of the contrast you have lived, and you can - much more easily than many of you believe - begin, right now, to receive the benefit of that contrast. It may not be easy at first, but it really is as simple as making the best of wher eyou are.

In every particle of the Universe, there is that which is wanted - and that lack of it. By making a decision to orient yourself to look for what is wanted, you will change your Vibrational patterns of resistance, and it will not be possible to remain in unwanted situations for long periods of time.

Jerry: So, a child could be negatively influence by a parent, but that doesn't have to be a continuing influence through the adult life of the child, does it? In other words, that's an individual decision that can be made, at any time, by that child who is now an adult?

Abraham: It is clear, by the way you have worded your questions here, that you believe that the small child has little or no control in relationship to the older, bigger adult. And so, you are delaying your expectation of things getting better for this child until he become an adult and can gain control of his own life and make his own decisions.

(c) Abraham Hicks

Are You Blessed with a Difficult Child? Or Are You a Difficult Child?

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex", p. 64

Many children are able to hold to their Broader Perspective even amidst strong human influence. They are often labeled by their parents and teachers as "problematic" or "troubled" children. They are often deemed "stubborn" and "incapable of learning," but we want you to know that a determination to guide oneself, and follow one's personal guidance, is an inherent intention that all are born with. Many are coming into physical form with an even more powerful intention of remaining connected to their own Broader Perspective, and the physical people who surround them are finding them less easy to dissuade from their own determinations. That is a good thing.

Many people have been socialized, in the sense that they commonly seek the approval of others, and they often live very difficult lives because it is no simple task to determine which, of the influential people who surround them, they should bend to.

And many people who have spent many years making an effort to fit in, to not make trouble, and to find approval from others finally reach the point of recognizing the futility of it, because no matter how hard they try to please others, the list of those who are not pleased with them remains longer than the list of those who are pleased. And who gets to decide what the right way of living is, anyway?

You are living in the wonderful time of Awakening. This is the time when more people will come into conscious realization of their own value. It is the time when fewer people will attempt the impossible task of pushing the unwanted far enough away that they will be left with only that which is wanted. It is the time when more people will come to the realization that what they have been long seeking is not a change in the behavior of others, or in the world outside of them -- over which they have no control -- but, instead, an understanding of their own Vibrational relationship with Source, over which they have complete control.

(c) Abraham Hicks Publications

What Is Our Greatest Value to Those in Need?

Excerpt from Abraham's latest book "The Vortex" (p. 59-60).

Jerry: If we see a friend in a negative situation, living something truly unwanted or without something the person very much does want, how can we help? IOW, how can we be of an advantage to others rather than a disadvantage?

Abraham: Whether your friend is feeling negative emotion because of the situation he is in, or whether you are feeling negative emotion because of your awareness of the situation your friend is in, neither of you is aligned with your Broader Perspective. Your awareness of your friend's problem is a true disadvantage to him, because you are amplifying the Vibration of the problem and therefore adding to it.

Often your friend draws you into keener awareness of the problem by continually discussing specific aspects of it, but with every moment of attention that you give to your friend's problem, the further from really helping him you are.

In this contrasting world in which you are focused, any attention to your problems does cause you to Vibrationally ask for solutions, and those solutions do begin lining up for you. And so, you could actually add to the power with which your friend is asking for solutions by dicussing the specifics of the problem, but he does not need help in amplifying his problems in order to intensify his asking. That is a natural process that the contrast of the Universe provides...There is no reason to deliberately stir up problems in order to stir up solutions.

You are of no discernible assistance to your troubled friend unless you are able to focus in the direction of the solution, in the direction of what he wants, or in the direction of what you desire for him. If you are determined to feel good and are able to focus in this direction of improvement for him despite his continual prodding at his problem, your power of influence toward improvement will be powerful. IOW, when you focus in the direction of the solutions you join forces with your own Inner Being, with his Inner Being, and with all of the cooperative components that the Law of Attraction has already assembled. If you allow yourself to be the sounding board for your friend's problems, your power of influence will be paltry, and you will be of no value to your friend.

But something even more troubling is now occurring: Your friend's problem not only launched rockets of desire into his Vibrational Reality, but your association with him and your focus has caused you to launch rockets of desire about your friend into your Vibrational Reality. IOW, this experience has caused an expansion in you, and if you do not focus in the direction of your expansion- if you do not focus on the possible improvement for your friend- you will pull against your own expansion.

It is important to realize that the negative emotion that you often feel when you are worried about a troubled friend is actually present because your focus is pulling you apart form yourself. Your friend may be the reason for your focus, but your friend is not the reason you are pulling against yourself. Your focus is the reason for that.

Looking for positive aspects and expecting good outcomes for your friends in the only way you can be of value to them for there is no action that you can offer that is strong enough to buck your current of negative attention.

(c) Abraham Hicks Publications

Abraham on the News

Abraham-Hicks, San Francisco, CA 8/9/03

When you turn on your television and the network news and it shows you what it has to offer, it is not even handed. It's not even close to being proportional to the well being and not well being.

It is so drastically distorted as it goes all over the planet and finds pockets of things it knows you will worry about and brings it to you.

So as you watch the evening news -- or whenever you are watching it, sometimes you can watch it all day -- as you watch the news, do you notice how they scour the planet for negative stuff to show you and can you feel the disproportion as you say "I've never seen anything like that in my life. I know it must exist somewhere but why am I thinking about it now? What does that person – wherever they are, making it their truth – have to do with me? And why are they telling me about it?"

Well, they are telling you about it because they don't understand Law of Attraction. They understand ratings. They understand that if they can get you worried enough about something you'll probably watch it and that's really what we want to talk about here today.

What is it that causes you to focus upon worrisome truth rather than pleasant fantasy? Or even pleasant truth?

Oh, we'll tell you, we won't torture you. (audience laughter) It's because most of you even those of you who are here who have been listening to us for a while, still believe that there is assertion and there is a source of bad stuff that'll get you if you don't watch out. That's the whole premise of the news. In other words, 'There's bad stuff out there and we're going to alert you about it."

Now this has been brought to absolute absurdity as they put those color codes up for you.

"It is a very high alert today. You know what to do." (audience laughter) "Worry!" Disallow well being. Fuss over something you can't do anything about until you've pinched off your well being and become part of their statistic which gives them the justification to put up another warning.

They mean well, they're just stupid (audience laughter). They don't understand Law of Attraction. If they meant well and understood Law of Attraction what they would be displaying are things that would induce good feelings within you. They'd say, "Oh, the world is beautiful place today. And while there are pockets that are not going so well we won't talk about them because they are so much in the minority and let's emphasize, all of us together, what's working, so that we can establish a vibrational pattern within those that we love that will attract only that which is well being."

Because well being is the order of all things, they would say to you.

Well being is the source that flows and unless you are doing something that pinches the source of well being off, you will thrive."

Harmony in Relationships

Abraham-Hicks - Asheville, NC, 09/05/98

Abraham: You have more harmony points with every person on the planet than you have disharmony points, because there is much more of you that is in harmony with your Core than you realize or that most of you allow. The closer you come to being in harmony with your Source Energy, the more in harmony you are with each other.

When you think about other people and what they think of you, do you understand that what they think of you has very little to do with what you are? It has mostly to do with the habits of thought that they have developed. It has more to do with them as thinkers than it does with you as the subject of their thought.

If nothing is more important to you than that you feel good, you can form a fantasy about someone who is in your life and they will begin to modify to meet your fantasy, because Law of Attraction is a very powerful thing.

Post NDE: To Achieve a Similar State in the Physical

Abraham-Hicks, Cincinnati, OH 9/24/03

Q: I died a couple of years ago…(near death experience). Now I don’t know how to feel as happy here as I felt there.

Abraham: ... Now you know the goal. You know how happy you are, and you know how happy you want to be. And that’s what you have come to express.

Guest: But the thing is that here is so not… allowing, or something…

Abraham: We know it seems that way, but it’s only the perceptions you’ve picked up. In other words, in that re-emergence into non-physical you left behind all of your limiting perceptions. And so, now your work is about one by one releasing the limiting perceptions, and it is our promise that you can be as happy here as you were there. And now you have this fabulous experience of knowing what you are reaching for.

And think about it in light of what we have been talking about here today. It is not about achieving something, it is not about going somewhere, it is not about being with someone. It’s a state of being, isn’t it? It’s the feeling. It’s the feeling! Can you feel how, as we’ve been moving through emotions here today, can you feel how what you are wanting to do is to move from where ever you are, which is feeling pretty darned good, to that fabulous goal that you now have which is feeling really, really, really good? …

We want to show you how to step here and step here and step here and step here, and then you say, “Hey, this is as good as being dead!!!” [laughter]

© 1997-2005 Abraham-Hicks